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To only let my children have fresh fruit/yoghurt for breakfast?

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Sunshinesunflower · 22/03/2015 21:47

They have plenty of healthy food during the day but I don't really want them thinking the day has to start with them shoving lots of hot food or sugary cereals down themselves.

There is plenty of fruit for variety and just a small amount of plain yoghurt.

Aibu? I have always disliked the concept of breakfast so fruit seems a reasonable compromise.

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Sunshinesunflower · 25/03/2015 21:50

It is making me cross now I have to admit.

Why, on here, every quirk brings with it commands for COUNSELLING (often spelled 'councelling' Hmm) I do not know! But at £30 + at a time I assume many people are laughing all the way to the bank at some of you!

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Mrsstarlord · 25/03/2015 21:51

You can get free therapy from IAPT services. You can refer yourself or be referred by your GP but in order to benefit from therapy it's important that you want your life to be different. Haven't read the whole thread but it doesn't feel from what I have seen that you feel you have any issues which need to be dealt with.

Sunshinesunflower · 25/03/2015 21:51

That's the most useful thing you've said all day Janice, I don't doubt. Night.

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MiscellaneousAssortment · 25/03/2015 21:51

Some people might suggest that you can have younger children in therapy with you.

Some people might suggest there are ways of accessing low income or free therapy.

Some people might suggest trying different kinds of therapy and therapists until you find one that fits for you.

And some people might have lots of ideas and support if it was genuinely needed rather than just being used to fuel... Fuel I don't know what.

And some people should step away from this thread and stop flogging a dead horse :)

Sunshinesunflower · 25/03/2015 21:52

No no, I do. 'Please doctor refer me for counselling. My children eat fruit.' Confused

Forgive me as I am being very rude but my patience has just about vanished with some of you. I don't want, can't afford and can't access counselling FFS!

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Sunshinesunflower · 25/03/2015 21:54

We are not on a low income.

I am not handing my very young daughters to complete strangers.

I do not want it

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JanineStHubbins · 25/03/2015 21:55

Yes, you are being very rude. But you already know that, don't you? It's all part of whatever purpose this thread has for you. What a shame.

fannyfanakapan · 25/03/2015 21:57

OP, some people can eat straight away in the morning (me, DS1), others prefer to wait a couple of hours (ds2, DH, DD). I think you need to accept that, and not hold such rigid and negative views on people who eat food in the morning being gluttons, shovelling food in their gobs.

Allow your children to find their natural rhythm too - offer them toast or crumpets or something a bit more substantial on a regular basis. If they are not morning eaters, they will not be bothered. But if they are, they may be happy to munch on something different - maybe something savory?

(My kids like cheese on toast for breakfast. Or sometimes beans on toast, with an optional poached or fried egg on top.)

Just be open to the idea that your children might be like me - I have always eaten within 20 minutes of waking up. I am up with or before the sparrows usually, and have tea and something immediately - usually cereal. But then I will have proper breakfast (eggs, toast etc) at around 7:30 - Ive been up for over 2 hours by then, so Im hungry!

I cant eat at night, have a very small dinner, and after 8pmish I lose all interest in food (although sadly not wine...) even if I haven't eaten dinner. Im about to go to bed and hate sleeping on a full stomach.

Mrsstarlord · 25/03/2015 21:57

I believe that you spoke about having issues around food and other deep seated issues earlier in the thread?

You absolutely can access counselling for free but if you don't want to, then don't. No need to get arsey about it. You spoke about cost being a barrier, I was trying to help by letting you know that it needn't be.

ozymandiusking · 25/03/2015 21:58

Children need milk!

ScotsWhaHae · 25/03/2015 21:58

Oh sunshine, I just want to give you a hug, a cuppa and tell you it's all ok.

I don't think people pitching in for arguments sake is helpful and pretty unkind.

WayfaringStranger · 25/03/2015 21:59

You share an awful lot of personal information on AIBU, so yes people may well assume they 'know' a bit about you because you are open with it on here. Confused

FanFuckingTastic · 25/03/2015 21:59

There is IAPT services run to help people with various wellbeing issues, accessible through GP, just in case you'd want to know.

ilovesooty · 25/03/2015 22:02

You don't have to have counselling if you don't want it. However I'd like to point out - gently - that most counsellors aren't laughing all the way to the bank.

MiscellaneousAssortment · 25/03/2015 22:03

And oh please let me apllogise for my appalling 'barely literate' posts which you enjoyed throwing back in my face.

The reason there are lots of typos is that I find it hard to type, as I am severely disabled, but you wouldn't be wanting to think about anyone as an actual human being with difficulties of their own woyld you?

So go ahead and take the piss out of me, go ahead and push away the kindness and supportiveness of strangers.

I hope it gives you a moments satisfaction that you took the piss out of someone who has a hell of a lot to deal with in her own life... But felt for you.

Some quotes from the drivel I wrote to you last night that you want to now paint as being mean to you:

"... And I genuinely mean 'poor you', you're left with this awful battle within you and no way to get out of it. You sound nice, and it's SO UNFAIR that you've got these demons to fight, please please don't think there is any blame towards you, it's NOT YOUR FAULT. But please, to do yourself justice, and of course your children too, but actually if just start with yourself"

mathanxiety · 25/03/2015 22:03

Your problem is not a 'quirk'.

Why did you start this thread?

Did something or someone prompt the question 'aibu?'

JanineStHubbins · 25/03/2015 22:05

Flowers Miscellaneous

Sunshinesunflower · 25/03/2015 22:05

I think repeatedly telling someone that they haven't worked hard enough at therapy and that is the reason they feed their children fruit is extremely rude personally Janice.

I was and have been open to some sensible suggestions - NOT fish fingers on toast - but the endless 'oh you need counselling' posts have made me completely lose patience I am afraid.

I had counselling, for PND with DD1. Did I work hard (how I hate that; I am not a school child!) - yes. But you know, it is possible that some things stay immensely painful forever. But I don't suppose you care, do you?

My healthy, normal-weight father died of a heart attack aged 66. So yes I am conscious of what I feed the kids. My mother was 52 when she died. My brother died of (we think) an accidental overdose when he was 34.

Ooh that's why you have issues, drip feed - well no. Not quite. It's more to do with sick and vomit believe it or not.

I'm including that information because you know you DON'T get over stuff like that. It gets less painful but it always leaves you breathless with grief at times.

I do try. I am concerned with animal welfare and choose not to eat meat. Some may shriek 'controlling' but no more so than Christian parents bringing up their children to be Christian, for example.

Dress it up how you like; people have got upset because I said I personally find eating as soon as you get up greedy. I do. That's me -
It isn't a reflection on anybody else.

No more from me. You have really pissed me off.

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Mrsstarlord · 25/03/2015 22:06

MiscellaneousAssortment

Flowers
WayfaringStranger · 25/03/2015 22:07

Your threads always seems to end up like this, don't they?

Sunshinesunflower · 25/03/2015 22:10

Fair enough ils. Sorry. I meant that if everybody accessed counselling because of some of the reasons listed on here then counsellors would be very rich indeed.

Miscellaneous, it's a long thread and I apologise as I missed that earlier post.

However, it is very frustrating for me to be told or for it to be insinuated that because of my lack of effort I am not cured! I recognise that isn't quite what you're saying but I'm largely in an impossible situation here that therapy just isn't going to help with, but it's my doing and of my making, so ...

Math, give it a rest.

Wayfaring, likewise. If you want to announce I KNOW WHO YOU ARE then do it. Otherwise, stop banging on about it.

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StayingSamVimesGirl · 25/03/2015 22:11

I think your post was thoughtful and sensitive, Miscellaneous, and i hope the OP apologises to you for her nasty comment.

ScotsWhaHae · 25/03/2015 22:14

Wayfaring you are stirring an already agitated situation. It's not nice. Disengage, don't torment someone you can quite clearly see is upset.

Sunshinesunflower · 25/03/2015 22:17

That's kind of you scot. Thanks.

Believe it or not I am not trying to be rude. I've just become very frustrated throughtout the course of this thread and in the last couple of pages have become pretty grouchy and horrible.

Flowers all round.

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Bean89 · 25/03/2015 22:17

Ok. I've read all the pages. This is my summary.

AIBU?
Yes.
No I'm not.
Yes you are.
Ok, maybe I might be being a bit unreasonable and I'm very depressed.
Hugs for OP.
I have decided I'm no longer being unreasonable.
Yes you are.
Shut up, I'm still sad.
Have you thought about counselling?
It didn't work.
This might work?
Shut up, you can't spell.

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