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Original poster

to ask how old you were/how long you'd been with DP when you bought a house?

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Sadface1 · 22/02/2015 20:21

As it says above really.. how long did you wait until you bought a home? and at what age? or do some people prefer to keep renting? We can't afford a mortgage but it doesn't stop me spending all evening looking on Zoopla :(

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steff13 · 22/02/2015 20:23

I was 29. My husband was 31. We'd been married about 11 years.

wigglesrock · 22/02/2015 20:25

I was 22, my husband was 24, we'd been together for 5 years and were engaged.

BabyDubsEverywhere · 22/02/2015 20:25

first dh, 1 year, 17 years old. We didn't rent first
second dh, 1 year (and a couple of months), 22 years old. rented 2 places before bought. Would rather have bought straight away but the divorce took too long to sort.

idiuntno57 · 22/02/2015 20:25

4 and a bit years. We were 31 and got married the next week. But that was eons ago when it was possible to get a mortgage before you were too old to have a mortgage.

LizzieMint · 22/02/2015 20:25

I bought my first house at 21, but that was a long time ago! had a 100% mortgage (not long graduated) and only bought because mortgage repayments (even at 8% ish) were much cheaper than rent. I feel very lucky to have been able to do that at the right time. Wasn't with DH though, the first house I bought with him was my third house.

Janethegirl · 22/02/2015 20:25

Was 22 and been with partner for 7 years.

TheReluctantCountess · 22/02/2015 20:26

We haven't. We've been together nearly ten years. I'm 36 and he's 38. We can't afford to buy.

ghostyslovesheep · 22/02/2015 20:27

we got our first house together at 30/34

but I had my own house - bought aged 28 - and so did he

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Sadface1 · 22/02/2015 20:27

wow so a long time together before buying, were you renting together beforehand? We've rented together for 2 years and a mortgage would be less than our monthly rent but it's getting a deposit and a niceHmm bank to lend us the money in the first place Sad just frustrated tonight at the lack of security with renting! Wine

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Liara · 22/02/2015 20:28

Was 25, had been with dh 6 years, married 4.

HainaultViaNewburyPark · 22/02/2015 20:28

We were both 28, and had been together for 2 years (although we'd known each other for 4 years). We lived there for 9 years - still miss that house (both DC were born whilst we lived there). Although we have much more space in our current house, which will be fab once we've done all the work that needs doing.

dimdommilpot · 22/02/2015 20:29

I was 24 when we reserved but 25 when we moved in. He turned 29 the day we moved in. 5years and 2 DDs later we are still here (though getting itchy feet and always on right move). We had been together 2year when we moved in, we are not married and have no plans to.

kewtogetin · 22/02/2015 20:29

We were both 23, not married and our first home was 28k with monthly mortgage payments of £180! This was a long, long time ago. But buying when we were young allowed us to trade up every few years to where we are now.

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Sadface1 · 22/02/2015 20:31

babydubseverywhere & lizziemint - wish the market was still like that! I'd love my own house to decorate, i've seen enough textured wallpaper to last me a life time in our last few houses, but it's not worth the hassle to get it how we want it when the landlord then decides they're going to put it up for sale and we move on (again)

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Murphy29 · 22/02/2015 20:31

Both 22 and had been together 18 months, that was 6.5 years ago.

HoppityVoosh · 22/02/2015 20:32

I was 21 and DH (DP at the time) was 25. We'd been together 9 months and I had a 2year old from a previous relationship. Now 2 and a half years down the line we're married and I'm pregnant.
He lived in flat shares with friends and I'd rented then went back to live with my parents to save for a house deposit when my relationship with DS's bio-dad ended.

moggiek · 22/02/2015 20:32

17 years old, together 2 years. Got married a few months later, when we'd finished decorating the flat.

NickyEds · 22/02/2015 20:32

Still haven't. We're 35 and have been together 17 years. Could afford repayments but can't afford a deposit.

cowmop · 22/02/2015 20:33

I was 18 nearly 19, we'd been together 18 months. That was 15 years ago when a 3 bed semi cost us £50000, so it made no sense to rent. We were lucky we bought when we did, we sold for £115000 four years later and without the initial boost would have struggled to buy once prices went up.

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Sadface1 · 22/02/2015 20:33

doubt I could buy a garage with 28k now, and we're in Yorkshire - dread to think about London etc. Funny how house prices go up so much but wages don't seem to Hmm

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molyholy · 22/02/2015 20:35

I moved into to dp's home he had with his ex after about 6 months. Got married nearly 8 years ago. Bought our first house together 4 years ago

paxtecum · 22/02/2015 20:36

20 years old. Together for 2.5 years.

Kim82 · 22/02/2015 20:36

I had been with my dp for 3 years when I bought my first house at 18. He was very financially abusive and when we split up (after having 2 children) when I was 24 I was thousands of pounds in debt while he had no debt whatsoever, he ripped me off when buying me out of the house, the small amount I did receive went towards my debt and I'm now almost 33 and still renting as I can't afford to save for a deposit while he is now the owner of 2 houses.

I console myself with the fact that I'm happily married with four children while he's gone from failed relationship to failed relationship. I'd rather rent and be happy than have his life and 2 houses!

MyOneandYoni · 22/02/2015 20:36

We both had our own houses before we got together...

Janethegirl · 22/02/2015 20:36

Was renting before we bought though!

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