To only let my children have fresh fruit/yoghurt for breakfast?

[Sunshinesunflower]

They have plenty of healthy food during the day but I don't really want them thinking the day has to start with them shoving lots of hot food or sugary cereals down themselves.

There is plenty of fruit for variety and just a small amount of plain yoghurt.

Aibu? I have always disliked the concept of breakfast so fruit seems a reasonable compromise.

Sunshine, I think you've done some really useful thinking/unpicking of your issues in the course of this thread, kudos.

One thing that has really helped me with my own food issues and the 'noise' in my head around them is to focus on food as a source of fuel - and think of it in that way primarily, particularly when it comes to my child. And that includes thinking about when the fuel is most needed and can be put to the most effective use, as well as the 'quality' of the fuel that's going in (ie what is going to give young bodies what they need the most).

As I say, it helped me - I thought it might be helpful for you as well.

What a nasty bullying thread.

Nothing at all wrong with fruit and yoghurt for breakfast, much better than empty processed cereal carbs and sugar. I am actually quite shocked by the weird ideas some people have about nutrition.

My lot eat what they want for breakfast, whether it's an apple and a piece of cheese, a boiled egg or even crap in a box cereal. Two of mine like to eat a lot, two are much more picky.

Fruit and yoghurt sounds great to me OP, and the rest of your menu too. Ridiculous that you are being vilified by the Cheerios and jam on toast brigade.

Think lots of people on this thread have been trying to give useful information, tinklylittlelaugh. Hope some of it will be of help to the OP. Much like yourself, my family had different breakfasts. The son I posted about earlier in the thread is a very healthy chap now so the maltloaf breakfast cant have been too bad.

tanukiton, I have a lot of Japanese students stay and breakfast for them is last nights left overs…

My last student I made the fatal mistake of making a joke and said

Oh the banoffee pie can be breakfast in the morning - the following evening when I went to get it from the fridge and it wasn't there I realised what I had said and bless my student, she had eaten all two portions for me but left overs so yes rice and beef or fish are breakfast with miso soup or green tea. Which actually means no cooking in the morning as it was cooked the night before.

I host international students some of our chinese visitors told us they have pork dumplings for breakfast (op would hate that!) some Italians bread with olive oil dripped over it. Takes all sorts...personally would be keeling over by 11 if had fruit and yoghurt.

It is important to get it right dh fainted at work recently and hit his head on a cabinet because of not enough brek and too much exercise so we all have porridge now.

Personally, am a 'pour a cafetiere of extremely strong coffee down my throat before I will look kindly upon you' breakfaster, but DS (3) has porridge and banana and wholemeal toast with hummus. He can be insanely faddy at other meals, so I feel strongly about him being set up for the day with whole grains, fruit and something dairy.

I don't think this thread has generally been 'bullying' - I think most people were concerned about the OP not realising the full extent of her problematic thinking about food, were annoyed on her behalf with the mother who had led her to think she had to clear her plate and worry about getting fat if she did so, and wanted to encourage her not to pass on that kind of disordered thinking to her own children. The OP may well feel buffeted by the robust offerings, though, and some people, a minority, were cruel.

OP, I also recognise you from other threads. Do get some help for your children's sake, recognise the extent of the disordered thinking you absorbed as a child through no fault of your own, and try to relax a bit about what your children eat in the mornings. Best wishes with the rest of the pregnancy.

Of course they aren't: there isn't really anything cheap or processed in this house.

Gosh sorry lady - it's difficult really. There isn't really any help I an access. I've exhausted all the options. I've just got to go through the motions.

I can't eat breakfast straight away, in fact i can't eat until after at least 10.
But I've made the kids be breakfasters because i know its better for them. So whatever they want they can have.
We seem to have a week of each of these:
Waffles
Pancakes
Toast with jam/ marmite/lemon curd
Poached Egg on toast
Beans on toast
Bacon Sarnie
Sausage sarnie
Porridge

Im really pleased they enjoy it, its a good habit to get into and i don't worry about over eating. I think its important to have a good filling tasty breakfast. For mine fruit and yogurt just isn't filling enough, id also worry about a sugar dip at school.

just wanted to say sorry you're having such a hard time sunshine and I hope you can find some help xx

Sunshine , what about cooking something in the evening that you can just put on the table in the morning? Something like granary bars, frittata or hard boiled eggs , so that your children can help themselves to if they want.
I do understand how eggs in the morning make you feel sick (even the smell). I feel exactly the same, in fact I'm very fussy about eggs at any time. But, I realise that not everyone feels the same, some people absolutely love them and in fact they're a valuable food source, especially for vegetarians. So I've made myself overcome this 'phobia' to some extent.

I can still smell them when they've been out.

OP I had the overnight oats for breakfast and they were really good. Filling too
I did 1/3 cup oats, 1/4 cup greek yog, 1/4 cup milk, diced Apple, cinnamon and peanut butter
Left overnight gave it a stir this am and added honey

If you really don't like eggs first thing then just forget about them. They're not the be-all and end-all. We don't have the time or the inclination to faff about on school mornings either, and mine haven't died yet from not having a cooked breakfast.

I think the important thing for you is to get past the idea that small children eating a meal in the morning is greedy. If they choose fruit and yoghurt (or malt loaf!) then that's fine. It's just the putting negative judgements on really quite normal eating habits that's problematic.

Good luck xx

sunshine ok, forget about the eggs for now. They're not essential anyway.
How about working on introducing just one alternative choice for your children?
Eg.a slice (or 2) of toast with peanut butter.
Just introduce the choice, encourage them to try it without making an issue.

I agree that if eggs are particular source of anxiety don't bother for now, there are plenty of other great sources of protein your kids could eat for breakfast. I think you're doing a great idea by confronting your issues around food now before your kids pick up on them too much. As a temporary measure could your partner (if you have one) prepare breakfast? Or could you prepare something the night before? (I do banana pancakes in a big batch and freeze then just microwave as needed).

I'm sure your children aren't malnourished, but its definitely worth confronting your food demons ASAP for the sake of their and your mental more than physical well being.

Perhaps you could find some support online for your low self esteem and issues around food? It's not easy to

TinklyLittleLaugh the breakfast she's serving isn't awful but probably not going to be quite enough for older kids. I think the problem is the clear food issues she's displaying which are likely to be passed on to her kids. I agree that people have been flippant about how easy these issues are to overcome. I doubt the OP would choose to have these attitudes and would put them to one side instantly if it was just that easy.

You'd hate my house - my DS (12) has 5 weetabix for breakfast (with milk, no sugar)

Apparently it makes him feel stronger when he goes to the gym at lunch.

He's very tall and slim, so clearly not making him fat.

Do what you want OP, but remember that once the kids are in full time school they NEED to have fuel in them to last the day.

And at secondary school the day is longer.
My DD leaves the house at 7.15 am and gets home at 6pm
she actually does not have breakfast - once she stopped growing I let her be like me and just glug tea - but she has a big lunch and a big supper

you have to be flexible

nothing wrong with a continental breakfast : some cheese and ham or smoked fish and a nice small flavoured bread

Well it's not right up there with making them join ISIS but it's not perfect.

Ha ha ha! Great.
Agree with everyone who is saying YABU. Not filling enough in my opinion. Need some carbs. Something wholegrain, like porridge would be ideal. Eggs are also a great breakfast.

I too think your children will rebel when they are old enough to. Once adults they may discover the delight of egg bacon beans mushrooms hash browns tomatoes toast butter ....yes...butter or waffles pancakes or smoked salmon & scrambled eggs. My children have all these items from time to time & they are not overweight either.

Hello - sorry just read the rest of your thread and I'm sorry for being flippant. You are having a hard time and I'm sorry about that. But it is true that only giving yoghurt and fruit is not up there with making them join ISIS, so don't beat yourself up. You obviously care very much about the health of your children, which is lovely. And I think you seem to realise that you don't need to be too restrictive and you can relax a bit. I think yog and fruit is a lovely breakie, but for me I'd need a huge bowl of porridge too, if it was to fill me up. You take care!

Going 16.5 hours without carbs or protein cannot be healthy.

But the OP's attitude to herself is heartbreaking. I have felt that way about myself, and it has fed the depression that has blighted my life (and given me food issues - in my case over weight) - and it is on,y when I had therapy last year that I learned to be kind to myself - and that it was fine to be kind to myself.

Sunshine - please stop insulting yourself and assaying hurtful things about yourself. You can't control what other people say to you or about you, but you can and should control,the things you say and think about yourself. You deserve kindness - we all do - and you should be able to rely on getting it from yourself at least.

Do you have any good friends in RL. You sound as though you need support?