Family angry over name change

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I've always hated my first name, it's a difficult to pronounce/spell Welsh name that I also think is hideous. My father speaks Welsh, and so he mostly chose it and convinced my mother to go along with it. I also have an ugly welsh middle name, but it's a bit easier to pronounce and spell.

Anyway, I decided to change my first and middle name legally, and my family are angry about it, think it's stupid and mock me. They still call me by my old name, and my father told me I was being disrespectful to him for changing it. and he would never ever call me anything but my birth name.

As a kid growing up, I always wanted a pretty name that didn't make me stand out, like Chloe or Emily. I felt ugly because of my name and it just constantly reminds me of the difficult childhood I had with my home life and at school. Nobody is supportive of my name change which makes me feel like my choices and opinions don't matter. AIBU?

YANBU op. If you're living with your parents I don't think I'd push it too hard right now, it's too hard living in a war zone. Focus on gaining independence from them. Have you asked your gp for help with your anxiety?

I'd be sad if DS changed his name (although not if he swapped to his middle name). I chose it with love and care and I really like it. I hope he'll really like it too. If he didn't, I'd rather he had some other name he really liked so (I hope) I'd get over my disappointment.

If your dad is very traditional, presumably he'd be fine about you changing your surname on marriage? Might be worth reminding him of that.

Your mom will let her bf give you verbal abuse?you don't deserve this.
I had this as a child from my mother. Although we get on now ill never forget the things she said and she has damaged me.im a very insecure adult and i put up with shitty bfs because i thought i didnt deserve any better.
Do you need this in your life?
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Testing, I've seen psychologists, psychiatrists, psychotherapists, tried all sort of therapies since I was 13. I don't believe they can help me anymore.

I really hope I get offered some housing soon, because I don't know how much more I can take.

I named my son a name with options and offset his less common forname with a very classic middle name so that if he did want to change it hopefully it would be a derivative of the name I chose - not that I'd mind if it wasn't.

Point being I named him fully aware he may have different opinions to me so made possible name changes as easy as possible. I find it hard to understand when parents are so dismissive of their children's feelings.

You have done nothing wrong just get away from there asap!

Yanbu OP. My Daugter changed her name at 18. She went to live with her mother, whilst my 2 sons stayed with me. She told me she had never like her original first name. The name she choose started with the same initial and the diminutive I used for her works for both. I felt a bit hurt to start with but I've got over it and the odd occasion I call her by her original name she answers and then says. Who is (old first name!). Stay with it your parents will accept it eventually.