To only let my children have fresh fruit/yoghurt for breakfast?

[Sunshinesunflower]

They have plenty of healthy food during the day but I don't really want them thinking the day has to start with them shoving lots of hot food or sugary cereals down themselves.

There is plenty of fruit for variety and just a small amount of plain yoghurt.

Aibu? I have always disliked the concept of breakfast so fruit seems a reasonable compromise.

Sunshine, I don't think any of us do really!! I'm making it up as I go along!

do you have much rl support? It must be tough with two kids! I only have one and find it really hard at times.

None - it'll be three children soon

Thanks :)

Sunshine you are none of those things. :( I've seen enough of you on here to say that with confidence.

I understand why you were defensive, especially as you're already feeling so down on yourself. Breakfast doesn't have to be cooked or a 3 course meal - she says, eyeing up her 6 year old who has requested cucumber and tomatoes, following his omelette and slice of toast. He's a bloody Hoover! Maybe introduce a new food every week? This is normal, it's a healthy meal. They're growing little people. They need plenty of food, hungry little monkeys. ;)

You obviously have massive issues with food. Get a third party to mediate- dietician, good friend, DH and take a massive step back emotionally from what you feed your children.

Can I be nosy and ask if you have any diagnosed mental health problems? Horrible intrusive thoughts about myself were a big part of my mental illness, and it wasn't until I was receiving treatment that I started to see that they werent actually true. Until that point I truly believed that I was worthless, as sad as that sounds.

Now I can see that I have good and bad qualities and am pleased with my achievements.

Sunshine - why can't your husband do their breakfast?

I consider eating a huge dinner before you go to bed to be more of a strange thing to do personally. Breakfast- haven't eaten for 12 hours & fuelling your body for the day. Dinner, had two meals already about to go to bed and sleep- have something light and will be hungry for the most important meal of the day.
Yogurt and fruit for breakfast? Your kids may well have had 3 teaspoons of sugar before they've even left the house (unless you're feeding them sugar free yog?) Oats would be a much better option, or eggs.

And theres me making my children eat a decent breakfast!

Mine have a choice, cereal (cheerios, weetabix, ready brek or rice krispies) or toast with either jam, just butter, peanut butter etc.

Imo fruit and yohurt is a snack, not breakfast unless its with something more filling. I went through a stageof having natural yogurt, fruit and crushed nuts for breakfast. Didn't even touch the sides.

I think you need more help than anyone can give you on mumsnet.

The way you have these weird feelings about food, and put them onto your children.

The way you insult yourself when actually no one else is.

The way you believe people are picking on you and looking for a argument.

Talk to a gp/hv/therapist about how you are feeling for professional help. Untrained people can not help you here, you need more help.

To be fair- a banana in either the fruit ( a whole banana) and a glass of milk too isn't as bad. But I don't remember this from your OP.
Why don't you puts some soaked oats in with the yoghurt? That'd be really healthy and nutritious

Sunshine I recognise you too. You really do need professional help. Not understanding the "concept of breakfast" is the least of your worries right now.

I have a dc who never wanted to ear breakfast, so I would let him them eat anything as long as they ate. It is important to have something to help with your blood sugar, and focus in school. Although you seem to give them a lot of sugar, if they are not developing weight problems or diabetic, I don't think yogurt and fruit will harm them. I agree with adding something like sunflower seeds or almonds to the yogurt, if they would like that, to increase the fibre and nutrients.

Sunshinesunflower,

re an earlier comment you made:-

"My mother ... I loved her but she was a funny thing and the clear your plate message was combined with the message about don't get fat".

You absorbed two very damaging messages right there.

My dp is happy to eat fruit and yogurt for breakfast. He then doesn't eat anything until midday when he will have sandwiches and more fruit for lunch or yesterdays leftovers. Some mornings he has fruit an yogurt, other morning she will eat two slces of toast.

I can't see the problem with fruit and yogurt as a breakfast, fibre and protein in the fruit and yogurt

It's called breakfast because you're BREAKING the fasting you've had over night and it's quite important to eat a decent breakfast and it's better for your metabolism. (This is coming from someone with an ED)

Being that restrictive with food isn't good for anyone especially children. Why not cereal and fruit? Pouring yoghurt and cereal etc?

Wow. Hope the OP can work through all this soon. In the meantime I would say the only issue is whether the children make it through to lunch without hunger pangs or symptoms. If so then it must suit them and if not it needs a rethink.

Oh people did insult me, actually. I'm just pointing out I can do a much better job of it myself so don't bother.

Personally, the idea of feeding my children a healthy dinner then more food just before bed seems much more gluttonous than breakfast. Breakfast is given after someone hasn't eaten for usually around 12 hours. They are then hopefully going to have a fairly active morning and burn it off.
I don't see a massive problem with fruit and yoghurt for breakfast, apart from the copious amounts of sugar (and sugar is sugar is sugar). I do see a problem with your attitude to it. If your children, god forbid, decide they want more for breakfast, will you inwardly shudder and think 'how greedy'? Because you may think it is inwardly, but they will notice. And this is proven by the fact that you think you picked this a attitude up from your mother although you can't explicitly remember her saying anything. Can't you see that you're passing food issues on in exactly the same way that your mother passed them on to you?
I don't recognise you from other posts but sincerely hope you are getting some real life help.

Like I've said you're free to feel how you want - if you feel my way of doing things is gluttonous then don't do it. It really isn't hard, is it?

You're clearly struggling, OP. Please go and talk to someone about this. There's a real risk of passing food issues on to your children, even if you don't talk about your feelings about food to them. If they always have the same restricted breakfast every day, they're not going to know to ask for anything different/bigger. You can create issues around food by passing on your habits - you don't have to be openly talking about how revolted you are by people eating larger breakfasts.

You're clearly aware there's a potential issue, or you wouldn't have posted. You must also have been aware that people were likely to disagree with you, and be concerned. AnnieLouise wasn't goading you. She was simply picking up on your repeated comments about your own feelings and dislikes.

You are clearly trying to put the children's needs first, but the repeated posts about you not wanting them to smell of eggs, and you feeling 'ugh' about people needing breakfast, and your own sense that people are greedy for eating early, have inevitably led to people being concerned about your ability to sideline your own, clearly deep-seated, food issues.

You need help with this. Have you talked to your GP about the way you're feeling at the moment? Does your partner know? Your health visitor?

Sugar is sugar is sugar is not the case....sugar in fizzy pop has no nutriental value when drunk. Sugar in fruit is still sugar but the fact you are eating it within fruit gives you fibre and nutrients, that you would not get from fizzy pop or fruit juice. Try YouTube video sugar the bitter truth and have a watch

Sunshine, one of my children never wanted breakfast. Tried all sorts, fruit, cereal, toast. One morning he ate a slice of malt loaf and loved it. Think thats all he had for breakfast till he finished
uni and left home. Im sure it probably wasnt the best start to his day. The other kids used to decorate it with slices of apple and grapes for him. Hes as fit as a flea now and still enjoying his maltloaf.

I think the japanese breakfast is one of the best. Miso for big vit B intake. High protein in fish and tofu. Green tea for the anti oxidants. rice for the carbs and a bit of veg/ BUT there is not WAY i am making that every morning or doing the washing up.

There's no problem with fruit and yoghurt for breakfast, if that is enough for that person.
Some people don't like breakfast, some like a light breakfast ,and some people want the full works. That's fine, and as your children get older you will find out what suits them.
I would just offer them a choice (if you can afford to of course) and encourage them to try different things.
I think ,with children you have to give them a chance to develop their own pattern of healthy eating, because there aren't really any hard and fast rules.

I'm all for variety but LOL at the thought of my DC's faces if I presented them with sushi, miso soup and green tea for breakfast (is it just mine ?).

Sunshine I think the key to take away from this is that for some DC's, full fat yoghurt and fruit - preferably with some nuts/granola/nut butter might work perfectly well. But relaxing, putting aside your personal taste and notions of gluttony and regularly offering a variety of nourishing food (without anything being labelled good or bad) so that they can establish their own appetites and preferences has to be key. As you experiment, try and see if teachers can give any feedback on their concentration levels through the morning? If they improve with the addition of certain food then that would be a pretty strong indicator of what works best and how you need to steer (not force) them?