To only let my children have fresh fruit/yoghurt for breakfast?

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They have plenty of healthy food during the day but I don't really want them thinking the day has to start with them shoving lots of hot food or sugary cereals down themselves.

There is plenty of fruit for variety and just a small amount of plain yoghurt.

Aibu? I have always disliked the concept of breakfast so fruit seems a reasonable compromise.

The voices will never stop trust me! They've been here years. Kids are fine it's me who is the ugly stupid lump. I shall go to bed.

I don't relly understand the "smelling eggy all day" comment you make but if your kids seems fine with brekkie as you serve it, I'm sure it's fine.

People need to look at a whole day of food or whole week to get a good picture of overall diet....not only one meal.

Dd(13) never eats brekkie before school as she can't face waking and then eating straight away. She has a drink of squash , hot choc or water and then has her snack at school break.

At weekends, she tends to have something like a cheese and Tomato toaster or croissant type thing.

Whilst I agree that the OPs cildren might do do bette with some form of carbs.....porridge or weetabix, if they seem happy with you and fruit, perhaps they are fine.

Oops, sorry.....I posted without reading every page and the thread had obviously moved on some before i posted my last comment.

Hope you are ok OP. You put yourself down so much but I am sure your two children love their mummy loads and know you love them.....they can also help you to love yourself.

Breakfast is the most important meal of the day. Fruit and yogurt isn't enough for growing children.

How old are your dc's and what do you mean by breakfast?

Fruit and yogurt for very young children, as a literal early morning breaking of their fast, who are likely to have a hobbitlike 2nd breakfast/snack later in the morning, sure. Sounds fine.

Likewise, teens who choose this because it is their own preference especially if otherwise they wont eat, or will stop and buy junk on the way.

But primary schoolers, who are going to have a long, busy, snackless morning, need something more substantial if they want it, rather than to eat according to your disinclination.

It's been said already but I think two dinners and then a very light breakfast is the wrong way round. The DCs have a handful of dried fruit, porridge or weetabix, cheese on bread/toast, full fat greek yoghurt (much better than the sugar laden 'low fat' options) or fruit. Milk to drink. Jam and honey are only allowed at weekends, I agree about loading them with easy access sugars not being good. HFW has some fun breakfast options, you could maybe prepare some easy sandwich fillings the evening before for them to eat (cold spanish omelette is gorgeous and will smell less than freshly made, smoked salmon and cream cheese on bagels would be lovely as well, he does a carroty raisiny salad that would be good in a pitta bread for breakfast).

DD2 in particular loves breakfast, it's her favourite meal of the day and she'll happily have three times as much as anyone else, whereas in the evening she's really not that hungry and picks at her tea. I can see why if you are pregnant and suffering from morning sickness you might not want to be a short order chef first thing in the morning but it's worth offering your children some complex carbs and protein for breakfast alongside the fruit and yoghurt. There's a lot of evidence that children who eat a good breakfast perform better at school so you should try and get them into good habits now.

Have just read your last few posts sunshine - you are none of those things.

Your attitudes towards food etc may be slightly skewed, but that is not failing at life - it is just a minor blip which can be altered.

Please get some sleep and then have another read of some of the posts which were made by posters with experience of disordered eating etc - hopefully these will help a bit. With respect to your thoughts on yourself, please speak to a real life person and ask for help - you need to be much, much kinder to yourself than you are at the moment.

In all cultures all around the world, people send their children to school with a good breakfast. Please understand it's not greedy. It's totally normal.

As for your other posts, it's awful to see someone put themselves down like that. Im sure you have a skewed view of yourself and none of it's probably true. If you have deeper issues, please see someone about this or post here or another thread. Maybe someone can advise you.

My ds6 and dd1 both have porridge and fresh juice for breakfast. My ds is at school all day and is always starving when he wakes up. Nothing wrong with breakfast as long as your not force feeding you child let them stop when they are full.
Ooh and the porridge is made with full fat milk too!

It's filling enough if there's plenty of fruit! And fruit is carbs, yogurt is protein so really it's just missing some healthy fats (seeds or nuts/nut butter?) and its a complete meal!!

I often give my DC this too with lots and lots of fruit, flaxseed, pumpkin seeds, hazelnut butter and some hemp mixed in too . Fruit wise bananas are best for filling you up and giving you lots of energy, some berries, Apple and kiwi. It's a brilliant way of working their way towards your five a day too. I find it filling so their little tummies must too.

Op your last few posts are very concerning. I know this thread has been hard going, but do you think you could talk a bit about your mental state at the moment? It is not normal to believe all those horrible things about yourself.

Mn can be full of criticism, but it can also be full of support if you need it. Is there anything we can do to help you in general at the minute?

In the gentlest way possible, your children will learn their self esteem from you. If you hate yourself so much, they will learn to hate themselves too. I think it might be worth looking at these issues now before it spirals even further out of control.

for you, I think you need some support.

Mine has a chocolate waffle and a glass of milk, have mercy on me.....

I'm sick a lot too. Always have been. Too tired? Throw up. Too many stops on the car? Throw up. Spike a fever (which I am also prone to)? Throw up.

My kids are the same way, actually. Long ago a doctor told me my body was just very effective at ridding itself of germs. He may be right :)

I'm pregnant now too, how far along are you? Do you think hormones are playing into this self doubt and negative self talk?

OP you are working so bloody hard to do the right thing and make everything good for your DC. That's coming across in your posts.
All of those mean and nasty things you're saying about yourself? They're heartbreaking. And they're not true. Of course they're not true.
The best thing you could do for your DC is find someone IRL who can listen to you and be kind to you. A good counselor would be ideal.

Yank, there may actually be something in that as usually I am very healthy.

I have twice been admitted to hospital with tonsillitis and glandular fever as I couldn't swallow antibiotics properly and I was put on a drip.

I really don't starve my kids.

I'm 5 months :)

It doesn't matter what I believe about myself just the children being happy / healthy despite annielouise trying to goad me last night - that's why I don't care about that as those children are very loved and well cared for but it's not enough. Have had counselling it doesn't work for me because I know what I am and you can't do anything with that. Anyway look - it doesn't matter the baby needs sorting.

It's all about you isn't it.

Yes it is

I was not trying to goad you Sunshine. I was trying to make you see sense about the kids' diet. You were obviously not thinking straight but hopefully you can see that now, which is good for the kids.

Yes, repeatedly insulting people is well known to get them to change their views.

I listened to the people who were polite, who tried to empathise and who made helpful and above all kind suggestions.

You - I ignored for as long as possible because you kept saying 'it's all about you' in a manner I can just 'hear' nasally and grating.

I am ugly; I am useless; I am stupid and I am lacking sense talent and direction.

But it is NOT about me. It never has been.

So on that score I ignored you as someone clueless. I haven't changed my mind.

The thread can be all about OP. She needs support.

I find you calling yourself such dreadful things very upsetting. I wonder why your self esteem is so low that you use such awful words about yourself. I think it is very sad. You are clearly a loving mum. Where is your husband/partner in all of this? I hope he doesn't call you those names :(

You didn't listen to anyone until about page 12.

I didn't repeatedly insult you. I think the worst thing I said was you're being stupid.

I kept saying it's all about you because you kept posting about your wants/needs/likes regarding breakfast - i.e. it WAS all about you, when it should have been about your kids.

You obviously have issues with the self-loathing otherwise I'd be a bit tougher but don't accuse me of something I haven't done. I didn't try to goad you. I tried to get you to see what you were doing to your kids.

This is AIBU - did you expect us all to be trained counsellors that would know how to handle this? Why didn't you post in Chat asking people to be gentle?

You've clearly got some issues going on here so aren't thinking straight but don't single me out with your twisted nastiness as I will defend myself. How on earth am I clueless when you've now conceded to what we were all saying? You opened up a can of worms for a number of people on here that had unhealthy mothers that foisted their issues on to them regarding food. It's a very sensitive subject, hence the passion from so many people when you weren't listening for the first 12 pages.

With kids very few things in our life's are all about us. If op wants this thread to be about her it can be. She needs our support not our judgement. Haven't we all had days we feel like op ?? I know I have . for you op and I hope you have someone in RL to give u a hug xxxxx

Regardless, I wish you well and really hope you get some help for the sake of the kids. It's quite obvious now you need more than a chat with the health visitor about a healthy breakfast for the kids. Leaving the thread now as despite feeling sorry for you I won't be a punchbag for someone that's not thinking straight.

Annie - i don't wish to speak to you Continue to post by all means but I don't want to engage. I will JUST say - I don't expect trained counsellors of course not. However I said i found it helpful and I do. You on the other hand are not helpful. Likewise cherry you were keen to distort my words last night weren't you?

Fanjo - I do!

At least I can see why I think some of the things I do and hopefully start to make some slight changes. I really don't have a clue what I'm doing in case no one had noticed!