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AIBU?

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To report this childminder?

232 replies

Happyyellowcar · 26/02/2015 21:22

Was at playgroup today with DD and DS1. A local childminder was also there with several small children in tow. I see her around a lot as she goes to many of the same groups as I do. One of her charges was maybe a year old and obviously just toddling. During snack time I was standing behind DS2, holding DD whilst chatting to a friend when suddenly the little toddler who happened to be sitting next to DS1, toppled head first off her chair and onto the wooden floor. She landed on her head and her neck actually crunched. I hadn't even noticed she was there until she fell off as I was trying to stop DS2 from pinching all the breadsticks. Another mum picked up the now screaming toddler and looked around for the childminder who was sitting quite far from the table, chatting yo her friend. She was actually turned away from the table and on the far side from where this toddler was sitting. She was passed the toddler and have her a cuddle but I'm sure didn't realise how serious her fall had been. I feel really incensed on behalf of the toddler's mother who must think that her child is in safe hands whilst she is at work. I've used a childminder myself with DS2 and the thought that this might have happened to him is sickening. No mother would have left their own child on a chair at such a young age without keeping a closer eye, surely? How else is she being neglectful? AIBU to want to report her?

OP posts:
cartoonsaveme · 28/02/2015 15:12

I go to a playgroup with children in. Mums and carers chat. Kids play. I have 2 climbers - these things happen

bigbuttons · 28/02/2015 15:12

Is IS neglectful because the CM was no where near a climbing 1 year old. That is NOT the same as standing behind said child whilst it is climbing and not being able to prevent an accident despite being vigilant.
This is hardly rocket science.

cartoonsaveme · 28/02/2015 15:14

That should say 60-70 children. If cm had several to watch it's perfectly likely it could happen. We all watch the children collectively

bigbuttons · 28/02/2015 15:17

Clearly no one was watching the 1 year old who fell though, well apart from people who weren't actually being paid to mind it.
I can picture the scene very well, I have sadly seen it for myself many times.
She doesn't have right to have a chat either.
She is paid to look after children, to keep them entertained and ensure their emotional and physical well-being. If she can grab a quick chat whilst doing her job then all well and good. That's not what was happening though was it?

tobysmum77 · 28/02/2015 17:49

It makes me wonder if people judge me for not supervising dd enough at toddler group when with the other eye I am helping to organise it. Not sure what the solution is to that one.

ragged · 28/02/2015 18:37

At toddler groups even if you hover & try very hard to never for a microsecond take your eyes off your child: you can't actually do it. Something or someone will distract you, & in that moment things go wrong.

What OP would be reporting the CM for would be sitting across the room. Sitting across the room was her sin. There was also a whole room full of other people who might have spotted & prevented the imminent fall (not just OP). In a good toddler group we watch out for each other's. I also can't really get a picture of how bad this level of supervision is, because a small child's abilities can change fast (the kid who couldn't move more than 3 inches an hour one week starts moving 3 feet a second the next week).

Since no harm done I would file away but do nothing for now.

cartoonsaveme · 28/02/2015 20:18

I have been to loads of toddler groups. Often I and other mums help run it like Toby. Mums attend to get a break from being stuck at home. DC have freedom to play with freedom. Mums and carers collectively supervise. CM do the same. If people don't accept this then they need to pay the extra for a nursery.
Btw I have never seem DC strapped in chairs at a toddler group

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