To only let my children have fresh fruit/yoghurt for breakfast?

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They have plenty of healthy food during the day but I don't really want them thinking the day has to start with them shoving lots of hot food or sugary cereals down themselves.

There is plenty of fruit for variety and just a small amount of plain yoghurt.

Aibu? I have always disliked the concept of breakfast so fruit seems a reasonable compromise.

What wit!

You missed an 8 page discussion on eggs out of your summary!

For what it's worth, I'm sorry. I am getting frustrated because so many people, including me, have tried to offer you genuine support and advice on MN. I'm only human and lost my rag because it feels shit when it gets thrown back in your face. I'll leave now. I really hope you find peace and whatever it is you're looking for from life and for your future.

The whole thead's been a bit of a disaster to be honest, Scots. It's a miracle it's taken this long for the OP to snap.

Honestly, hide this thread OP it's going to do you no favours appearing in your TIO. I would go and think about other thigs you think you could manage to offer alongside or instead of fruit and yoghurt. Perhaps pick a day and try it if you can. Don't discount more therapy totally. Sometimes what hasn't worked before does work. Although I accept you might not be up to that right now.

Most of all be kind to yourself for the moment. You are not a bad parent, you children are fed and fed fairly healthily. They are not going to keel over because of the lack of an egg for breakfast.

Wayfaring, I have on NUMEROUS occasions thanked people, PMd people, given to say thanks. I can't remember any specific times I've 'thrown advice in people's faces' except when is been unworkable and people won't let it drop - but if you'd care to let me know how i've ruffled your feathers do drop me a line as I can do without snide comments every time I post.

Thanks king. There's a lot happening just now. Hopefully things will be more manageable at the end of the pregnancy.

So you have never had specific counselling for your food issues?

Counselling for PND is a totally different kettle of fish.

Page 28, my first post. I offered advice on accessing free counselling because you identified this as the barrier and you were sarcastic and rude in your reply.

Have you ever sought counselling or therapy for issues (grief, fear, for example) surrounding the loss of your father and mother and brother?

BTW, I can supply plenty of reminders to you if you like, of times on this thread when you have thrown advice back in people's faces.
'Give it a rest math' springs immediately to mind but there is much, much more.

I wasn't talking to you or about this thread. I've conceded I've been rude on here.

I do not think I've got food issues; if I have they are mild.

My counsellor was lovely and right for me. I just can't carry on going at present.

Yabu.
They need energy in the form of protein/carbs.

My summary was flippant obviously. I'm drunk for the first time since I got pregnant 18 months ago and I'm just being a belligerent arsehole.

My actual thoughts on the subject are thus- I don't care for breakfast. I never have it unless I'm hungover and Burger King is open, but I also was never given it as a kid. So in my eyes at least, fruit and yoghurt is better than nothing/Burger King.

In terms of this thread I'm utterly baffled as to why it was posted in the first place, but I think OP should hide it. She's been a great sport with a lot of replies, but as it's gone on I think it's opened a can of worms and I think she (and many of us) are looking far too deeply into this. It's breakfast. She's giving her kids fruit and yoghurt, not crack.

Thanks so much Staying, Mrs, and Janice. Thanks for stopping me howling - how ruddy ridiculous is that?!

When mumsnet say 'don't give anything of yourself that you can't afford' they don't just mean money do they? I gave of my time, energy, healthy movement and emotional energy because I felt for someone who is obviously in dire straits emotionally (or not, depending on what moment the OP is in). I thought I gave it willingly, and freely, in that I didn't expect a mention (!), agreement or even for anyone to wade through it all! But I've realised that's not me giving it completely freely. I didn't expect to have my flawed and human efforts thrown back in my face, by the person I was trying to reach out to.

I get why, I touched a nerve and got hit out at. Others were posting along the same lines and that turned into 'everyone's attacking me' in the posters mind. And I was picked as one of the mean posters and she did whatever she had to to stop engaging with it. I get it. She doesn't owe me anything, though it will make me think about making that choice to try to carry on typing though in crippling pain, because someone on here might say the right words in the right way that might help a poster in great need, and maybe those words are the ones i was trying to type, so I'll just push myself further as it's worth it.

I don't expect anyone to think about my personal efforts, thoughts or struggle and just take the words in the spirit in which they are meant.

But I need not to have those words thrown back at me. The potential to help someone is not worth the potential for them to hurt me.

But because I can't resist flogging a dead horse, here's one last effort.

Bean you made me laugh :) no bad thing right now!

Okay - I have said a few times why I started the thread. Last post!

I started the thread because when you talk about why you have an aversion to something you often realise why.

I realised mine was down to a preference to 'snacks' than meals and this was due to sickness and vomiting. In particular related to eggs. Unfortunately we then had egg-gate as people who hadn't read the thread kept coming with 'yabu; give them eggs!'

So I am going to try to be a little more flexible. However I do not have food issues and I do not need counselling because my family died!

my name's Janine.

I am not responsible for your distress miscellaneous, nor you for mine.

I know 'don't keep suggesting therapy to someone who has repeatedly said they do not want it' is a novel idea but since I've had enough of the 'why did you post' questions maybe I could turn that back to you. Why keep suggesting something to someone who doesn't want it? What do you hope to achieve?

Apologies janine :)

Everyone always gets my RL name wrong and it drives me mad!

Janine

Miscellaneous I think you sound absolutely lovely and I am sorry op was rude to you. Other people have problems as well. Your advice while it may not have helped op, am sure it would have helped others if they could relate to it.

Ahhh bugger Janine that Janice was lovely too I'm sure, the one with the invisible posts, profound they were!

Having read the rest of the posts that occurred whilst I was writing mine, I've decided against posting again as clearly I will get it thrown back at me. It seems this thread was only ever about fruit & yoghurt and us stupid posters blew it out of proportion. Don't worry I wouldn't dream of being so stupid again.

I was going to try and be reassuring about this comment below, but quite frankly I now don't dare. And I certainly wouldn't dream of putting any personal circumstances out there as perhaps why I feel I could comment on this, as I don't think it would be sensible given the carnage of this thread.

"Some physical conditions can't be cured, only managed - same with some mental health problems. Not all wounds are healable, you know."

I did.

However, I have re read her post to me over the page and I am actually still quite put out at it, as it claimed I 'lashed out' at my counsellor. No, I did not.

It claimed that she was 'frustrated and annoyed.' Well, my heart breaks. It's frustrating being told you have an eating disorder, and that your children need eggs.

It claimed all sorts of things that in all honesty were utter nonsense and while I am sorry if my words caused miscellaneous any distress I notice the same in reverse seems to have gone unnoticed.

Do not invent issues for someone then claim distress when that same someone says it is nonsense. Do not tell someone that they are resistant or that they didn't put the effort in when they did.

It's really simple.

Yes, yes, you could help ... But you'd better not ... But you could

And people ask why I post?

OP, if you started this thread in an attempt to understand why you have an aversion (I presume to eating in the morning or thinking of any breakfast other than fruit as gluttony?) and you wanted to talk it out, would it not have been better to talk about this with real-life friends? People who know you, understand your background, maybe got you through PND, can see that your kids are fine (assuming they are?) - rather than a bunch of strangers on the internet? Surely you must have seen that this would end in disaster?

Sunshine, I'm really feeling for you. I'm not going into the rights and wrongs of what you feed your children. This thread has taken a completely different direction. You remained calm and polite until it got too much....and then you were rude to a kind poster. She sounds lovely enough to overlook that. You've been goaded and pushed by some very unpleasant posts.
I really hope you'll leave this post. I's not helpful. Sending you warm vibes........that's instead of the frowned upon hugs!

Unexpected not everyone has RL friends to talk to. I imagine that quite a few threads here are born because people feel pretty alone.