to be so upset at being flat chested?

[alrighty]

Can go for a boob job at the moment.i refuse to wear padded bras as they are so deceiving.
men would get a shock to find there's nothing there.i don't feel feminine,i had hoped that after having children things would improve but no,same as before.i actually feel like crying.the shame at going in a shop to buy a bra from "my first bra" selection.why there isn't some kind of hormonal therapy or something? This cant be normal.im a size 10/12 and couldn't stand to get any fatter,so putting on weight is not a option.

Thankyou. For years I've wanted to try this but forget! Now to find the tape measure.

I think it is ok to have small breasts. There is such a range and I think you are better off than my pal who has such massive ones that it looks v odd and gives her back problems.

I am an A cup so in some clothes probably look totally flat chested. But I am also with a partner who loves my breasts and have breast fed 2 kids so I think they are ok.

I would go and talk to the GP, there is nothing to lose. Some plastic surgery is available on NHS if it is a situation causing emotional upset. Or you could try counselling to accept the way you are. I'd love to be a 10/12, I'm a 16/18. I'm trying to diet but its my body and I love it. You can love any size or shape of body and so can others.

It doesn't really matter what size you are though.

I could turn out to fit a B cup but that doesn't actually make my breasts any larger to look at. They are still tiny.

Clothes shopping is hard work for sure. There are many clothes I can't wear but I guess that is the same for larger breasted women, so none of us really get away with easy shopping experience unless you are lucky enough to have a certain type of body that magically looks great in any type of clothing.

I can't wear anything that shows any cleavage as they just sag, while a good bra can help they still don't look great. My friend with massive breasts can't wear those tops either though.

Night wear is often hard to buy, sexy lingerie just sags.

I remember when I was pregnant going into a maternity shop for a bra and when they measured me the assistant went bright red and stammered about how they didn't sell bras in my small size! That was embarrassing as hell that I was too small for their bras but I laughed it off to make the assistant feel better as she was so embarrassed.

Mine are perky and perfectly round, so there are some positives as well.

I used to want a boob job. I know how the OP is feeling as I have been there but it is something I had to work on accepting.

Feeling this miserable and anxious about a body part is body dysmorphia and you can definitely get therapy for this on the nhs.
A good therapist can help you feel more positive about yourself and focus on things outside how you look.
Please consider this. You shouldn't be this unhappy. Do not have surgery, it isn't the answer. You won't feel happier afterwards and you it's a big risk to change something that really doesn't matter.
Change your thoughts not your body which is perfect as it is.

OP please listen to what statisticallychallenged has to say. She really knows her stuff about bras and lots of us on here have had life-changing bra sizing done as a result of her knowledge. A good fitting bra makes the world of difference.

U2theedge, I wasn't at any point saying it would change the physical size of the OPs, or anyone else's, breasts. But she (and others) had commented on bras gaping, feeling a freak because she couldn't buy a bra to fit/fill a bra (paraphrasing), etc etc. Nothing wrong with trying to fix the small element which possibly can be improved, even if the OP does want to look at a boob job long term.

Also, chaseface, your comment is really unpleasant.

No, but I don't think any of the larger breasted women who have posted have said to the OP "just have implants". Yet you've thought it appropriate to describe large breasts as "boke" and "big fatty boobs" which are both rather unpleasant. Oh, and being cut open due to breast size isn't exclusive to small breasted women either - the 4th most popular plastic surgery operation in the UK is breast reduction. I've seen the aftermath of that, and it's a huge deal.

Don't let it get you down. I love it and am happy not to have big boobs.

Embrace it, don't loathe it.

OP, there was a woman on Embarrassing Bodies who felt exactly the same as you and she did get implants. She wasn't able to breastfeed though, as she didn't have much actual breast tissue. First, you DO have breasts because you have successfully breastfed, I promise you are definitely a woman if you have done that!!

I've got a friend who felt like you did about her boobs too and eventually she also got a boob job and has no regrets. I know you say that you aren't in a position to do that at the moment but maybe discuss it with your DH? He must know how you feel about them and talking about it might help a bit just to share it?

Also do try a 30B bra. Psychologically wearing a bra with gaping bits is only going to make you feel worse.

It's ok to not be greatly happy with a part of your body, it's not ok for it to make you this miserable. It is ok to do something about it. Even if you see wearing more 'moulded' cup bras etc as 'cheating' it might give you enough confidence to be able to actually address it with your GP rather than just finding it all too upsetting? Like, 'ok I know it makes me feel better, now I want to make this a bit more permanent'? I don't know if I'm explaining it very well.

What, so because in your opinion big breasts are deemed attractive, you have a right to be as rude as you like? If anyone had come on and said "I think small boobs are ugly, I wouldn't want to look like a boy" or some such shit, they'd have been rightly told they were being an arse. It cuts both ways.

Painted I remember seeing that Noogleberry system years ago when I was looking at the natural breast enlargement pills etc. on offer. Lots of very mixed reviews and accusations of the 'successes' being people who had enlarged by other means.

One of my small breasted friends and I bought a pack of Natures Gain (very expensive pills). She noticed no difference whereas I saw a change within a couple of weeks. Sadly it only seemed to affect one breast, which was already the slightly larger one! I stopped taking them as soon as that happened .

The ingredients were all herbal/foodstuffs that were phytoestrogens (fenugreek and buckwheat are the ones I remember). Obviously they were in very concentrated amounts but now I'm wondering whether my currently bigger boobs are a result of following a plant based diet for the last couple of years rather than the menopause.

Have you asked your DH what he thinks? He might really like your chest. Why feel sorry for him. If it was a massive turn off when he met you you'd probably know about it! Hobbs cater for the small of nork more and more these days (I think they are trying to attract Kate Middleton to buy their clothes) as the chest part of their shift dresses is quite narrow now but broader on the shoulder. You might really suit them.

I also wouldn't think badly of wearing a padded bra. Your DH knows what's underneath and anyone 'you're deceiving' isn't going to see what's underneath anyway.

Smaller boobs age better too I would think.

It's not the fact that preferences cut all kind of ways. Saying "personally, I prefer the look of smaller breasts" is absolutely fine. Being offensive about other people's body shape is not fine. You have offended me, and probably others, by your choice of expression rather than your actual sentiment. If you can't comprehend that, then that's your problem.

just thing you can grt away with lovely feminine bras at a decent price..strapless bras, oh what i'd give 40E here

Chase as a B cup (so not well endowed) I agree with Statistically that it's an insulting way to refer to larger breasted women. If they already perceive themselves as looking unattractive due to their large breasts you have just reinforced that idea to them.

My ideal would be a C cup, in my head at least (not a C cup head obviously).

When I was pregnant/breastfeeding I went up to a D/E cup and it felt really odd to have my arms brush against the side of my breasts. I just wasn't used to it and was actually very relieved to get 'back to normal' after weaning. < never bloody satisfied! >

I was a 32aa after having children, having always been an a cup before having children.

It really affected the way i felt about myself - I just didn't feel womanly and feminine.

I was incredibly lucky at being able to afford a boob job, but when I went for the consultation the surgeon said that in actual fact i could have had the op done on the NHS as I have medical grounds for one.

alrighty, I should have a word with your GP.

Op
I have hypoplastic breasts which means insufficient mammary tissue and atypical presentation (they look weird and don't work properly)
I have been where you are but I wouldn't have a boob job because of the risks so that's it.
Thinking about hormone treatment - I did look into how trans men get breasts without surgery, but it's not very safe either and raises the risks of breast and ovarian cancer.
Some people have results eating a spoonful of fenugreek seeds daily. I haven't tried it but it might be worth a try.

Oops trans women sorry

incidentally, even with the boob job I am still only a 32B, but the effect it has had on my sense of self is amazing (Yet saddening as well, as it highlights how breast-obssessed we are in this society).

A lot of celebs have awful looking fake boobs - presumably they have the money to go to the best doctors and yet so many end up with ugly and very fake looking boobs. .

I understand that being very flat chested might be a cause of distress but I'd worry about going from completely flat to fake iyswim

No one should be cutting themselves open! And we don't combat that by insulting each other's bodies. It doesn't make anyone feel better about their body to deride other body types.