To only let my children have fresh fruit/yoghurt for breakfast?

[Sunshinesunflower]

They have plenty of healthy food during the day but I don't really want them thinking the day has to start with them shoving lots of hot food or sugary cereals down themselves.

There is plenty of fruit for variety and just a small amount of plain yoghurt.

Aibu? I have always disliked the concept of breakfast so fruit seems a reasonable compromise.

Maybe MNHQ should just close/delete the thread entirely it's getting nowhere fast

MiscellaneousAssortment

Goodness. Yes, I think a thread deletion would be best!

Why would they delete it?

What exactly has been said warrants deletion of the whole thread? Loads of threads go 'nowhere fast' but it's not grounds for deletion. the OP is not identifiable from the thread and it hasn't been a bunfight so I don't see the issue. If this gets deleted I'll be very

The OP came on to ask AIBU and has been told by the majority that, to some degree, yes she is. There is nothing wrong with fruit and yoghurt per se, but it's the unsettling references to 'gluttony' and the insistence that because she doesn't enjoy an early or balanced/varied breakfast, no-one else should either. And anyone is automatically BU in my opinion, as soon as they start saying they allow they children 'a scraping' of butter.

sunshine I am not entirely sure why you felt the need to start the thread at all, unless you just gets a kick out of being stubborn and argumentative, because you've insisted all the way through that your lack of flexibility over the breakfast menu/quantity is perfectly reasonable and you doesn't seem to have taken anything on board at all. But if you truly believed that what you fed your children was a total non-issue then the thread would never have been started in the first place.

What's worrying me is that you know you are being extremely rigid and controlling over this, yet you don't really seem to care so long you get to make the rules and everyone else gets to follow them, based around your own likes and dislikes, issues and hang ups. Projecting things like that onto your children is never reasonable. You seem to be strangely impenetrable to reason or suggestion on the subject.

sorry loads of typos there, I went through to change it to speak directly to the OP, rather than about her, but failed to edit properly!

Op has asked the thread to be left numerous times and is getting more distressed and pissed off from the circles.

Well that's the nature of AIBU, especially when it stretches to a zillion pages and the OP looks like fairly a straightforward cut and dried case to answer, so people just skip to the end. If she doesn't want it to continue she should stop responding and it will die a natural death. The number 1 tenet of AIBU is that you can't just get the thread deleted when the overwhelming consensus is 'Yes YABU.'

I realise there are all sort other complicated issues raised here that are not about fruit and yoghurt but I still see no need for a full deletion. It's been robust, but it's hardly all out berserker warfare. The Op has been given some very valuable advise. She may choose to ignore it, but someone else might benefit if they have similar issues.

I won't be so naive as to think a poster wants thoughtful support just because she appears to be crying out for it again.

Perfectly put miscellaneous.

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OP you have done well staying on this thread most people would have deserted it long before now!

If the sickness/vomiting/eggs thing is just pregnancy related then I think that changes the situation substantially!

It's common for pregnant women to find some ordinary food intolerable to be around. Right now I can't stand the smell of ketchup and can't be in a room with anyone having it.

But this is where your do needs to step up. It's not enough to say you are a sahm therefore food 'is your job'. You are pregnant, with an enhanced sense of smell causing food aversion and 2 other young DCs to feed. Your DP can't just shirk his responsibilities!

You have answered most questions in this thread but have avoided most of the ones about your DP.

Why?

It seems more likely that your DP/your relationship is part of the problem here.

not to mention I'm astounded that no other posters seem to be asking questions about the DP

Jackie - I don't think it is just the eggs thing that is worrying posters on here. It is references to gluttony and food being shovelled in, when talking about breakfast - and not a piled-high, cholesterol-fest fry-up that needs its own postcode - but a normal-sized breakfast of toast or cereal.

On several occasions, suggestions of different breakfasts her children could be offered - no-one has mentioned piling their plates high, or even suggested an amount she could serve, but she has referred to those suggestions as 'massive amounts of food'.

Reading this thread, and the way she talks about food (almost as something dangerous, that needs rigid control), and the way she talks about herself (very unkindly, to put it mildly), has worried a number of posters.

Yeah, you know what. I'm skipping over the whole eggs/no eggs/counselling thing, plenty of people have said what I'd say.

I suspect, OP, that the father of your children is not supporting you properly. You say you can't have counselling (whether you want to or not) cos a stranger will have to watch the children. Why can't their dad watch them? You can't face cooking in the mornings. Fair enough. Why can't their dad make some stuff ready for them? Even if it's done in advance, if he's working. The fact that you're pregnant surely means he should be giving EXTRA help and support. Plus, if a partner of mine seemed as low as you do, I'd be concerned and trying to help, and you haven't said anything that implies he gives you any help at all.

I haven't read all of this, but I just wanted to say that I also find the idea of waking up and immediately eating a gigantic meal absolutely repulsive. My best friend wakes up absolutely starving and constantly wants huge meals for breakfast and I have never understood it! I just don't do breakfast.

Having said that, I do offer breakfast to my kids and they generally take it, so I assume that they are hungry. Maybe its just me and OP that are weird about this.

I think you need proper psychiatric help- not counselling, but proper medication and psychiatry treatment

This gets better.

Inspace and how have you come to that conclusion

Duchess - no-one is suggesting that the OP feeds her children a 'gigantic meal'. People have made suggestions of different breakfasts the OP could offer her children, but the amount she serves would be up to her.

And I've taken some of them on board.

You have - I should have made that clear.

Maybe the DH works?! Mine couldn't start making breakfast or watch the children whilst I went to counselling as he's usually abroad in Europe not from lack of wanting to.

Duchess you so need to RTFT.... it's kind of moved on

Hi all,
We have received a great deal of reports about this thread overnight, mostly pointing out how circular it has become, and as such are minded to lock it now to prevent another day of the OP explaining herself to people who haven't read the whole of the very long thread.
We wish you all the very best, Sunshinesunflower, and hope you can take what advice you need from this thread.

Thanks Helen and apologies for being moody last night.

Ooooooh, a daffodil! When did we get daffodils? Are there tulips?!