To not be 'Mummy'?

[Iamintwominds]

Dd is approaching one and there are some babbles of 'ma ma mama mama' which are cute.

Recently I have been thinking about this and I'm not altogether sure I want to be 'mummy.' I wondered if anyone else was known by their first name which is what I presume would replace Mummy?

Why don't you want to be Mummy?.

Not a criticism of you but curious.

I can't bear the idea of my child calling me by my first name. It seems so impersonal and strange.

There are lots of variants of "mummy" though. Mum, Mama, Ma, Mam.

I like Ma.

Count yourself lucky. I live in Canada and I get Mom and Mommy. No matter how much I object.

Why don't you like 'Mummy'? She only has one of those Your name; there are probably lots of Iams IYSWIM.

I'm not very twee but I get pleasure hearing Dd call me mum.

When she's older she can call me whatever she wants but for little children its lovely.

why don't you want to be mummy or mum? Everyone gets to call you by your first name but only your children can call you mummy/mum. I think it's a privilege to be called mummy. I know it's something a lot of people live their whole lives hoping to hear.

I'm mummy, and find it is rare for DC to call their parents by name (certainly when children).

It is however very common for DC to call step parents by their first name.

So if DC say 'Daddy and Imintwominds' (if Daddy is around) you may find you need to explain.

I don't really like the sound of 'mummy' or its variants. I think I heard it wailed across the supermarket too many times!

I think some of my with it is having grown up with a few people who called their parents by their first name. Always the too cool for school, I take coke and go clubbing with my kids type of parents.

YANBU. There is no law against it. DH and his brother have always addressed their mum by her first name. I call my granny by her first name. No-one died.

oh dear

I know a couple of kids who call their parents by their first name, I don't think it matters.

DS1 went through quite a long phase of using his dad's first name and calling us "Mum and John" instead of "Mum and Dad" but I don't bother explaining really!

I think if you decide to have a baby you should expect that being called 'mummy' or any other variation as part of the territory.

I wouldn't deny a child the right to be able to say 'my mummy'

That said you dont have to lose your identity as a person. Youre a mother but still an autonomous human being.

A shame for your child if everyone else calls their mother mum or mummy. Seems very odd, yabu

I love being mummy. I hate being mmmuuuuuuuuuuummmmm!!

yanbu, you two choose whatever fits for your family.

It's not going to make you 'cool' just weird to be called by your first name.

What do you call yourself when talking to her?

Certainly not taking coke or clubbing!

No, I'm just not a huge fan of Mum/Mummy/Mam/Ma. Especially when 'Mum' is turned into several syllables! I called my dad by his first name so it's more 'normal' to me perhaps.

I was Mummy , very happily , and now Mum as my DC are in their teens
DS used to call me by my name , which I didn't mind at all

Everyone else called me Jane not my real name so he just copied them

DD now calls me Jaaaaane in a sarcastic manner which only 17 year olds can use

A friends DC used to call both their parents by their names as they were childminders and all the mindees used their names

It's one of the pleasures of teaching your baby to speak....through babbling.

Mum, Mum,Mum is one of those babbles.

Could you look at it this way: mum, mummy, mama, mommy, mammy. What ever you call it is just for you. Say your name is Helen. Well the dc will meet many Helens in his life but only you will be referred to as 'my mum' buy your dc.
I'm not sure if I am making sense in what I am writing but I guess what I am trying to say is that he needs you very much and saying Mum rather than your name is a way of expressing this.

It is not a shame for my child; she is loved, fiercely so, all needs met.

I tend to refer to myself with pronouns thinking about it 'I'm coming!' Rather than 'mummy's coming!'

Growing up, my father was friends with some very hip, liberal, Hackney dwelling types who invited us for lunch. Every Child there called their parents by their first names. I was so confused and had no idea which child matched each set of parents! At first i thought some of the children must have been step children or were adopted...I had never come across such a thing.

I actually think it is really sad when children call their parents by their first names...There are only two people in this world who call me mummy, it is so precious.

I just don't see that really heather - aside from anything else I have a very unusual first name. There are many Mums but only one me - well I've never met another anyway!

As I say I don't feel my relationship with my dad was damaged by my calling him Bill rather than dad (not his real name!)