to be so upset at being flat chested?

[alrighty]

Can go for a boob job at the moment.i refuse to wear padded bras as they are so deceiving.
men would get a shock to find there's nothing there.i don't feel feminine,i had hoped that after having children things would improve but no,same as before.i actually feel like crying.the shame at going in a shop to buy a bra from "my first bra" selection.why there isn't some kind of hormonal therapy or something? This cant be normal.im a size 10/12 and couldn't stand to get any fatter,so putting on weight is not a option.

Jake if you are completely flat, as I was, a good surgeon will only be willing to put the smallest implants in. I went from 28AA to 28/30dd which is a small, decent handful and I couldn't be happier (7 years down the line and I still look in the mirror and can't believe how good they look). I never wanted huge boobs, I just wanted something where there was nothing.
I felt just like op, and the problem was that I had no boobs, not anything deeper. I come from a curvy family and I literally felt like a part of me was missing.

OP I think you've been given some good advice which I won't reiterate, I just wanted to say two things.

1. If you really are like picture 37 on the Embarrassing Bodies site, that is not nothing! From your description I was imagining a completely flat chest, or some tiny swellings at best. You do have breasts.

2. You need to talk to your DP. You keep imagining what he thinks. Please talk to him about this. I'm sure he doesn't think the way you imagine he does.

I wasn't going to add a third thing, but please follow the advice about trying different bras. No harm in trying them on and I think you will be surprised.

Up until 5 years ago I was a 32 aa, there was nothing there at all and I hated the way I looked. I had implants and I'm now a 32 dd/e and it's honestly the best thing I've ever done. I look much more balanced out and I've a lot more confidence.

However mine have been problem free I know someone who had issues and had to get them redone.

Small breasts can be a good look. You need some small breasted role models!

I'm speaking as someone who has been somewhere between a 32a and a 32aa (left boob bigger than right) their whole life.

You know, in the 20's the average bra size was 32b???

Op please don't listen to those suggesting implants. It is insane that it is accepted in society today for women to wound and disfigure themselves just to look what society has decided is 'hot'.
Appearance is not important. I know we are constantly told it but it is not and you can work on making yourself see that. You will be a thousand times happier than if you bow to the pressure and insecurity and change your perfectly fine and healthy body.

decaff you definitely can't wear that first white dress with large-ish droopy boobs like mine. I'd be poking down through the holes around the waist, unsupported and gaping horrifically, supported (and that's without even considering the disaster area south of my boobs!) It's definitely the sort of dress you need to be very petite (and toned) to wear.

Here's another stunning actress who has tiny boobs. She even gets them out in Girl with the dragon tattoo
www.aceshowbiz.com/events/Noomi%20Rapace/noomi-rapace-uk-premiere-prometheus-05.html

Op, those measurements are 30B or 28C.

I'm a 29.5 but 30 is too loose on me so I wear a 28 band instead.

I find balconette/balcony bras more flattering than push together bras.

FightOrFlight The Noogleberry system really is very good - as I have tuberous breasts all my tissue was at the bottom of the breast, and I got the extra large cups so I could increase the tissue at the top of my breasts. It did a really good job, I now have more volume and a better shape though I only did it for a little while so only got about a half a cup size size wise.

Going to stick the info here again, just in case it helps anyone. x

Basically it's a way of increasing breast size naturally, encouraging their growth through regular suction (which increases blood flow and swelling, which leads to slow growth over time). It's very good, and didn't cost much at all for the pump and cups, and most of the forumites are lovely (though obvs due to the content the site is NSFW).

There are all sorts of people on there, women who've lost volume after having babies, women who wanted bigger breasts in general, transgender women - you need to make an account to see the pics, but there is a gallery showing long term results here.

Those suction cups are an uncomfortable waist of money. They may have a very short lived effect as they swell your breasts but that goes back down quickly. They may stretch your skin slightly after prolonged use but that isn't growth.
They are a con and prey on insecure people.

*waste

My growth has stayed itsbetter, and if you check out the pics you'll see lots of others have benefitted too - growth is slooow and over months, as opposed to the swelling, which is as you pointed out, temporary, goes down in about and hour. It's the prolonged stimulation of the area and increased blood flow that over time causes the growth.

YMMV of course, but they are good and they do work for a lot of people. I've not got any ulterior motive to recommending them apart from the fact that it's a useful and pretty cheap option for someone who might otherwise consider surgery

whoever said that boob jobs can sometimes look 'horrible and fake' despite the money spent, i just wanted to say that that is a specific look that a lot of women go for. They have to ask for it specifically.
Most surgery you wouldnt even know unless told

I've had a breast enlargement, they look v natural, I had 'teardrop' implants and went for a size that suits my smaller frame. People are shocked when I tell them I have implants. Boyfriends have also been none the wiser; my boobs are soft and have movement, they are nothing like victoria beckham's cone like implants that she once had. I also play a lot of sports and am v active and my boobs don't encumber me at all because I kept to a sensible size. I didn't even have to buy new clothes and still wear a size 8. Shirts are the only thing that can gape a little so I buy a 10 and have them tailored to fit. I still sleep on my front, etc etc etc.

I agree that when they are done well, and depending on their placement, a lot of implants look natural. There's quite a few, however, that just scream 'boob job' for example:

www1.plasticsurgery.org/before_and_after_photo_gallery/case.aspx?id=8110

this is a picture that is being used to actually advertise accredited (American) surgeon's work. It's taken from this website gallery and I'd say that only about 50% of them look natural

www1.plasticsurgery.org/before_and_after_photo_gallery/?procedure=Breast_Augmentation

Results will depend on the body shape of the woman and how her body accepts the implants.

Hello Alrighty. I completely get where you are coming from and YANBU to feel like you do. I'm a no. 63 on that gallery and measure the same as you. Nothing fits me properly. To make things worse, I'm also broad shouldered. Jackets and tops sag. High necks look great until I realise that my stomach sticks out further than my boobs.

I think many people on here, as nice as they are trying to be, really do. not. get. it. As women we are surrounded by images of beautiful lingerie. I try not to look at them because nothing would fit me. Trying the new measuring technique has put me from a 36AAA to a 30C, but I still can't find any bras that fit properly. They are still all too big. Half cup is slightly better, but still sags. When I was a skinny size 8 pre-children, I had some lovely French half cup bras that fitted ok (although technically the wrong size), and they really made a difference to how I felt.

Would I wear padded/silcone gel bras? Over my dead body. I can't stand them. I want to be accepted for being myself, and I'd feel really self conscious with a 'false' bra. Plus they are uncomfortable and just slide around (because of course the bra is still too big). Personally I wouldn't want to be sliced open for a boob job, but I'd never judge anyone who decided that was the option for them.

Several of my friends are also flat chested, so we are definitely not alone. Some do not bother wearing bras at all, some wear bras that are too big. I think the trick is to focus on other areas and personality. The way I look at it is everyone has something that isn't how we would like it. Start looking at other women and spot the flat chested ones. What are they wearing, how do you think they look?

How do you feel about the rest of your body?

Thanks nobra.that helped.rest of my busy...okish,would like to lose some weight and tone up,especially the stomach as if its not completely flat looks huge due to the proportion with the chest .i ll try some bras and try focus on something else for the moment.thanks all for advices.