To not be 'Mummy'?

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Dd is approaching one and there are some babbles of 'ma ma mama mama' which are cute.

Recently I have been thinking about this and I'm not altogether sure I want to be 'mummy.' I wondered if anyone else was known by their first name which is what I presume would replace Mummy?

I think it's cute when babies call their parents mama/dada. However I do think it's odd/rude when kids call their parents by their first names. Why don't you want to be mummy?

Perhaps you could ask your dd to call you ma or something!

I call my mother Mumfred, Mother duck/hen, Mumzilla or Motherington. She finds it funny.

DD(5) calls me Mumma, always has. I like it. DS calls me Mum which is also fine. They are the only two wee people in the world who will ever call me a variation of Mum so I will enjoy whichever term of affection they wish to give me.

Really don't like ma - just personal taste I suppose!

I don't think it's odd; I think it is unusual not to be called Mum or Mummy but that's not the same as necessarily odd or peculiar.

So, what have you called yourself up to now? I don't understand how your child is almost one year old, and you don't already refer to yourself as 'mummy' or 'NAME'?

For example when someone else is talking to your DD, they say "give the rattle to mummy", or "where's mummy? Boo, there she is!!" or whatever. You must've referred to yourself as something?

I just say me or I :)

I was thinking the same Sylvanian... I refer to myself as mummy and all my family and friends refer to me as mummy when they're talking to her... She's only 14 months but I think it would confuse her to change it now!

I've called my parents by their first names since I was in my teens. It started as a sort of joke but they quite liked it so I carried on. I sometimes call them mum and dad but not often. I always thought Dd might catch on and start using my name instead of mummy but she hasn't so far. I don't mind if she does though.

My dd calls me Mumma, she is 5 but was non verbal until 3.5 it still melts my half when she says it. She is the only person who will ever call me that!

missprickle that's lovely.

Thanks msgrinch, I cried the first time she said it!

My user name is my moniker - mamma.

Love it and think its super cute. I am now mummy as well.

I know eventually I am going to be resigned to a short, sharp 'Mum' when kids hit the older / teenage phase so I am making the most of it.

Our DS knows our names Mamma and Daddy as well as our real names (if you ask him he can differentiate) but he never calls us by actual names.

as a teenager i stopped calling my parents mum and dad as I decided they didn't deserve to be called that. almost twenty years later I have never reverted to it. to me it's disrespectful to call your parents their first name so would be upset if my dd stopped calling me mommy

'Recently I have been thinking about this and I'm not altogether sure I want to be 'mummy.' I wondered if anyone else was known by their first name which is what I presume would replace Mummy?'

Very retro, when I was a teenager in the 70s, it was what a lot of the flower children of the 60s wanted to be called by their offspring, because they were like too cool and like living their lives to be a parent. Dude.

I am called by my name by DS. Sometimes he uses mummy, mostly he uses my name. I'm not fussed either way. I think its just he heard other people calling me my name.

I've never like the names for us...Mother, Mummy and worst of all Mum.

I think I relate Mum to that awful roll on deodorant from the 80s! It's such a frumpy word.

I'd rather my name really but I'm not brave enough. Oddly, both of my DDs call their Gran by her first name. They always have...she likes it!

|lolmega I think for me it's the connotations of the word...so many Mothers lose all other identity. And the person who said "Nobody else calls you that" is mistaken! In hospitals and other similar institutions, rude staff refer to you as "Mum" don't they?

"How's Mum today?"

PISS OFF I want to say.

I respect everyone's view but honestly can't see what's disrespectful about my first name!

TwoMinds I can't either! Nothing disrespectful about it!

I guess it's just different perceptions but I'd rather be called my first name politely than Mum rudely. (For example.)

I like mummy because you can see where it came.from I.e. the first utterings of a baby. Same for daddy.

I don't really think about it more than that though.

I think you're kidding yourself if you think that your kid won't use your name rudely or screech it in the supermarket aged 4!

YANBU OP. I really really don't like "Mummy", just never liked the sounds of it. My brothers and I calledour pareparents by their first names, we love them to bits, hasn't damaged our relationship. We also used nicknames for them.
Also YY to just saying "I" or "me", don't like all this business of referring to yourself in the third person (and it's not how you eventually want yourDC to speak so why do it?)
DH ddoesn't mind either way. His parents call each other Mum and Dad which makes me CRINGE.

I love being called mummy. DD is now a teenager and has started calling me mooma

Meant to say, in school I referred to them as "my mum/mother" etc...I knew who they were, it certainly wasn't about a lack of respect. Or when introducing them to others, "this is my mother, Valerie".
A few aunts we prefixed their name with "aunt", mostly we didn't.

Just because your DD will call you mummy doesn't mean you have to refer to yourself as 'mummy' (as some people do which I find annoying)

Out if interest what will you tell your daughter when she asks why she has to call you by your name? And why other kids call their mums 'mum'?

And why are you assuming that your name would be said politely but mum would he said rudely