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To feel upset, emotional and frustrated?

287 replies

MrsCK · 05/02/2015 18:06

8 days overdue with DC1 can't stop crying, just been reminded of my Grandad who passed away 2 years ago and really need a hug. DH not home from work yet and have the worst period type pains which can't be contractions because they don't come and go.
cry...sniffle...cry

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WilsonWilsonWoman · 08/02/2015 23:11

Good luck Mrs CK! Flowers Cake Brew!

Bananayellow · 08/02/2015 23:13

You'll look back at all this with fond memories... Hopefully.

FightOrFlight · 08/02/2015 23:17

Cue patronising midwife who told me that I was never in labour in the first place and I really needed to consider my pain relief options if I couldn't cope at home with niggles.

I had the same experience Sad Refused to go home (luckily) and went into full blown labour within the hour. Patronising midwife pooped her pants when she looked in to see me bearing down half an hour after telling me to fuck off go home.

Hope everything goes quickly and smoothly for you x

glasgowlass · 08/02/2015 23:18

Fingers crossed it all goes well, quickly and soon for you MrsCK Flowers
Ignore that silly midwife Hmm I had one tell me over the phone I wasn't in enough pain to be in labour & that I probably only had a UTI......DS2 was born less than half an hour later with only my DP there to help me....when I got transferred to Maternity unit after paramedics arrived (2 mins after birth) same midwife told me I'd made her job easy that night. If I wasn't in shock I would have told her exactly where she could go.

Jbck · 09/02/2015 00:15

I've been back n forth to your thread umpteen times you poor thing. Fingers crossed it's all systems go and two fingers up to arsey drawers MW.
Good luck!

BertieBotts · 09/02/2015 00:21

Oh I had a midwife tell me something like that too! Helpful much?!

Anyway I expect she's gone off shift now, so hopefully you have someone nice looking after you instead :)

plinkyplonks · 09/02/2015 00:34

MrsCK - Hope you get a different midwife :( Flowers Can't believe some of the responses you lot have had of midwives.. makes me very nervous!!

FightOrFlight · 09/02/2015 00:46

Aw plinky don't be nervous - all my other midwife experiences have been very positive. You always get one snotty arse in any profession so the good will always outweigh the bad.

You (or your birth partner) can always request someone else if you feel you aren't getting the care you need. My arsey midwife wasn't actually the one in the delivery room when I gave birth, they were all lovely (both times).

snowglobemouse · 09/02/2015 02:54

labour shut down is common when women arrive at the hospital- it's a weird new environment that you don't know so your body doesn't 'see' it as a safe place to give birth. Most other animals find a dark quiet relaxing space before they give birth. your midwife is thick. don't be afraid to tell her to stfu

Fabulassie · 09/02/2015 05:41

I had a midwife refuse to believe that I was in labour, too. It was night shift and she thought I should just sleep until the doctor came back in the morning.

swampytiggaa · 09/02/2015 07:09

Ah good luck. I had similar then ended up being induced. The induction worked really quickly as my body had done the groundwork iyswim x

flanjabelle · 09/02/2015 07:24

I hope you are well on your way to holding that gorgeous newborn!!! Good luck!!

flanjabelle · 09/02/2015 07:27

Oh and not all midwives are like that!! I went in thinking my waters had gone, turns out I has just peed myself, but the midwives were lovely. They were very reassuring and not at all patronising. I felt so silly though. I spent the last few months struggling to pee and that night it just went with a gush, I could have sworn it was my waters!!

FourAndDone · 09/02/2015 09:46

How you going mrsck? You deserve wine and takeaway as soon as this baby is bornWink Grin

SergeantJarhead · 09/02/2015 13:06

I cannot believe the neck of some of these MW! I remember mine asking me and DH what contraception we intended to use ... 15 minutes after DS was born Hmm
Op, good luck, I hope it isn't any longer for you now!!!

Sprinkfest · 09/02/2015 13:24

I remember mine asking me and DH what contraception we intended to use

I never, ever understood why that was the business of the NHS.

SergeantJarhead · 09/02/2015 13:30

Incase we were back within 10 months Sprink?

ILovedYouYesterday · 09/02/2015 13:55

It's standard to be asked about contraception. I suppose some couples are at it within hours of the birth and perhaps don't realise it's possible to get pregnant again very quickly so it make sense to let them know.

Me? I just cracked up laughing when the, I think she was a student doctor, she looked about 12, asked me! At that stage, I honestly couldn't imagine ever letting DH near me again!

SergeantJarhead · 09/02/2015 13:59

Is it standard to ask that soon after a c-section??? What the hell did the MW think my DH was going to do, jump my bones on the NHS bed? Grin

Rosieliveson · 09/02/2015 14:12

I was asked about contraception as I left the hospital ward with my enormous new baby who had been born naturally just 11 hours earlier. My response was "don't be ridiculous" The nurse was rather shocked!
MrsCK, I hope it has all gone/ is going well Flowers

FourAndDone · 09/02/2015 16:07

I so hope your not still waiting mrsck.
Sad

Perspective21 · 09/02/2015 16:17

Mrs CK, been thinking about you today. Hope all is well and you're very busy in labour or already with a delicious newborn xx

Awks · 09/02/2015 16:20

They asked me what I was doing about contraception. I told them that my stitches would do, for starters :)

Hope you're ok Mrs CK

mrssnodge · 09/02/2015 16:26

Anothe one here thinking of you Mrs CK_ We hope you're all OK- very exciting!!

GuyMartinsSideburns · 09/02/2015 16:28

Thinking of you xx