To not be 'Mummy'?

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Dd is approaching one and there are some babbles of 'ma ma mama mama' which are cute.

Recently I have been thinking about this and I'm not altogether sure I want to be 'mummy.' I wondered if anyone else was known by their first name which is what I presume would replace Mummy?

I refuse to be called mummy. My children call me a a variation on my first name that no one else does. Works for us.

Where I live a lot of people (myself and dp included) pronounce mummy as mommy (rhymes with Tommy). But it's still written and typed as mummy. Ma is used quite a lot too, but hardly ever mum. My ds calls "mommy".

I called my mother by her name when I was a teenger, but only because she wouldn't answer to mummy. She just blanked it out (think to many years of "mummy look at this, mummy look at that, mummy mummy mummy) lol. When referring to her in conversation I still said mummy not her name though. I call her mummy again now (she still blanks it the odd time -sigh-). Have always called my father daddy and still do, that's common here, to use daddy or da but hardly ever dad.

If ds called me by name I would be quite upset by it.

I personally wouldn't allow my own child to call me by my first name it doesn't sound right at all to me. My dd calls me a combo of mummy/queen elsa which is driving me insane now but she finds hilarious

What will be will be with respect to what your children call you. Mine have both gone through phases of calling us by our first names. I did ask DS why he chose to call me by my name and he said - I like your name so I wanted to say it to you. Nothing weird or worrisome.

Different strokes and all that. Enjoy your DD :) x

I am mommy or mom (and no I'm not american). I like it because anyone can call me by my first name. Only 2 people in the world can call me mom.

Ive just asked dd(15) if she would like to call me by my name and she says "it wouldn't be right"

My parents never liked me calling me by their first names. It was "mummy and daddy" and then "mum and dad". I call my dad "daddy" again now but only if I'm speaking to him, when I refer to him in conversation it's "dad".

My DSC's call me by my first name or some variation of it, but I would want my own DC to call me mummy.

I adore being any variation of mum as only my ds can call me that. Couple of friends are foreign as use their language for mum

www.mothersdaycelebration.com/mother-in-different-languages.html

I'm mum - or mummy to my youngest. There's only 3 people in the whole world who can call me that and I love it. However if they called me mam, mama or anything else, I'd be putting them straight

"daughter" isn't really the equivalent of "mummy" though, as that would be "mother". Mummy is an affectionate term I think, so more equivalent to the pet names we have for our children. I do sometimes call my dd "daughter", but it tends to be when she calls me "mother dearest", so I say "darling daughter" in response.

I don't think it really matters that much, but it's nice to have a special name for your parent and some people do get very bothered by not being called their parental name. Our two have occasionally called dh by his first name and he was very unhappy about it, and told them not to do it again. I was surprised by how strongly he felt, but he wanted/needed the relationship to be acknowledged.

My dad actively banned us from calling him dad or father, they were first names to us. Mum was less stressed but we called them by first names as long as I can remember, pretty impersonal and quite controlling. There was an awful lot of 'life lessons' to be learnt in my family. I don't recommend it.

My DDs started off calling me Mummy, then it changed to Mum, dd1 then started calling me Mummy again (at about 17) now she's back to Mum,
DD2 now calls me Mumma, which she's done since she was 18.

So it does change. I'd hate them to call me by my first name, I am their Mum/ma. But I wonder if that is to do with the fact that I had a bad relationship with my own mum, and hated calling her that.

Oh and using a different variant at school can be an issue. dd was very upset at being told that she was wrong to use mummy (we live in Canada now and they use mommy here) she said I wasn't a mommy I was her mummy.

My DD (6) alternates between 'mummy' and my first name. Either suits, she's the same with daddy.

I don't like adults calling me mummy, like teachers or other mums, it gives me the rage

I am mummy at home or mama if ds is feeling soppy, mum out in the world. I called my parents by first names. I think I used mummy when little, then tried to swith to mum, but my mother didn't like it. All my parents (there's a clue) thought that mum and dad would fall out of use in our generation. (Hippies)
I want to be mummy forever.

I think it's fine to use a first name, but not to deny them the chance to call you mummy if they want. Nothing nicer than we they put their pudgy little arms around you and say "I love you mummy".

My children call me by my first name, my mum says people will think i am their nanny/babysitter ( we are different colours and have different accents) but i couldn't care less. I love being called by my name because I also hate the sound of muuuum/muummeee it always sounds so whiney. Go for it OP.

My children called me Mama until they went to nursery . Then I became Mum

Yeah, I hate being referred to as mummy by people who are not my child!

I don't like mummy either. My DC call me Ma or Mam. I find Mummy to twee. It's never ever been an issue to anyone.

If my DC called me maaaaaaaaaa, or mummmmmmmmmy or anything similarly waily I would ignore them.

OP, excuse the slightly rude intrusion, but is this your first child and are you finding it hard to come to terms with?

I only mention as my loss of identity post-childbirth was nightmarish but partly/mostly in my head.

I loved being called Mama. Putting DD into childcare put paid to that and it's been mummy since she was about 20 months. I'd love to be Mama or Mumma would be fine, again.

My MIL has always insisted her children call her by her name. As a child DH saw her reluctance to be called 'mum' a sign that she was also reluctant to be a mum too. Like she didn't quite love him enough to give herself completely to the role of his mother. As right or wrong as DH might have been, this was his childish perception. It has tainted their relationship.

Personally, I refer to myself as 'mummy' but my DD (4) will quite often call me by my name. I don't mind at all.

I feel like if I tried to decide what DS wanted to call me, that would backfire.

I'm pretty certain he will make his own decisions.

I hate the word 'Mummy'. I have been 'Mum' from day one. My DSB calls his Mum by her first name, always has.

On a different note, I don't have children. I don't see my brothers and sisters but funnily enough am close to my nieces and nephews.

My nieces and nephews, their partners and their friends that I have met, ALL call me Auntie (even if they are older than me and I am late forties).

I bloody love it.

But each to their own. OP do whatever suits; it's your life and no bugger else should be sticking their nose in

Grown ups who call their mother 'mummy' do annoy me. As do other people refering to me as mum/mummy. I'm not your mother!