to think SAHMs should stop referring to this as "a full time job"?

[ConfusedintheNorth]

Ok I'm probably going to get pulled apart for this, but this really gets under my skin. Every time I go on facebook or twitter there are a barrage of statuses/comments from friends who are SAHM going on about how busy and hectic their lives are and how "being a mother is a full time job", and it's driving me insane! I'm sorry but it's just not, is it? I was a single mother who home schooled, and ran my own business full time, and managed to get through every day without any sort of time travel devise. I am aware everyone does things differently and I'm possibly over reacting, but seriously if you only have a couple of kids, a supportive partner and don't have to work, in the grand scheme of things you have it pretty good and should probably stop endlessly telling the world how hard your life is. (and breath!)

Wow. I would have a go at you but I'm exhausted. I'm a stay at home mum and at this moment next to my toddler stroking her head as she is slowly, finally, dozing off. Once she's asleep I need to go downstairs and tidy the bomb site that was my house this morning so it's ready for tomorrow. I could go on and on but I'm too tired. Oh and here's your staryour so amazing, I wish I could be like you,so perfect, ahhhhh if only.

I think SAhm shpuld take their hats off to working mums who do all the things they do plus a job.

It's is other wise working mums wouldn't need to pay somone to look after their pre school children for the 30 hours a week they work

Have a becaus I don't have a emon or a poo

Its a full time job. Except harder because you have day and night shifts all week, you never get a lunch break and can't even have a pee in peace. I am not even a sahm and I think yabu. Well done you for being so amazing...

Just juggle the hours you don't have to stick to school hours with HE, and you don't need to stick to office hours when you work for yourself.

I'm another who can't understand, how on earth can you home school and run a business? Surely homeschooling would keep you busy during week days!!

I bet the OP's sat there daubing a bingo card.

Whatever your children are like... Looking after children (as their mother, childminder, nanny etc) is a full time job ... Because if the mother isn't doing it, then you are paying someone (as a job) to do it?

Anyway - people like to moan, is human nature - we moan about the weather, work, whatever) doesn't mean that we really mean it that much does it?

Add message | Report | Message poster Heels99 Wed 01-Apr-15 21:03:45
I think SAhm shpuld take their hats off to working mums who do all the things they do plus a job.

they don't do it all they pay somone else to look after their children while they are at work that is not doing it all mum who work from home and don't have childcare do it all

Yanbu. Plenty of us are parents and work full time or part time. I don’t even pay any attention to someone bleating about 'sahm being a full time job.'

Just juggle the hours you don't have to stick to school hours with HE, and you don't need to stick to office hours when you work for yourself.

Spot on. After the kids are in bed you can then start doing job #2 into the night.
Easy.

I have a simple solution OP, stay off facebook and twitter . You sound jealous tbh. I was a single parent and worked full time. I wasn't jealous of SAHP's.

I was also a SAHP with three children under 5, one at 8 and one at 10 at a different point in my life. I was more knackered being a SAHP than when I was working 40 hours a week!

Here, have a .

I've just gone back to work following maternity leave with second child. I find my demanding job a million times easier than being at home with the kids - horses for courses. Maybe if the kids are older it's not so much of a bind but mine are still very little so I wouldn't know.

I also believe very strongly that even if some people do have it easy, that opinion shouldn't be used to silence them and debar them from expressing annoyance or upset when days are hard.

Why is it harder than a full time job tho slightlyconfused85 ? If you work, but are a parent then you have night shifts with children etc? I don't see why it has to be harder or easier... Having children is tiring - wether you work or not!

Out of interest, what was this business you ran whilst homeschooling?

Can I just shout

BINGO

now, and save time?

I think sahp's exaggerate about how hard it is, to counter the get general feeling that it's just about 'doing lunch' etc. plus to counter the sheer stupidity of comments like 'I do exactly the same as a sahp and I work full time'

My 3 days with ds are significantly easier than my 4 working days! I have one child though, maybe that's the solution.

Hah! I didn't know the biscuit had bunny ears.

Has it been like that every year?

I do agree that going to work (for me) is easier than being an SAHM in some ways - but am far more knackered after my work days than my home ones. Even tho the experience of being of work is easier than, for example, being at home with a 1 and 3 yr old!

Wow. Your brave

Yabu as you already know
I actually deserve a full salary and danger money for working with dd1. She's a biter.

Add message | Report | Message poster NoRockandRollFun Wed 01-Apr-15 21:08:23
Out of interest, what was this business you ran whilst homeschooling?

She is running awsomemum.com

I think SAhm shpuld take their hats off to working mums who do all the things they do plus a job.

Do the working mums' children go into some sort of limbo during working hours then or does someone else look after them, i.e. someone doing childcare as a full time job?

Oh wow you're so amazing