DD been off school sick today and wants to go to a party this evening

[Waitingfordolly]

Stomach ache (though no sickness or diarrhoea) and generally looking peaky, although she does seem a lot better now. She's 11. I have said no she can't go to the party. She is upstairs in floods of tears saying that everyone else's mum would let them go. AIBU?

No way. It's a terrible message to give to your daughter.

No. It's a life lesson, actually. I knew someone who was disciplined for calling in sick on the day of the work Christmas party and then showing up for the party glammed up to the nines...

In our house whatever your age if you're not well enough to go to school/work you're not well enough to go to clubs, hobby stuff and parties later in the day. Your house, your rules though.

No school = no fun stuff either here.

yanbu.

Too ill for school - too Ill for a party.

Nope. No school, no party. I do tend to point this out first thing in the morning though.

Agree, too ill for school means too ill for fun.

Sick enough to miss school, too sick for clubs parties or anything else.

Don't fuck up your weekend for this. She might be ok tomoz.

I agree, it's a "no". Esp if she does actually have a bug, like you say. It's hard, but I think you are doing the right thing.

No chance here either. No school, no partying!

If she's 11 with stomach pains but no s and d could it be possible that periods are about to make an appearance? Could explain feeling bad this morning but better later in the day.

Agree with the majority though. No school, no outings.

Ha ha Primal yes I'm usually slack mum today but I find myself surprisingly resolute on this one. I've offered her the opportunity to sit on the sofa watch property programmes with me, but surprisingly she doesn't think that's such a good offer!

It's a no from me as well.

Too ill for school, too ill for party

*But today

She is either too ill for school and too ill for party or she was swinging the lead and deserves a consequence/punishment.

Either way - no party.

Turning up for a work party after phoning in sick shows some stupidity / nerve!

No absolutely not. If she was too sick for school then she's too sick for a party. Besides the other child might tell a teacher and then you will come across looking like you approve sending your child to parties rather than school.

Too ill for school = too ill for a party that evening, normally. If she is feeling better, it is because she has been resting. She doesn't want to go out and feel ill again, which she would if it is some kind of virus.

YANBU

Wrong on so many levels.

I agree - no party.

She's going to torture herself (me) all evening with repeatedly checking Snapchat to find out what a great time everyone else is having. Not sure I have the nerve to take away her phone too...!

No chance

As said before, no school no party. Its a shame but its the way it is.

Take it away if she starts to torture you. You're paying the phone bill, I presume??
Stand firm!

If she wants to torture herself, that's up to her - a good life lesson learned.