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Original poster

TO BE REALLY UPSET BY RUN IN WITH DD'S HEAD TEACHER?

245 replies

cheekychirpy · 05/02/2015 16:38

Can't stop shaking - I parked in the school car park and left DD2 in the car while I collected DD1 from school. Got back to the car to be met by the head teacher and given a right blasting: DD "could let the handbrake off and the car could roll back".

DD can't get the handbrake off AND the car was in gear so couldn't roll back in any case.

Just feel like shit - am I such a CRAP mother? DD2 is ill and I didn't want to get her out as it's bloody freezing at the mo.

Just want some rationalisation really; and feel maybe that the facts could have been established before I was judged.

OP posts:
ImBatDog · 05/02/2015 16:39

how old is your dd, where was the car parked in relation to where you were picking your other dd up?

DandyHighwayman · 05/02/2015 16:39

Erm

How old is the child left in the car?

MrsKCastle · 05/02/2015 16:40

How old is DD2?

Only1scoop · 05/02/2015 16:41

How old was dc left in car?

Nolim · 05/02/2015 16:42

Calm down
Caps lock off
It is her job to look after the children and she did express her concern. You dont say if she yelled at you or something and she obviously could have shown more compasion but imo she was right to point out a danger to your child.

MrsTawdry · 05/02/2015 16:43

Oh OP. I'm afraid you were wrong to leave DD2 in the car but the HT shouldn't have "blasted" you. Did she shout?

Hissy · 05/02/2015 16:43

A run in?

that's not a run in. nor were you judged.

she was being a Head Mistress and you reverted to child. Ignore and move on.

You had valid reasons for leaving your child there, and she was rude.

Remind her next time that you are a capable adult and that you won't be spoken to like that by her or anyone.

Stop shaking, she doesn't deserve that kind of reaction.

Original poster
cheekychirpy · 05/02/2015 16:44

She's two and a half and was quite happily playing.

There's NO WAY she could get the handbrake off, she doesn't even know where it is/what it does.

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ilovechristmas1 · 05/02/2015 16:44

i dont really think it's a good idea to leave kids in cars,petrol station ok

dont know the age but under 10yrs i would say YABU

ilovechristmas1 · 05/02/2015 16:44

just seen age NO NO NO NO NO

Kachan · 05/02/2015 16:45

I did actually do that once when I was a kid (early 70's) and rolled my mum's Austin Allegro into a brick wall. Thankfully nobody was hurt -until my mum got hold of me-. I was 8 and fairly feral - things were pretty chaotic in the 70s though weren't they.

I see kids left in cars all the time round here though and as far as I can tell there isn't a high incidence of cars rolling around the town.

GoldfishSpy · 05/02/2015 16:46

I wouldn't leave a child that age in the car alone.

Only1scoop · 05/02/2015 16:46

Yabu....

Nothing to do with hand brake....

Dc shouldn't have been left.

DandyHighwayman · 05/02/2015 16:46

Ah. Well at two and a half I would be not leaving them in the car in your situation.

HT was quite right to be concerned. Quite risky imo.

GoldfishSpy · 05/02/2015 16:46

ie big enough to be able to get out of car seat but not old enough to use reasonable judgement

MrsKCastle · 05/02/2015 16:47

Two and a half and 'happily playing'? So not strapped into her seat?

I'm afraid that was a really poor decision, OP. She may not know what the handbrake is, but at that age she could well decide to play at being the driver and press/pull everything in sight.

theendoftheendoftheend · 05/02/2015 16:47

Was she not strapped into her car seat? I leave mine in the car as long as I can see it. Its not a safe guarding issue its a matter of opinion

CoffeeBeanMonster · 05/02/2015 16:47

That's definitely too young to leave in the car.

Only1scoop · 05/02/2015 16:47

I just presumed all strapped in....

Was she not? Confused

Boysclothes · 05/02/2015 16:47

Surely she was strapped in to car seat?

MimiAndPops · 05/02/2015 16:48

Was she strapped into a car seat that she wouldn't have been able to get out of? Could you still see the car at all times? If yes then I don't think you done anything wrong.

monkeyfacegrace · 05/02/2015 16:48

I always used to leave my kids in the car. But remember this is mumsnet. There are aliens, child abductors and dangers AROUND EVERY CORNER.

Original poster
cheekychirpy · 05/02/2015 16:48

Hands up, I shouldn't have left her in there, but it was for about two minutes.

Just assuming that head teacher was actually raising another parent's concerns as it's not like I parked under her window! Smile

That would be stupid....

You live and learn don't you?

OP posts:
tomandizzymum · 05/02/2015 16:49

Too young, far too young, the teacher was right.
We all make mistakes and look back and say, ok that was dumb. Don't beat yourself up move on.

mynewpassion · 05/02/2015 16:49

Poor decision. HT was right to express her concerns, even if it was given a bit harshly