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AIBU?

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To think I shouldn't pay?

516 replies

WhinersAreWeners · 22/03/2015 18:35

My friend and I have boys the same age, who share a hobby and attend the same group related to it. Over the last few years we've taken them to various independent events to do with it. The latest was yesterday. I saw it advertised, told her my boy was going and she said hers would too. It was some distance away and an all day event so we decided to drive the boys, then go off shopping & for lunch etc. The tickets for said event were £20 each. Friend was fully aware of this, knew it was pay on the day. No issues there.

So yesterday we get there, friend has no cash so I pay for both boys and she says 'I'll give you the money when we get to town' I think nothing of it. Later we're having lunch, Friend receives call from the place saying son wants to leave. We go back, they say he won't participate, sulking etc. friend chats to son who is basically petulant and moody & says he didn't get put on the team he wanted to be on so wants to go. Causes a scene. Friend takes him home.

This morning I recieve a text. Saying 'off on holiday to day- just to let you know, won't be paying for yesterday as son didn't enjoy it'

Now, she knows I've already paid for her son. She's not short on cash. I think that's really rude to expect me to foot the bill??? I know I told her about it but I didn't invite son and make her think I'd pay??

Don't get me wrong- it's not that big of a deal- it won't make me stop the boys seeing each other or anything. But I do think a bit less of her? Aibu?

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foslady · 23/03/2015 22:42

I'd be tempted to text 'Wow, your sister's brave - hope you enjoy the holiday otherwise her bank account's going to suffer big time'

LindyHemming · 23/03/2015 22:46

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VivaLeBeaver · 23/03/2015 22:47

I'd so be bad mouthing her at the school gate! Fucking bitch.

AliceLidlLovesWindlePoons · 23/03/2015 22:47

Definitely get the money from her DH while she's away.

Tell him why you're asking, after you've got the money off him.

debbriana · 23/03/2015 22:53

God the damn chick of her , wow!

StarOnTheTree · 23/03/2015 22:58

I think you should post a link to this thread on your Facebook OP

Thankyoumrspatterson · 23/03/2015 23:04

She's unbelievable! What a pig lizard!!

mamasilla · 23/03/2015 23:05

Brilliant thread, so much fun!

mamasilla · 23/03/2015 23:05

I would charge her interest

BadLad · 23/03/2015 23:06

I bet she never tips!

BlackeyedSusan · 23/03/2015 23:15

perhaps you should make her pay it back by being so bloody persistent and annoying about it, that she will pay you to get you to shut the fuck up.
I would be asking everyone she knows to remind her as well.

BlackeyedSusan · 23/03/2015 23:17

let your dh h mentionit, preferably in front of a load of other people.

winewolfhowls · 23/03/2015 23:18

I am so checking back to see if there are further replies

Ludoole · 23/03/2015 23:36

Im a doormat and even i would have been more forthright in my reply! Shock
The bloody nerve... Seriously she is not worth having in your life!!!!

Strokethefurrywall · 23/03/2015 23:57

Unfuckinbelievable!!! What a thieving douchebag... Given that the friendship is totally over, I'd be telling everyone "we" knew about her behavior. And I would pester her every single day about the $20 until she coughs up. If she ignores calls, I'd pester her loudly at the school playground! Shame her into paying up. Daft bitch! She is appalling!!

ilovelamp82 · 24/03/2015 01:10

Come back OP. We need to know what happened.

FuckkityUp · 24/03/2015 01:24

Keep the texts.

textfan · 24/03/2015 03:53

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Shannaratiger · 24/03/2015 04:12

Taking the piss!! Shock Next time have the right amount of cash in your purse for your Dc only - have done that before!

AuntyBrenda · 24/03/2015 04:30

Just caught up with the last 24 hours. What a cheeky freeloader.

Moln · 24/03/2015 04:42

Definetly let your DH mention it, her DH is either going to know what she's like and pay back or be like her and won't. Either way you'll get the money back or still be in the same situation.

Are you on FB and friends with her? I'd take this off text and bring it to her FB page. Make sure you tag her too.

I'd also mention this to a lot of people she and you know.

Ooooooooh · 24/03/2015 05:05

Send her a link to this thread

I'd text back 'Keeping the £20 is theft and it's quite nasty taking advantage of my good nature, I lent you the cash in good faith because you happened not to have any on you. It's is your responsibility as parent to raise your sons dissatisfaction/refund directly with the event organiser'

Secondly I don't think your last text was correct. Its is her responsibility to approach the event leader, I don't know why you text about your reasons not to approach the event leader.

Furyfowler · 24/03/2015 06:34

Are you and her on facebook? If so share this thread and tag her in it. All will see what a scrounger she is x

RebootYourEngine · 24/03/2015 06:57

BadLad - i dont tip but if i owe someone money i always pay it back.

londonrach · 24/03/2015 06:58

Start charging interest...Grin