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Mean to not have asked him to get off? At the park

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Pyjamaramadrama · 20/02/2015 10:20

Took ds to the park, it was on the way back from somewhere and getting dark so was only spending 15 minutes there at the most.

The park had completely emptied apart from one little girl. It's a big park, lots to do. Ds headed straight for a single swing, there are other swings but this one is a bit different.

The little girls parents called her to go home all within 60 seconds of us arriving. The little girl started crying that she wanted to go on the swing again before she went and stood by the swing ds was on. She stood there all arms crossed and grumpy faced waiting for him to get off.

For a second I thought I might ask him to let her have a go but thought better of it as she had the whole park to choose from.

Her parents stood there for 2-3 minutes before calling her away.

Ds is the most sharing child you could meet really he's always the one standing at the bottom of the slide letting all the other kids go first, he's always very patiently waiting for toddlers to decide if they want to go down the slide and stopping bigger kids from bashing into them so I thought sod it he's having his turn.

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LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 21/02/2015 14:57

It was your 'sadly' in one of your posts that got me, fanjo, as if those 'on the other side' were just not doing-the-right-thing and were clearly unable to see that.

This thread is such a non-issue, polarised views and none of them wrong. It doesn't need to be so heavy.

Celticlass2 · 21/02/2015 14:59

You were right to not tell your son to get off the sing OP. Why on earth would you.
It'll do the little madam good to understand that you dont always get your own way by stamping your foot.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 21/02/2015 15:10

Well if you read my posts properly you would see i said I didn't think the OP did wrong and I was just saying what I would do.

Anyone else want to single me out from all the posters on thread and dole out a bit of criticism?

Please form an orderly queue

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 21/02/2015 15:13

I also said that it was a minor kiddy swing incident.

And what made me sad was the posters getting all gleeful about teaching a 4 year old a lesson, not the OP.

pilates · 21/02/2015 15:18

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fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 21/02/2015 15:26

Actually counting my posts and singling me out?

Quite sad really.

AuntieDee · 21/02/2015 15:30

I don't understand this whole sharing thing - it sets children up to be disappointed as adults. I don't go to a friend and say 'Awww I like your car - can I drive it today and you drive mine?'. I think children should be taught to wait their turn, rather than the child who is doing, being forced to relinquish their turn. This is far closer to what happens in real life - You don't walk into a busy restaurant and demand someone be moved on as they have been there long enough - you patiently wait your turn. Teaching children that they are entitled to something someone else has is very wrong IMO - created selfish people with some sort of sense of entitlement.

Also poor poor polite child who is the one who is always being told to share with the bossy child who wants a toy that isn't theirs...

DamnBamboo · 21/02/2015 15:30

YANBU. I would not have removed my child under these circumstances.
Why on earth should you?

TheRealAmandaClarke · 21/02/2015 15:34

Why queue? I can just cry and have my go before everyone else Wink

TheOnlyOliviaMumsnet · 21/02/2015 15:46

Goodness me
peace and love please MNers

PiranhaBrothers · 21/02/2015 15:56

< stamps feet and pushes Olivia off the swing >

MY TURN NOW!!!!

< pouts >

Firesidetreat · 21/02/2015 16:25

Sounds like just another tiny incident that happens at the park. What a fuss about nothing.

I wonder how some posters on here get through life TBH.

GahBuggerit · 21/02/2015 16:51

bit late but yadnbu op. not least because the parents had told her it was time to go, if i was them id have been totally pissed off at being undermined if youd have given in to the 'wee' little incredible sulk

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