To only let my children have fresh fruit/yoghurt for breakfast?

[Sunshinesunflower]

They have plenty of healthy food during the day but I don't really want them thinking the day has to start with them shoving lots of hot food or sugary cereals down themselves.

There is plenty of fruit for variety and just a small amount of plain yoghurt.

Aibu? I have always disliked the concept of breakfast so fruit seems a reasonable compromise.

I could not give my son just fruit and yogurt for breakfast.

He has either toast or porridge with some fruit afterwards if he wants it.

How you can say giving a child breakfast is making them greedy I do not know.

Well, I think some people are but as I said, that's okay :) I'd never think someone who made suggestions and didn't insult me was trying to get at me; i'd just say thank you :)

I don't think it's making them greedy; as I said to me it feels greedy and this is what I am working on.

I haven't seen your other threads so I'm just posting as I see it hence the suggestions. I have an eating disorder, mine manifests in different ways, usually that I can't stand people eating around me or eating in front of others. I see that as greedy even though rationally it isn't
If they like porridge you could do overnight oats

Here you go. Prep it the night before, no effort in morning
www.buzzfeed.com/samimain/overnight-oats-recipes-to-restore-your-faith-in-breakfast

I can sympathise and relate to that in a way good

I don't mind people eating in front of me at a designated eating place - a cafe or table - but I hate people eating on the street or similar!

You feel got at as you wouldn't accept what we were saying. Do you really think we've said all that just to "get" at you? Why would we? We've gone on about it as it's clearly not right for kids and because your attitude towards it is skewwhiff. Now you seem to admit there's a problem, so good.

Annie - I am actually trying not to engage with you; you've been desperate for a spat with me, you know full well you have!

It isn't going to happen!

No, I haven't Sunshine. Sorry but that's in your mind as well. It's taken 13 pages for you to admit there's a problem. We've all only been concerned for the kids.

Oh, I imagined you calling me stupid and repeatedly telling me 'it's all about you.'

Well don't worry: no argument from me. I am indeed very stupid. I am also a shocking parent. So there's no need for you to say so is there? I've said it myself. No argument whatsoever.

No one on this thread is "desperate for a scrap", the reaction you have received is because your ideas about food are extremely distorted and damaging to your DCs if you leave them unchecked.

As I have said there is no need for an argument as I agree but I do believe repeatedly posting the same lines over and over is indeed looking for a reaction of some sort when the lines posted are not flattering.

I'm glad to see your dc are going to get a more varied breakfast - I hope I stayed the right side of the line, and wasn't confrontational.

Sunshine, because so many of your posts were about you and what you wanted and what you perceived to be right, and what you felt was an acceptable level of food.

You batted away everyone's advice for 13 pages just about. Yes, people went on about it but only because you kept digging your heels in.

Yes, I probably did say you were stupid (so no you didn't imagine it), because your views towards food/breakfast are!

Who wants the scrap now? You didn't like how the message was delivered but you fought it so in the face of that people made the message stronger and stronger as it was like talking to a brick wall. But good you've finally seen it and the kids will be fed a decent breakfast from now on.

No I agree. I'm stupid, selfish and lazy, ugly, incapable, messy, excessively hairy, horrible haircut, forgetful, dozy and lack comprehension.

See there's no need to insult me. That's one thing I will beat you at hands down!

So you don't have to post? I've done it, for you.

Just to clarify I know you didn't say most of the above, I'm just explaining you don't have to insult me because I hear it all the time anyway.

Who says those things about you OP . Please ignore them.

Me, I do. They are true it is fine but it just means people don't need to say then again.

They can't be true OP. They really can't. I am sure you are none of those things. We are our own worst enemy sometimes.

This thread isn't funny any more.

I feel bad because I thought I was joining in with the joke but there is nothing remotely funny about the last few posts.

Op if that's really how you feel about yourself I'm very sorry. I also suspect you're wrong. Most people are flawed but very few are terrible and you don't need to do yourself down.

Sunshinesunflower something is going badly wrong for you right now.
This is what I've picked up from your posts:

• weird attitude to breakfast (obv, that's been done to death!)
• these insults that you hear. Either there is someone on your life who needs to be out of it, or it is insults ingrained in your own head, which you need help with
• when describing your kids' other meals, I lost count of the number of times you said "home made" - which I feel sounds defensive and lacking on confidence. Homemade is great - but doesn't need to be banged on about
• and thinking of offering bagels, you asked if they should be bought or homemade. Who asks that? Homemade if you want to, bought if it suits you

Where is your confidence? Who has replaced it with the insults?

Chill Winston xx

Go to bed, have a good night's sleep and then sort out your new breakfast routine tomorrow. And stop giving yourself grief- life doesn't need to be this stressful

I recognise you as well OP

I'm sorry that things are so hard for you right now, but I really think you and your children need professional help. Be kind to yourself

OK, as I expected - the insults are ingrained in your own head.

Get counselling lovey.

Yes OP, a good nights sleep now, and some bagels (love bagels!!!) tomorrow will work wonders And kindness. Be kind to yourself