to be feeling mortified about this facebook post

[moodymargaret78]

background. We have 2ds aged 7 and 5. dh has a good job. His salary pays all the bills. I do a bit of party plan but mainly I am a sahm to 2 dc who are now at school. I have been toying with the idea of going back to work but dh didn't seem that keen. Well unless term time only.
I have lost 2 close family members in the last 18 months so I probably haven't been firing on all cylinders. Even so I generally manage to do housework etc during the week. Weekends involve any additional laundry such as swimming stuff and I iron on Sundays. During the week dh doesn't have to lift a finger. I do bedtime, cook and wash up etc. At weekends he does a few bits but I still do almost everything. It seemed like a fair split and I though dh agreed.
Anyway during half term I did various local thjngs with dc but also spent 2 separate days visiting siblings who live further away. As we lost our mum 5 months ago this is important.
Anyway I have been browsing facebook for work purposes and saw this post from dh.
So moody is off visiting her sister. So yet another day where nothing gets done in the house. Why can't she see that if we both do our jobs during the week than we can relax and spend time with kids at the weekend.
I am a little shell shocked. Aibu to be feeling mortified and hurt about this. Obviously need to have calm conversation later and ask him to delete.

What a cock - I hope he likes doing everything for himself as he seems to be headed that way with an attitude like that (and that's after I reconsidered my initial response on the assumption that he didn't call you 'moody' and was in fact referring to you by your real name )

He is a knob,simples
Why on earth would he do something so nasty?

I'd be beyond livid. How bloody dare he so publicly but behind your back too.
So rude! I don't think we could recover from being so publicly thought disrespected like that.
I was out all last week did fuck all round the house as I was too busy with the kids having adventures. That's what half terms about if you can do it. More so in your situation visiting family
Twat

Has anyone commented on it? What an utter arsehole! I wonder if he only wrote it as he thought you wouldn't see it because your away? If so that kind of makes it worse IMO.

I am sorry OP, hope you're ok

I'd be so upset! Poor you. What did he think he would achieve by posting that so publicly?

Bloody hell Moody

Your 'D'h is a prick.

Don't stay calm get angry and knock him out and tell him if he thinks you visiting family is avoiding your 'duties' then he ain't seen nothing yet.
Drop dc off with him and fuck off out for a couple of nights.

He's a cheeky twat and a heartless wazzock.
On fb tut

HJGranger in orig post she clearly says she does EVERYTHING during the weeks including bedtimes and he doesn't have to lift a finger. This was about her being away from home visiting family.

OP, I'm really sorry but your husband is nasty, arrogant, self centred, unsupportive, a complete dick. Wtf must his friends/family have thought reading that on facebook? I'd have been mortified.

The fact that he can't even be arsed to put his own children to bed a couple of times a week sums him up. What a cunt. IMHO obviously.

Don't whatever you do comment on the post. I don't think I'd even be able to manage a face to face conversation. I think I'd be so fucking livid I'd need to stay with friends/family for a few days and send him a letter saying in no uncertain terms how let down I feel. I am really, really upset on your behalf!

That hurts .He is wrong and hopefully he will realize that. Like you said, try and discuss calmly - don't do anything rash. Is he a good DH in other ways? Unfortunately I think Facebook and the like gives us a means to voice thoughts that we should keep to ourselves. I have thought lots of bitchy things about my husband that in retrospect were completely unwarranted, but of course didn't post on facebook. I think he should post another message saying how unreasonable he was. Hopefully this is just a one off OP.

Oh op, how hurtful of him to think that and then post it on fb. He should be ashamed of himself.

I honestly don't know how I would handle this but you need to have a conversation with him to let him know how upset you are and that he has crossed a line. After all that, I think you should tell him you're thinking about returning to work so he is going to have to start helping out at home. Just because you are currently a sahm does not mean he should not do his share, working full time or not.

I wish you well because this is going to be hard but you cannot ignore this x

Just a thought, although you probably don't want to, please take a screen shot just in case you ever need proof of unreasonable behaviour.

Why doesn't he want you to work? I'm always suspicious of men who don't want their wives to work.

Really shocked reading this. Agree with the advice to screen shot. Otherwise, I'm not sure what I would do. Not sure I could forgive this.

What a twat - have you confronted him

My main problem if I were you would be a strong dislike for your DH. Even if you sort things out you now know he is the sort of person who deals with relationship problems by publically humiliating his partner.

People won't have thought anything negative about you BTW when they read that other than 'she's married to a git.'

Op, hope everything is ok.
Your DH is a twat of the highest order!!

He's supposed to be the one person who is on your side. I would be gutted.

Actually he said the wife. I have now taken a screenshot. He is away in a work conference tonight. I took dc with me. Dh was at work although not so much of the d at the moment. Although actually I am not even sure it is about family time. He has a football season ticket so is out (sometimes takes eldest ) for 5 hours each Saturday there is a match. A local play farm visit ended early as Grand prix qualifying was on.
I guess I already knew it was a horrid thing to do but I guess I just needed it rearming to give me strength for my next move.
Thank you for the replies.

yes it wasn't a private message.

Not so dh after all op. I thought people have conversations with their partners, instead of airing their dirty laundry in public. I would tell him what the hell is he playing at!

That's really so nasty. YANBU!

I took it a different way in the reasoning he may have is if you don't have to do housework over the weekend you and he could do more things instead of worrying about housework. I wouldn't have taken it in a bad way.

OP I'm pretty sure anyone who reads that is thinking: what a wanker, humiliating his wife like that!

Even his pals. I would, even if it was my friend who posted it. So he has embarrassed himself more than you - at the very least.

What thehobbit on a public place for all to see, instead of talking in private with his wife. Basically he slated his wife in public, and make her look very bad.