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To Kick Her Out Of My House Immediately?

967 replies

Lilylonglegs · 03/04/2015 12:04

I have the Houseguest from hell.

I was told before she arrived that she was coming for 2 weeks spending a week with another friend and a week with me. I have an 8 month old baby and she has a ten year old son and is pregnant with dc number 2. A day after she arrived she called to say that she has to leave her friend's house as her friend is going on holiday the next day. I thought this was odd as how can you come from a different country to visit someone and they tell you after you have got there that they are going away?

Nevertheless I told her that I wouldn't be around at that time as I hadn't expected her until 5 days later. She u ummmd and Ahhhhed saying that a hotel was too expensive and that she might as well go back to Sweden where she lives. I agreed with her although in the end she booked a hotel and ended up coming to mine a day sooner than arranged which I really was not too pleased with but is better than coming the 5 days earlier.

When she arrived my DC was with her grandmother so I took them out to a restaurant and invited another friend. We had a really good time. The trouble started the next day. She complained that my house was too small, my toilet is too small, there is no room in there for her to change comfortably, my sofa bed is too small and uncomfortable. I don't have any food containers, she doesn't like the type of food I have. The shops in my area don't sell the type of food she likes. I should have shave my daughters hair off to make it grow. My daughter would walk if she was surrounded by more children as her child walked at 7 months, why don't I feed my child salty pasta and on and on and on.

My daughter has a mild cold and she wants me traipsing around with them, even though I have told her my child is my priority and not her. I probably would have made more effort before her inconsiderate ungrateful behaviour.

Now where it gets worse is that she is saying that she doesn't want to go back to Sweden but wants to live in UK permanently. She is meant to leave in a week but claims money is coming to her account from the father of her unborn DC the day before she is due to leave, which she will use to source an apartment.

The problem is how will she find and move into a place in a week and who will rent a room to a single pregnant mother and child? She can't afford anything more than a room. My fear is that she is trying not to leave my house. She says her friend who went on holiday will let her stay for a few months until she finds her feet, but that friend is not due back for another 3 weeks. I've asked her repeatedly where she will go until her friend comes back as she is leaving mine in a week and she just keeps saying "it will work out" oh and I forgot she has already asked me to lend her £300 when she knows that I am only on maternity pay.

Would I be Unreasonable to just tell her to leave now as I don't think I can take much more of this!

OP posts:
rollonthesummer · 05/04/2015 11:57

Have you spoken to her today? Is she packed?

BigRedBall · 05/04/2015 12:00

I feel I've been all round Europe with you all but still haven't got a clue whats going on!!

Don't forget across the Atlantic to Canada too. It's like the MN version of Around the World in 80 days with phileas fogg. Tiring!

BaronessBomburst · 05/04/2015 12:08

I'm impressed by a ten year old Italian boy speaking English. If he was Swedish or German I would have been less surprised. I didn't realise they started so young in Italy too.

CloserToFiftyThanTwenty · 05/04/2015 12:18

I genuinely don't understand why she is still in your house Confused

Sallyingforth · 05/04/2015 12:32

I genuinely don't understand why she is still in your house

Neither do I, except that she has found a nice soft target and will stay there until she has either found an even better victim (unlikely, it seems) or is physically removed.

Topseyt · 05/04/2015 12:42

D Day! Do you mean you might finally get her out of your house today?

Knew I should have bought popcorn in Tesco yesterday. Damn, and it is closed today.

NynaevesSister · 05/04/2015 13:00

Finally got to the end of this. Hope things are going well!

Yellowbird54321 · 05/04/2015 13:05

Good luck OP - hope today brings a resolution - she hasn't been munching Easter eggs outside of the dining room area today has she? Grin

TheReluctantCountess · 05/04/2015 13:06

What a situation. You try to do someone a nice turn, and it ends up being a frigging nightmare. I hope it gets sorted.

Bettercallsaul1 · 05/04/2015 13:08

I predict that it's the mademoiselle from Sweden/Germany/Italy/Switzerland who replies to us later, having taken over the OP's flat, bread and laptop.

I just hope the OP finds refuge in Uncle Tom's cabin. (sorry, USA!)

123upthere · 05/04/2015 13:36

Take an imaginary call from a family member who is due to visit and stay make sure she hears the entire call (get a family member/friend)to ring up & play along?

Then she'll have to start packing

Sallyingforth · 05/04/2015 13:56

123, why does the OP have to tell lies?
She sounds a decent, honest person. She's entitled to tell the unwanted visitor "Your time is up, end of."

123upthere · 05/04/2015 14:01

Yes but some people won't get the message to move out unless they hear specifically that the room is needed for someone else

This person sounds like she's not going to leave otherwise (I've experienced similar) these types of people don't get the English polite way of hinting. They just don't.

Fairy13 · 05/04/2015 14:20

Anyone else think houseguest from hell is the same friend who wanted to live in baby's house while she went on holiday?

BabyGanoush · 05/04/2015 15:03

Mine was Icelandic.

Boy of 10 as well!

Maybe I am OP's sockpuppet Shock

Fairy13 · 05/04/2015 15:06

Her being Icelandic might not take you out of the running baby - after all, we've covered most of Europe already!

woolymum · 05/04/2015 15:13

i think the guest will rip off her face so we discover that really she was op's long lost rich relative in disguise assessing whether or not to leave her their millions and all will be fine apart from just before she leaves there will be a farce of epic proportions where the money won't be given if she had a pet cat which was what op had brought home not 5 mins before to scare the squatter out of the house due to their hilarious cat allergy.

or the aliens will come

Bettercallsaul1 · 05/04/2015 16:01

Do we get to share in the millions too since we've all been suffering along with the OP? I think it would only be fair.

Bettercallsaul1 · 05/04/2015 16:02

And, by the way, which uncle did the disguised relative turn out to be?

Topseyt · 05/04/2015 16:18

123, I agree that some people do not get subtleties and that is why I would not hint. I would tell her bluntly. "Time up. Out. There's the door" should be clear enough to anyone. No need for faked phone calls.

woolymum · 05/04/2015 16:27

i was guessing uncle bob
the creepy uncle that didn't like the pesky kids

TaliZorahVasNormandy · 05/04/2015 17:23

Lily, has she gone yet?

Topseyt · 05/04/2015 17:29

Still marking place. Have you managed to get her through the door yet?

ilovelamp82 · 05/04/2015 17:58

Any luck?

Chippednailvarnish · 05/04/2015 18:03

Has anyone else played the Eurovision Song Contest drinking game? You pick a country to follow and each time they get a mention you take a drink.

I'm going to pick Belgium waits with baited breath for the next episode.