to be so upset at being flat chested?

[alrighty]

Can go for a boob job at the moment.i refuse to wear padded bras as they are so deceiving.
men would get a shock to find there's nothing there.i don't feel feminine,i had hoped that after having children things would improve but no,same as before.i actually feel like crying.the shame at going in a shop to buy a bra from "my first bra" selection.why there isn't some kind of hormonal therapy or something? This cant be normal.im a size 10/12 and couldn't stand to get any fatter,so putting on weight is not a option.

But you can go bra-less! I'd love to wear strappy vests and plunge tops and all those dainty things my norks prohibit. I am envious of tiny tatas

I'm like you alrighty. I never wear bras as I don't even fill the "my first bra" ones anymore. I was small (AA) before children, but don't measure anything now. I did find it really hard when all the fashions seemed to require large breasts.

I deal with it by picking clothes carefully - basically avoiding anything low cut, or too plain. If you wear scarfs, layered tops, necklaces, small jackets etc it looks fine.

I don't really wear anything like strappy vests without a loose top over it, it would just emphasise how flat I am.

I do hate the way that being feminine is so frequently linked to breasts, it really shouldn't be. I do remember watching something like a Gok Wan show (I think it was him) where he had a woman who was flat chested. He got her to wear some kind of padded bra/fake breast thing, which really annoyed me as it felt like being shown yet again that to be flat chested just isn't good enough.

Have you actually spoken to your DP about this? You seem to be assuming that he's somehow masking disappointment and it may well be no such thing.

You also say in your OP they you are worried 'men' will be disappointed when you take a padded bra off. As you have a DP, then other men's views really shouldn't come in to it at all.

If you think padded bras are deceiving why don't you think boob jobs are deceiving too?

I'm not anti either but I'm curious how you see a distinction between them.

I wouldn't want a boob job as I would not like the thought of something foreign/man made in my body.

I was just like you OP and really unhappy about being flat-chested. I had a boob job 4 years ago in Brussels (cost £2,500) and they did a great job. I only got smallish implants because the idea was that I wanted to be in proportion rather than suddenly a huge pair of knockers. I'm so glad I had it done, and I never feel self-conscious about my boobs now. I know you said in your OP that you can't have a boob job but is it maybe something you would consider further down the line?

I'm like you and I used to wear padded bras, then I met my DH who has always said "anything over a mouthful is wasted"; this has put my view of my body in perspective and I've enjoyed not HAVING to always wear a bra especially on hot summer days.

I had extremely small breasts too op and it really affected my life.
I had breast implants 12 years ago and it totally changed my life.
I managed to pay for them on a payment plan. This could perhaps be an option for you?

I understand how debilitating it can be. I felt so unfeminine and it upset me and undermined my confidence so much.

Just reading your op brought back to me how I used to feel and how I used to look in the mirror and sob at my reflection.

Larger breasted women telling me I could have some of theirs was the ultimate hurt! Or women who said they wished they were like me because theirs were too big. None of the larger breasted women I knew who told me this have ever even considered surgery- so it clearly can't have bothered them that much!

I would recommend speaking to your GP. I was actually put on a waiting list for surgery on the NHS due to this affecting me so badly, but I felt I couldn't wait so went private and managed to pay myself.

I am a small A cup.

I sometimes hate them and other times love them.

I love that I don't often have to wear a bra and a vest will do it. I am limited to clothes I can wear in the summer as I have nothing to hold the tops up or I have to wear a big push up bra.

Mine are nice and pert though.

My husband thinks they are amazing, but I had a man who refused to touch them obviously I didn't see him again

Sometimes I have a mini crisis over them but I am 33 now and as I get older the less I care.

Boob job is fake,but at least u don't leave ur breasts on the bedroom floor.dont think i could get it on nhs,i am very bad at showing that something distress me.i was more thinking in the line of fixing a hormone imbalance.if i get one more post about how people would love to be flat so clothes hang better i might scream.

THErT,did your breasts just suddenly grow overnight?

My mum was the exact same size as me.

Hers started to grow when she was 50 and she went up a cup size! she didn't gain weight but for some reason they just grew.

I love the links to the small chested women, thanks for posting them.

I don't have many curves at all. I used to worry that my husband didn't really like my boobs but then I realised that if he didn't like them he wouldn't spend so much time touching them.

With my lack of curves in general I have sometimes felt boyish, but funnily enough I love that look in others and now try to embrace it.

Just measure myself,came out as a 34 c.ridicolous.cant even fill a 34 a.thanks for all ur help,coming out of this thread now.

i had mine done a few years back and i love them. Mine was all about repairing what i felt was massive damage and stretched skin though. I felt i was deformed under my clothes. It was making me feel shit, so i got them fixed.

I am concerned with quite how bad you feel about them though, as if it defines you as a person, and you think your dh is as preoccupied with your breasts as you are.
You havent failed as a woman because you have small breasts. Having breasts isnt an achievement or a prerequisite to being attractive.
If you want a boob job then look into it, but then youre saying oh, but they'll be fake!
well yeah. You cant wish and wish and natural breasts will grow. You are an adult and if you dont like the way they look, you either need to come to terms with it, or fake it.
The problem seems to be your self esteem more than anything though.
What makes you think your husband doesnt like your body the way it is anyway?

From another flat chested woman - clothes do not look better when you have no/very tiny boobs, can we please put this myth to bed once and for all? Unless you get all your clothes made to measure, clothes buying is a nightmare. Dresses sag, and have oodles of extra fabric around the bust which never looks good, same with any tops with any kind of tailoring.
I used to want a boob job, time has made a big difference to me, I no longer get upset about it, maybe that's just part of getting older and generally giving less of a shit about a lot of things.
My ex was a nasty bastard and didn't help my self esteem any, but my now DH makes me feel like the most sexy woman in the world, and my confidence has soared.
I wish I could help more, just wanted to say that I know how you feel. I remember all too well feeling so inadequate, having been cruelly taunted at school and beyond, never feeling that I looked nice in clothes and that my ExH was entitled to be a shit to me because I wasn't a "real"" woman ( yes, he really did do a number on me!)
Being able to go bra-less, or run upstairs doesn't come close to offsetting those feelings.
Now, it's a niggle, mainly with clothes buying, nothing more, but knowing that you might feel the same in 10/15/20 years doesn't help when it's getting you down so much right now

Was your underbust measurement 34 OP? (just checking as there are lots of online guides which still add inches and I don't know what guide you looked at, before anyone snaps my head off)

Chest was 29.5 and breasts 32 ".

so you should be wearing a 30 bra - in a B cup? Most certainly not a 34 band size at all.

Yeah, that's actually more like a 30B. The old adding 4 or 5" thing doesn't work anymore as bras are very stretchy. A 34A is actually designed for someone who measures about 34" underbust and 35" overbust which is why they would gape so much on you.

I do think the OP sounds as if she's very negative about her body in general - her bum is "already too big" and she's a size 10-12? It what universe is that "too big"?

I'd suggest going and discussing it with the doctor. All of it, including the feeling that her really very small bum is too big. It may be self-image rather than anything physical.

(This from someone who had a negative value when doing the old-style bra fitting measurements - you know, the one where for every extra 2 inches you add a cup size? I was -3. At 30 weeks pregnant.)

I go through staged of loving and hating my flat chest.
I wear clothes that embrace my lack of chest and spent far too much on a bikini that suits my shape.

id try a 30c op and a 30b

True Branleuse, given the 29.5" underbust a C is also worth trying.

You might know this (apologies if you do but lots of people don't) but cup size is proportionate to band size - so a 34a doesn't have the same volume as a 30a, or as a 38a. Very roughly, as you go up a band size you go down a cup size to maintain the same volume - so a 30C=32B=34A and so on. What will be different though is the shape of the cups - the cups on a 34a will probably be wider and flatter than the cups on a 30C, even though if you, say, filled them with sand, they'd hold the same amount roughly.

When the band is too loose, it also makes the cups more prone to gaping as the band doesn't hold them up properly so they sort of fall forwards. So a bra might gape in a 34A, but not gape in a 32B even though it has the same volume because the band will be doing its job better

Measuring people- When you measure do you do it standing or bending over? Slightly odd question!

Both. Measure the underbist standing upright, and measure the overbust leaning forward as close to 90 degrees as you can manage without tipping over

Hey sweetheart, sorry you feel so down about your size. I have mild tubular breast deformity, and felt awful about my breasts for years. There is a forum I went on years ago (if i can find my pics I'd be happy to DM you them) for a thing called noogleberry.

Basically it's a way of increasing breast size naturally, encouraging their growth through regular suction (which increases blood flow and swelling, which leads to slow growth over time). It's very good, and didn't cost much at all for the pump and cups, and most of the forumites are lovely (though obvs due to the content the site is NSFW).

There are all sorts of people on there, women who've lost volume after having babies, women who wanted bigger breasts in general, transgender women - you need to make an account to see the pics, but there is a gallery showing long term results here.

Really, really worth a look for anyone who's unhappy with their breasts and would like to encourage them to grow naturally.