To only let my children have fresh fruit/yoghurt for breakfast?

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They have plenty of healthy food during the day but I don't really want them thinking the day has to start with them shoving lots of hot food or sugary cereals down themselves.

There is plenty of fruit for variety and just a small amount of plain yoghurt.

Aibu? I have always disliked the concept of breakfast so fruit seems a reasonable compromise.

Not had chance to read all the replies, so apologies if I'm repeating what has already been said but.. Gluttonous?! To eat breakfast?! Have a word... That's absolutely ridiculous, and quite frankly a dangerous attitude to pass on to your children.

Fruit and yoghurt is not a sufficient breakfast on its own. My 22 month old has either porridge with fruit, weetabix with fruit, scrambled egg and toast, rice crispies and a piece of fruit..you get the idea. Oh and he is a perfect weight with very healthy attitudes towards food!

Fair enough OP, I see your comments about health. Maybe your DCs would like lentils though, might be worth a bash?

Yes your last post you definitely are projecting your issues of food onto then, have you given your junior school child the choice of breakfast, instead if foisting your breakfast ideal onto them.

I was not going to bring up your past posts, just stating that maybe you need to examine that this is more than about you disliking the concept of breakfast.

This thread is making me so hungry!

I think you are being a bit controlling even if you don't mean to be. Even if you're not up for a big breakfast for yourself, growing children should I think have access to a range of foods. Within reason I let dd choose what she fancies for breakfast be it brown toast, porridge, weetabix, boiled eggs or indeed fruit or yoghurt. Some days she's even asked for a sandwich and I've happily obliged as I'd rather her go off to school having eaten well. Why are you imposing your meagre preferences on your children?

No but you KNOW that by even mentioning it others will start cottoning on and I namechanged for a reason - anyway it is done now.

Dd11 has fruit and yoghurt as hates breakfast and I insist that she at least has this, I put a packet of "breakfast biscuits" in her bag for break though as she is always hungry mid morning. Ds8 has porridge , banana and toast, dd2,has Rice Krispies , Apple and toast . weekends they have pancakes/muffins or cooked breakfast.

i think we all know there is a difference in the sugar found in fruit and the sugar found in haribo!

No. There really isn't a difference. Sugar is sugar is sugar. There are of course other nutrients in fruit that aren't in haribo, but the sugar is the same sugar. See also honey. It's sugar. The same sugar as is in haribo.

Give the cheese and Apple a go
Or a raisin bagel toasted with some cream cheese?
I love greek yoghurt and raspberries but with a handful of granola or aldi does a topped with linseed which would pack some good fats in
Or some peanut butter in the yoghurt

Scrambled egg on toast?

Too much fruit is obviously not good for children but they don't have too much fruit. They have fruit in the morning and a small amount at lunch.

Sunshine, this sounds like a really fraught area for you. My sympathies. I came from the opposite from your parents: a mother who had a real horror of greed and gluttony and invested self-control around food with huge moral worth. Kind of like you. As a child I never complained, but I often felt hungry. I was anorexic by 12 and have had a lifetime of issues around food. I am now really, really struggling not to pass them on to my children. I think I am failing.

Please don't walk away from this thread thinking we're a load of shovelling, gluttonous vipers on a secret mission to force-feed your children pop tarts and Sunny D . This is so, so important. Why don't you start another thread, forgetting the 'concept' of breakfast, to help you explore your feelings around food and get some support with that?

Bagel sounds nice as well. Would you make it or just buy it? I can pick some up from sainsburys tomorrow.

I really, really feel so ill at the thought of egg ... Just can't manage that now in the morning!

I hate eating breakfast. I am rarely hungry before 10am except when away from home when a full English at 8pm is fine - I have no idea why!

However, my children always ate a 'good', filling breakfast - porridge, cereal, toast whatever, to keep them going till lunch.

It's called break 'fast' for a reason...

Sunshine - you say you don't like the concept of breakfast because you don't like the thought of eating so soon after getting up.

So instead, your children go without carbs and protein from supper time (you say that is at bedtime - I am assuming 7.30pm or thereabouts), until lunchtime the following day - which is a minimum of 16.5 hours! That is really not healthy for them at all.

Eating some carbs for breakfast, and/or something with protein in it is NOT gluttony - it is normal and sensible. Restricting what your children eat for breakfast as much as you do, is not normal, honestly.

As another poster said, you have trained your children to accept this breakfast - that doesn't mean it is the right thing for them. It does sound like your issues with breakfast are affecting their diet.

There really are plenty of healthy options for breakfast - toast and peanut butter, porridge, eggs (which don't make people smell), pancakes, good quality cereals bagel with cream cheese and smoked salmon - and yes, sometimes fruit and yoghurt. Please let your children have a more varied breakfast!

Oh, and the reason so many of us are telling you that your children's breakfast is not right is not because we are feeding our children crisps and milky ways for breakfast, and no-one here thinks that is a healthy breakfast - it is because we know that children need a healthy, balanced diet, that is not only balanced over all, but is also balanced throughout the day, so that they get the food groups spread over the day - not all their protein and carbs in the last 7.5 waking hours of their day, then nothing but fruit and yoghurt for the next 16.5!!

Blimey how could a slice of wholemeal toast or a bowl of porridge ever be considered gluttonous? Very odd perspective.

Oh no, I really don't devora - some of the answers have obviously just been insulting but that's aibu

My mother ... I loved her but she was a funny thing and the clear your plate message was combined with the message about don't get fat.

I've always been a grazer. I really am, for a healthy person, sick a lot which I know sounds like the ultimate contradiction in terms but you know how some people are prone to being headachey or have a dicky tummy or similar? With me I'm sick. And I hate being sick! (Who likes it I know!) in my pregnancies I always vomit loads, I'm horribly travel sick, and if I take medication I often vomit it up - annoying! - have been hospitalised as a result.

Snacky type foods are more comforting for me this big meals and I obviously want my children to feel comforted and healthy so o give them fruit. I think for lunch it's like lots of little snacks so that is fine and an evening meal is normal, that's okay.

I find often when you know where your own daft thoughts come from you can tackle them :)

Why are to still talking about eggs? There are plenty of other foods available rather than egg that don't smell.

I like eggs! I eat a big breakfast and small lunch. It's better to eat more at e beginning of the day, rather than stock piling it in at night.

Again, it's about you and what you need and want. Not your kids.

I just buy bagels. Or fruit bread? That's nice with Philadelphia on it
It's just a change isn't it?

Fruit bread is lovely

especially with several inches of butter

So tomorrow's shopping list is bagels, fruit bread, cream cheese :)

They have plenty of healthy food during the day but I don't really want them thinking the day has to start with them shoving lots of hot food or sugary cereals down themselves.

Why does the day have to start with hot or sugary foods down them if they don't eat fruit and yoghurt?!
There's plenty of other healthy breakfasts out there. Fruit and yoghurt is perfectly good, but there's loads of stuff for variety too that is good.
Kids are growing. What necessarily is what you want isn't what they need so you're BU to foist your choices onto them.
There's bagels, croissants, (carbs to get them through the school morning) non sugary cereals (cornflakes, rice krispies, shreddies)
They should have a choice.

Ahhh much better op , glad your taking our advice

I'm so glad you are trying to heed some of the advice. Honestly we are not trying to get at you but we are concerned.