my dp NEVER tips

[suzzieanneba46]

My dp just refuses ever to tip. This is because he worked in a pizza restaurant when he was a student and never got any of the tips as he worked in the kitchen.

Aibu to think he needs to give this up and just go along with social norms?

Years ago when I did some waitressing I certainly didn't take offence at a 'monetary patronising pat on the back'. Always very gratefully received.

There's one woman at Pizza Hut who I ask for and I always tip her. She usually only charges me for one adult buffet when I take my son as we don't eat that much between us. I tip her the money I saved on the kids meal. People might see that as wrong but she's great.

I am with you FuckItBucket

If you find someone you like, cultivate a relationship.

What's wrong with that?

At my local restaurant we are treated great.

Sometimes they will throw in a free dessert for one of the children or give us a bigger portion of something so we can share free of charge. They make sure we receive any latest vouchers for money off in the paper and bring them over to us especially.

They go above and beyond because we are good tippers and they know us. Of course everyone else gets great service but they do go above and beyond for us because I guess when we tip they know we appreciate them and with 7 of us, they work very hard running back and forth getting drinks etc.

I get fantastic service and they get a tip and know they are appreciated. It's a win win for us all.

I'm not getting involved in the rights or wrongs of tipping in the modern era but just wanted to point out that this is NOT an American import. Tipping began in Tudor England when guests in private homes gave a little extra to the host's servants in recognition of the extra workload created by them staying. This then evolved into tipping in coffee houses and beyond. Most western countries have tipping as part of their culture.

That's not what I'm insinuating at all swirly

Explain then, instead of throwing around stuff like hysterical.
From your posts:
the minicab drivers were providing a service but also using their brains. Given the choice, who would you choose as a passenger? Someone you knew to be a nice person rather than any of the other random gits or pukers out on a Friday night who might also be regular customers?

Insinuating that anyone who doesn't tip is a random git or puker. Seeing as that's what the discussion is about after all. You're lumping pukers, muggers, bikers and non tippers all together.
(WTF's wrong with bikers?!) Christ, even more nice stereotyping there..

Do you really understand what you're saying when you say that tipping should be banned?
Given your above argument this statement says it all. Basically it's - Do you really understand what you're saying when you say it should be banned as they shouldn't have to pick up any riff raff and us generous tippers are worth far more than that, dahling.
Look at our money and how we deserve better service.
Unbelievable.
If that's not what you meant, explain what you did. Instead of screeching "hysterical" and not elaborating.

Don't tip or tip

It's very unlikely you will end up sat next to each other in a restaurant and have a full on fight about it.

In RL no one gives a shit.

I'm stunned at the number of non tippers. I always tip 10% (unless the service has been poor). And no, I'm not rich, I don't live in London or the South East. if my DH refused to tip I'd find it a huge character flaw.

I think the people who tip automatically are ridiculous, I'd consider not dating someone for such lazy thinking; in the UK, I tip for above average standard service only.

If I had to save for weeks/months to be able to get £40 without tip together to take the family out, I honestly would rather not bother. Because chances are, the meal will end up as disappointing in some way and I'd rather make a special effort at home.

Unless the service is appalling and the meal crap, I would always tip but having done this sort of job a long time ago, I know what it meant to me at the time. As for tipping to be banned, that's just ridiculous, does that mean I can't give the binmen a fiver each at Christmas, and the window cleaner a bit extra when he does a great job?

I would be more embarrassed by someone who always tips, leaving a tip after a poor meal or service- paying extra for a below par experience just because they think that it's expected would make me question their intelligence.

Wow I never knew people didn't tip. I budget for it when going out. Who knew not tipping was an option??? I'm afraid I would take a dim view of anyone I went out with not tipping (they can afford it). I would never be able to go back to the restaurant again. Of course I don't tip if the service has been bad, but not tipping as a rule seems really poor form for those who can afford it.

I can't believe people are getting so angry over tipping

Some jobs attract tips and some don't. It's social convention. You can choose not to follow it but you won't be able to change it so getting angry with those who do follow it is just crazy

There is no point demanding justification for it, just accept it. No need to be so irritate.

I don't think it's a London/ Se/ regional thing at all, although service charges are probably more common in London and other big cities.

(WTF's wrong with bikers?!) Christ, even more nice stereotyping there...

SwirlyThingAlert Clean your spectacles.

I didn't say bikers. I said bilkers, meaning people who dodge their bills.

Here it is

And that's not to mention the danger of accepting a bilker or mugger. limitedperiodonly Thu 05-Mar-15 16:05:18

Do you want to apologise?

I always tip if the service has been okay and I wouldn't be in a relationship with someone that never tipped. The tip is built into the waiter's wages so if people don't tip their wages and subsequently food prices would go up. In addition service would probably not be as good. As far as I'm concerned people who never tip are therefore being subsidised by those who do.

I was brought up to tip in restaurants, unless the service was really poor, so I automatically do it now without thinking (decaf please feel free to question my intelligence, I am quite happy using my brain for purposes other than automatic tipping and am confident that I am at least reasonably intelligent!)

I do not automatically tip hairdressers, taxi drivers etc but will often round up to the nearest fiver. If I went out for dinner with someone who didn't tip and there was no good reason for it I would think less of them.

Biker

DH is a biker btw

Or at least he rides a motorbike.

He's not like he's Daryl from The Walking Dead

I'm a bit confused, I live in the USA now but when we come back to visit we always see a service charge included on the bill, so does your DP not pay the service charge then?

My friend who waitressed (at Disneyland) throughout college told me that servers used to fight each other over who had to serve the British tourists as we have the reputation for tipping so poorly...

I leave a small tip if the service has been good and I have the cash on me, but if I don't have the cash I wouldn't worry about not leaving a tip.

I've worked as a waitress and gotten tips and minimum wage. I've worked in retail and not gotten tips and still been on minimum wage. Yes waitressing is hard work but not more than other jobs I've had. I don't see why people who work in retail are less deserving of a tip than people who work in hospitality.

Completely agree about the minimum wage argument. You all who tip in the U.K, why not also tip your sales associates, box office staff, cleaners at your work, also?

But southeast dweller, is your argument that if you don't tip everyone you shouldn't tip anyone? How does that make any sense?

I do apologise for how this reads but i feel very strongly about tips.

I do not tip, EVER! People are paid to do the job. Thousands of people are on NMW and dont recieve any extra, thats life.

Four years ago i came out of the care sector. Its a NMW job and not a bloody penny over. I have cleaned up sick, shit and wee every single day i was a carer.

I ve injured my back moving people who are unable to move themselves. I ve done shift work, 3 weekends a month, nights, every single xmas day, boxing day and new years day to care for people whos care has to be done whatever day or time it was.

I ve sat with and held the hands of people on their death bed telling them its ok to go now. The job involves you constantly being surrounded by death and very very ill people. All this for NMW.

Was we ever tipped? Was we fuck! I truley believe the care sector is the hardest job out there. So if people think im going to tip someone whos dropped me off somewhere or who has brought my meal to me and wiped afew tables or someone who washed my hair then they can bloody well get stuffed!!

Its not rude to not tip, its fucking rude to EXPECT IT!!!!

Your job sounds shit countingthepennies, but nothing to do with tipping.