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to not want to speak to this lady again?

160 replies

Alexaa · 19/02/2015 17:09

DD1 has recently befriended a new girl at her gymnastics classes. She has a brother the same age as DS1 so we invited them around for dinner last weekend.

I have a small hobby that involves me making clothes for my younger DC out of vintage clothes patterns. DD1 happened to be wearing a pale blue smocked dress and DD2 was wearing a pale pink one in a similar design. She asked wear I got these "delightful dresses" from and I told her that I had made them. She then replied with these exact words. "That's a little bit pretentious if you ask me". Then continued talking as if nothing happened. As the night continued, she made snide remarks at certain things. I could have forgiven her if she'd left it at that.

The next gymnastics lesson came and as you do, I was sat on the toilet when I heard her talking about me to another woman saying stuff like. "They were wearing the most hideous dresses that she brought upon herself to make" and "Who actually eats lobster in this day in age". The last one made did it for me. "The size of the house was so large, it looked like Hogwarts had come to life- bet the husband sells drugs." I burst out of the toilet and she saw me, gulped and took off like a five year old, leaving the other lady behind to look all flustered. I was so astounded that any adult would say that. I have no idea what to do. DH has laughed about it and told me she is pathetic, but we are going to a special class tonight when they open the gym up and let you do whatever, and I know she's going to be there. What the hell should I do???

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murmuration · 19/02/2015 20:29

Completely OT, but how do you hire a butler?

Glad you managed well OP.

iklboo · 19/02/2015 20:35

Goady - yes, I know Smile (I have NO clue what gak is. Gok I do know).

More innocent than a smoothie, me!

CocobearSqueeze · 19/02/2015 21:47

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wartsnall · 19/02/2015 21:51

Gave her a wave at the school gates and shout that 'you,ll drop her package off later' - would love to see her face Grin

flora717 · 19/02/2015 21:55

Have a good chuckle whenever she catches your eye. Mime doing some sort of drug thing and wink at her. Every. Time. Make it a massive joke.

countessmarkyabitch · 19/02/2015 22:09

I don't believe her comments were quite as you state. I sense some over-embellishment in your re-telling not to mention how ungrammatical they are

JacquesHammer · 19/02/2015 22:10

Do the next gym lesson with just a touch of white powder around your nose.

try to pay for something with a credit card with the edges rotted away then breezily say "oops not that one".

DancingHat · 19/02/2015 22:18

My mum used to make us clothes because we were so poor! Not pretentious! And our house might have been described as Hogwarts because it was old and dusty and had to be big to fit all us kids in. So clearly the gym mum has totally got the wrong impression. Glad you sorted it out OP.

SweetValentine · 19/02/2015 22:19

This woman haa really annoyed me.I'll try not to sound like a saddo, but it's hard enough trying to make friends, inviting people into your home and making them feel welcome and putting yourself out there a bit and then she goes and pisses all over you.

She was 100% bitter and jealous, and loving her little "insider gossip " on you. It's such a shame, i really hope you don't let it put you off extending a hand of friendship to people in the future.

I'd be furious if i heard someone ripping me apart. Problem is i would probably be more upset than cross.

debbriana · 19/02/2015 22:35

She is definitely jealous. Such people need to be ignored. Make sure she does not bully you.

TrollsTrollsEverywhere · 19/02/2015 23:07

If that is an accurate account of what the woman said to her friend then she has a really weird way of talking Confused

CocobearSqueeze · 19/02/2015 23:37

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LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett · 19/02/2015 23:41

murmuration they have agencies for that sort of thing.

WorraLiberty · 19/02/2015 23:43

It's a shame you don't have pictures of the dresses.

countessmarkyabitch · 19/02/2015 23:44

Did I say lying? Or did I say over-embellishment? Big difference. Merely encouraging OP to clarify the accuracy of the comments.

LineRunner · 19/02/2015 23:50

I thought people only burst out of toilets in EastEnders.

WorraLiberty · 19/02/2015 23:54

I think countess probably only saying what a lot of people might be thinking.

I must admit, I thought either over-embellishment or a completely one sided story.

Otherwise it's just one of the oddest threads ever.

SonnyJimBob · 20/02/2015 00:00

I fancy some lobster now, in my incredibly tiny house.

LineRunner · 20/02/2015 00:09

Dies anyone remember Derek and Clive and the lobsters up the arse of Jane Mansfield? My dad used to like that. He lives in a bungalow.

MetallicBeige · 20/02/2015 00:11

I have never actually tried lobster. Sad

BOFster · 20/02/2015 00:29

I've tried it, but it was defrosted from Lidl. It was rank.

WoodenGo · 20/02/2015 00:35

Any naice middle class mumsnetter would not say 'toilet'. Let alone burst out of one...

LineRunner · 20/02/2015 00:39

True. They would emerge from the lavatory.

dajmibuzi · 20/02/2015 02:29

I love thrifty fashion, retro dining and drugs. Let's be friends OP I would never make fun of you.

I'm joking about drugs. Obv.

hestialou · 20/02/2015 07:00

Not sure how making dresses is pretentious, my mum made a lot of my stuff out of necessity. I will do same when possible as it is so much cheaper then buying kids clothes. Re lobster people obviously eat it as they sell it in lidl. Ignore the woman she doesn't know what she's talking about