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To Feel Absolutely IRATE At The Lack Of Non-Pink Girls Clothes

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TooTiredToThinkOfAUsername · 03/03/2015 12:35

Argh!!!!!

I felt fairly annoyed with gender specific clothes for DS. Now I have DD it makes me want to scream. She's not a fucking princess. She's hopefully going to be a strong independent woman.

Any tips for stores selling non pink non crap girls clothes would be MOST welcome :)

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FirstWeTakeManhattan · 03/03/2015 18:10

THat's not what your OP said. You said you wanted "Any tips for stores selling non pink non crap girls clothes." And that the lack of non-pink clothes made you irate.

So that's the point that most posters addressed for you Confused

Anomymousmum123 · 03/03/2015 18:12

Genuine question but for all that hate pink clothes for girls, did you all not dress your sons in blue because that is classed as a baby boy colour? Just confused as I have never put much thought into baby clothes colours before.

OP not sure where your looking but tesco, sainsbury, next and mothercare all have lots of clothes in other colours, yellow and navy seem popular thus season!

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TooTiredToThinkOfAUsername · 03/03/2015 18:12

Oh and I do actually take on board what people have said about not making pink into such a negative thing that I risk turning pink is bad into girls' things are bad and thus giving DS a very negative stance towards females.

But at the same time can't we say that some of the things widely accepted to be associated with females or femininity are bad? Can't we say that they're limiting?

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TooTiredToThinkOfAUsername · 03/03/2015 18:13

Firstwetake yes that's true. But I was just responding to some posters who have said I abu by caring about pink.

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TooTiredToThinkOfAUsername · 03/03/2015 18:15

Anonymous I did put him in blue. And felt confused by that at times. But not irate as I didn't feel that going doing that route is limiting.

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Royalsighness · 03/03/2015 18:23

H&M are brilliant for gender neutral clothing, my son and soon to be born daughter have plenty of unisex clothes from there, lots from my son I can hand down to my daughter.

Asda is awful as everything is baby blue or baby pink, my son loves peppa pig but I find everything for peppa is flowery, frilly dresses, and the boys stuff has photos of George on instead, I doesn't much care for George.

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Royalsighness · 03/03/2015 18:26

I do feel like some people make dressing girls in pink seem like a really negative thing, as well as other things that symbolise "femininity" like being a woman is somehow degrading? Like dressing like a woman is degrading? A lot of people wouldn't be comfortable to put DS in a dress and tights but would put dd in "boys clothes"

It's a shame .

MaryWestmacott · 03/03/2015 18:26

I tend to think the accepting of 'boys' clothes for boys but not 'girls' clothes for girls comes more from what adults are wearing. Boys clothes are often mini-versions of the clothes their dads are wearing, the colour palate is very similar to most mens casual clothes. But most adult woman don't dress exclusively in pink frilly things. Pink is a childish, girly colour and used sparingly by most woman wanting to be taken seriously, blue is a staple 'basic' colour for both men and woman's wardrobes.

Pink is associated with little girls, barbie, 'princessy' woman and fluffy types. Blue doesn't have all those negative connotations. I've got lots of clearly girls clothes for my 21 month old DD in blue, but I've not seen any clothes designed for a boy in pink in normal high street shops.

Better than saying 'no pink' is making it a range of colours. Also consider taking it's 'power' by buying pink things (toys etc) for your DS. If you wouldn't consider doing that, then perhaps you are being just as gendered in your view as the people who make a globe in different shades of pink as girls couldn't possibly play with something unless it was made in pink...

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TooTiredToThinkOfAUsername · 03/03/2015 18:29

I have brought a number of pink things for DS - he had pink tights and tops and has a pink doll too.

I like what you say about taking its power Mary...

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TooTiredToThinkOfAUsername · 03/03/2015 18:35

This thread did start off as a bit of a silly rant but there are some sides to it that do worry me. And I don't know what to do for the best... Some of you do sound quite wise though and I will give some serious consideration to what you have said. Thank you to all the people that have made shopping suggestions too. Most encouraging!

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Royalsighness · 03/03/2015 18:38

Good on you tootired, that's brilliant.

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catnipkitty · 03/03/2015 18:42

My 3 girls ages 10 and 9 (twins) all choose to wear boys clothes...basically trackies and loose t shirts. We buy from the supermarkets. They hate the girls clothes...too pink, too fussy, too tight.

BeyondRepair · 03/03/2015 18:43

I think its really unhealthy to try and mold your child, and be too rigid about anything, she will want a princess dress at some point i hope you let her have it.

BeyondRepair · 03/03/2015 18:43

why are trackies boys clothes Shock for goodness sake! Girls dont like loose clothes also? Confused

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TooTiredToThinkOfAUsername · 03/03/2015 18:44

Haha Confused :) too right!

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Cantbelievethisishappening · 03/03/2015 18:45

what people have said about not making pink into such a negative thing that I risk turning pink is bad into girls' things are bad and thus giving DS a very negative stance towards females.

Sorry OP but oh dear god.
Talk about over thinking... what an absolute crock of shit.
I cannot believe people are posting this sort of crud in response to the OP

I have two girls OP and mainly shopped at GAP, Next, M&S, Tesco and John Lewis. Have you looked online? (haven't read the whole thread)
I also used to buy boys clothes such as jumpers.

TheFairyCaravan · 03/03/2015 18:46

I have brought a number of pink things for DS - he had pink tights and tops and has a pink doll too.

See that's exactly what confuses me. It's fine for boys to wear pink, play with pink clothes, dress up as princesses etc, but if a girl wants to do it she won't be a "strong independent woman!"Hmm

BeyondRepair · 03/03/2015 18:47

I cannot believe people are posting this sort of crud in response to the OP

The whole thread is a crock of crud, if I may say so Wink its a non issue and plenty of clothes out there that are just normal clothes.

Waitingonasunnyday · 03/03/2015 18:49

DD won't touch pink at the minute. Most of her stuff is from sainsburys BOY section. She would prefer to be a boy. I tell her boys and girls are equal & can do all the same things so it's no better being one that the other. Which isn't strictly true but might be slightly truer once she is older...

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TooTiredToThinkOfAUsername · 03/03/2015 18:52

Beyond repair if she wanted it herself she could have it. Yes.

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BeyondRepair · 03/03/2015 18:54

Phew good to hear it op.

mommy2ash · 03/03/2015 19:08

i can't ever understand this argument. op i find your premise quite insulting, shes not a fucking princess i want her to grow into a strong independent woman. do you really think so little of your parenting that you assume your daughter wearing pink girls clothes with deem her in some way weak and dependent? i don't see how the two are linked? what happens if your daughter just likes the colour pink? will you decide liking the colour pink isn't as worthy a choice in a girl as liking the colour blue or yellow or somehow not the same badge of honour as buying pink tights for your son?

as it happened my dd always loved the colour pink it doesn't make her any less than anyone else. at the moment her favourite colour is blue but i don't look for any hidden meaning in that.

of course clothes shops are divided by gender how ridiculous would it be to not have them that way. do you shop in the mens department? how much gender neutral clothes do you buy? do you have the same issue with adults clothing as you do for children?

it all seems to me like taking political correctness and running with it till you are out of breath.