to wonder why you think I care about your marital status?

[JessieMcJessie]

I've just received an email from the personal assistant to someone I am meeting later today. Her standard signature at the bottom of the e-mail (name changed of course) is

Mrs Brenda Jones

I sometimes see communications from other women signed off "Brenda Jones (Mrs)"

Why on earth do people do this? Do any of you do this?

NB although her name is not really Brenda, it was an unmistakeably female name, so it wasn't to stop any confusion about her gender. And I myself have a unisex first name but I still never put Mrs on my letters or emails (nor Miss before I was married).

I suppose it's just old fashioned but how awful that society ever thought that marital status and ability to do a job were in any way connected.

I have to say that I agree with theOP about addressing people by their first name. It is absolutely the norm to use first names now. If anyone calls me Mrs Practice I immediatey say "Please call me Bit. Mrs Practice is my MiL "

I'm guessing Bren wanted you to call her Mrs Jones. which is a little bit...I dunno how to say this...put it this way...I'd think she was a bit of an uppity idiot. There, I've said it. I would also very determindly call her Brenda.

Damn it I missed the deleted post. Bet is was a good'un!

It would be useful to have Mr, Ms, Mrs, Miss at the end of all names on work e-mails. We now have a load of Indian colleagues and it is difficult to know who is male or female (and they may have the same problem with names foreign to them).
Give it a couple more generations and we'll all be Ms (though I have read that we all used to be Mrs until Miss was introduced for unmarried women so we'll be back where we started).

I missed it too. Ah well!

Fwiw if someone calls me MrsNow I always tell them to call me by my first name. But if they use a title at least use the one I've told you. It doesn't offend me it just irritates a bit.

I missed the deleted post too - am wondering if BA us one of those people who believe that the state has no claim on you to pay taxes etc as long as you never confirm your name or register it with a state body. Forget what they are called - Ecclesia or something?

Ah well, it's gone now !
You're getting a bit silly now Closer! Time to come off the thread and seek out some company in real life, perhaps?

I think you mean Freemen closer

There's a great thread on here about them and their utterly bonkers beliefs

Is it half term early in some parts of the UK?

It was soon after my post about changing my name. Probably called me a very very very thick and no sense of self muppet!

As far as I recall it wasn't that personal, Bambambini. If you look at my post, it was something to do with arguing that regardless of whether you change your name after marriage or by deed poll, your real name is the one given to you at birth. As if that actually has any meaning in the real world.

Bambambini, as I remember, that's pretty much exactly what it said.

That's it BitOut - brilliant thread, bonkers concepts regarding names and the state, fascinating reading (some people actually believe this stuff!)

Plenty of company , thanks for your concern babbity. Not sure who made you the arbiter who is allowed on the thread though

Nobody said you are not allowed on the thread Closer, just a kind suggestion that you might be better off having a little break as it's content appears to be upsetting you.

I always use Dr outside work. It is my title since I have a PhD, medics only get to use the title as a courtesy, they are not real doctors. I never use it at work though, it's all first names there, and since half of us are Dr it seems a bit pointless to use our titles 'Hello Dr Smith, I'm Dr Jones and this is Dr Brown, Dr Green and Dr Black'.

Didn't detect much kindness from you - not that I need any. But I'm not upset by any content, just somewhat bemused that someone thinks it's ok to make sweeping assertions that all women who have done a particular thing are dim. I'm secure enough in my identity and intelligence not to be upset - though I do think you were / are being rather goady and deliberately insulting

Legsofsteel why do you need to know if your Indian colleages are male or female? . You obviously already write to them on a first name basis so no need for Mr/Mrs/Miss forms of address. Would knowing their gender change how you relate to them?

You keep rising to the bait Mrs. Closer.

Why the fuck are you deliberately baiting Closer, babbity? Seriously, what's wrong with you?

Because she can and is superior to Closer - one of these thick, mindless, lack of self worth thickos - basically she deserves it. The disdain is practically dripping from her posts.

Admitting baiting, babbity? Ie breach of talk guidelines? Reported

Wow! Closer, you've reported me! I am so upset. Grow up !

Wow! Closer, you've reported me! I am so upset. Grow up !

Wow, ironic much?! :o

It never ceases to amaze me just how much this topic is deliberated upon.

Bambam , your post is incoherent. You sound very angry. Take time to calm down before you post and then you might make sense.

Her posts have been a lot more coherent than yours.