To Feel Absolutely IRATE At The Lack Of Non-Pink Girls Clothes

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Argh!!!!!

I felt fairly annoyed with gender specific clothes for DS. Now I have DD it makes me want to scream. She's not a fucking princess. She's hopefully going to be a strong independent woman.

Any tips for stores selling non pink non crap girls clothes would be MOST welcome :)

Polarn o pyret does do some gorgeous stuff!!! Good shout :)

I think I need to be a bit richer though ;)

where do you shop op, I have never ever ever ever had a problem over 8 years of finding a variety of color clothes.

BTW I think its dangerous to insinuate that pink = princess and so on, Its best to play down color significance, I did a little dance inside when DD started to say she didn't like pink, but my response is " I like so many colours and that includes many shades of pink but I also adore, turquoise, " etc etc etc.
DD also has always naturally gravitated towards so called boys toys, but I have never called them thus, and I do not steer her away from dolls, she is who she is and will have her own likes and dislikes. If numero 2 adores dolls, so be it.

Plenty of non pink clothes, its only an issue if you make it one

are you Perhaps looking for this to be a problem? I can't imagine where you are shopping that only sell pink clothes. my dd is eight and although she does like pink and I am certain she will grow into a fine woman even with this taboo preference I have never had a problem getting clothes in white red navy green purple black brown blue.

beyond I have a dd2 the same. If I did not find tomboy a bit she would be one, she certainly calls herself a tomboy. Her older sister got lots of pink girly girl pretty princess not my cup of tea dresses from GP and other relatives and Dd2 won't wear them which is expensive but I am too principled to disagree with her. dd1 loves pink and dressey.

Tbf the proportions can sometimes be a bit off if you shop for girls in the boys section. Boys tend to have longer bodies. And you have to size down.

Ps I don't mind pink.

Ds sometimes wears pink.

Believe me, it was worse when 15yo DD was a baby - everything was pink and you didn't really have the option of internet shopping like you do nowadays.

(I feel really old when I remember the pre-internet days )

When dd was still a baby and I was complaining about the same thing, a friend with two dds said that no matter what you do, how you dress them, what you say, at some point your dd is going to want everything in pink. You can't change it, it is programmed into them genetically . Little girls will love pink. At some point.

Better to get it over with when they're young enough for it not to matter too much, I thought. So when dd decided she liked pink, as indeed she did, I went with it, and got her everything in pink.

By the time she was 6 she hated it, and at 15 wouldn't be seen dead with anything - anything at all - that is pink.

It's like little boys and guns. They will shoot each other with fingers or twigs or invisible AK47s or bazoukas. I know a few men who love guns. They were the ones who weren't allowed guns when they were small. I wonder if that's coincidence or not?

another i dont like the phrase tomy boy becaue most young children liketo climb trees it doesnt mean they are boyish in anyway.

it irriates me and anoyes me that girls say - yeah i was a tom boy - cool and yet no man would say - yeah i was a nancy boy, loved dolls - not cool.

girls who climb trees, and play with so called boy toys are not tom boys just girls!

i adore pretty things, pretty clothes and beauty, i am very happy for my dc to wear dresses to climb trees in if they so wish ad its safe!

I've found every shop but www.thepinkstore.com/ have plenty of clothes...

M&S sleepsuits, only a minority of the suits are pink (or blue) and the plain white are cheapest, and the pack of 7 animal ones are the same price as pink or blue depending on side

www.marksandspencer.com/l/kids/baby-up-to-2-yrs/essentials/baby-grows-and-bodysuits

You have invented the problem. YABU.

ITs not true that the non pink is more expensive. Go to Primark, multipacks in rainbows in every single store. Can't get more widely available than that.

Did I read it correctly that you're looking for sleepsuits, OP?
Does it really matter that much? Buy her the boys ones, if you're that bothered. She won't be able to tell the difference if she's asleep.

Yeah, I've just looked back. Your daughter is 6-9 months old, and you're worried about her wearing sleepsuits with pink on them.
She needs to be warm and comfortable, that is all.

Oh gosh. Another thread full of faux outrage over a non-existent problem.

And loving the way that if a child with xx chromosomes likes pink things and princessy things that's bad because "it's girly" but if same child climbs trees that's good as she's doing something a boy does. Oh the irony.

We must be due another thread from the proud mother of a child with xy chromosomes telling us about how much her child loves his Disney dresses.

I didn't know there was a Pink Store. Thanks for the link. I'd really like a pink electric whisk.

www.thepinkstore.com/Pink_KitchenAid_Hand_Mixer_p/khm512.htm

"I didn't know there was a Pink Store. Thanks for the link. I'd really like a pink electric whisk."

I shunned diamonds when DD was born and had a hot pink kitchenaid mixer instead. Next stop, lap dancer.

I have two dd's and really don't find it a problem, mine have clothes from m&s, next, boots, sainsburys, morrisons and tescos.

So I started reading this and thinking its a bit much to actively avoid pink. DD2 is wearing jeans and a pale blue top. DD1 is in School uniform, but doesn't have that much pink.

Then I read an update and it was about sleepsuits aged 6-9 months. Where's the harm in wearing pink sleepsuits for 3 months.

BTW DD1 loves pink and princesses etc. She also loves Batman, cars and getting dirty.

Really dont get this obsession about avoiding pink for girls that seems to occur on Mumsnet.

2 DD here and again, not a problem finding clothes in any colour. Retailers seemed to have wised up about people not wanting to only buy pink. Except for Tesco …the girl range in there looks like a Katie Price wedding threw up over it.

Even baby stuff in colours other than pink and blue can be found pretty easily with a quick online search.

…so in conclusion OP, you must be BU as the clothes are definately out there! No need to be irate.

My 7 year old DD wore her Elsa nightie with an old faded Spiderman top over it last night. Pretty cute look!

Don't think pink clothes are an issue?
Fine. Find it all a bit trivial and inane? Fine.

Yes, there are lots of non pink clothes for girls and lots of non blue clothes for boys. But in some shops there is a real gendering of clothes. The girls section has lots of pink and frilly items. The boys section has lots of dull colours and transport images. Yes there are alternatives but a lot of clothes do fit this divide. A lot of clothes fit this stereotype.

To me, this idea of appropriate clothes and colours for boys and girls is all part of the same problem which includes the issue that a number of you have raised of gendered toys, it includes lazy prejudice about suitable activities and subjects to study, different skills that boys and girls are each supposed to possess... right through to different jobs and different pay...

Stereotypes are limiting.

Hence, I get irate.