Party invitation hell. Tell me what to do.

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DS2 (year1) has been invited to a party. It's a girl in his class who he's 'sort of' friends with. It's at her house. She's relatively new to the school and I haven't met her Mum. I've accepted.

He has just been invited to a party by one of his really close friends. It's a roller skating party.

It's on at exactly the same time.

I've already told second mum (who I know well) that we've accepted other party. She's fine with it.

However I have no idea how to manage DS. He's going to be furious to miss his friend's party and be made to go to this other one.

I can't back out of the first as it's just too rude, especially as she's new.

Look out folks - just heard this on the radio....

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-cornwall-30876360

I'd insist dc went to the first party myself but then mine would probably just forget about the 2nd one.

But can understand it's much trickier if you've got a dc who's going to kick off.

Wow, what was that mother thinking? Maybe she was fed up to the back teeth of mannerless people failing to honour the invitations they've accepted without letting her know, but that's complete overkill nonetheless!

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-2916379/Five-year-old-misses-friend-s-birthday-bash-INVOICED-15-95.html

She might invoice you for a no show! [WINK]

sorry but its no bog deal for your son there will be other parties.

you have already commited to first one I think its important you follow through.

Yes, I know it's just a child's party and not the end of the world

i disagree, its so hurtful to a small child if no one comes to their party, its devastating, can rock their confidence and will be I am afraid something they will never ever forget.

Have heard some heart breaking stories on here about people not turning up, small children all excited in a big room filled with balloons and no one coming awful behaviour, awful.

Go to first party. Make a special date with best friend on another day - cinema or something. Give best friend a present too.

The mother accepted the first party, not the child, the mother can follow through on her acceptance and go to the party, the child can to the party he wanted to. Everyone wins!

The mother has already explained she asked him if he wanted to go, he said yes, she accepted the first party as a result, and put it in the calendar.

Looks like you all beat me to it with the party no show invoice story:

www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-cornwall-30876360

I would attend the first party invite as it is the first one you accepted but is it possible to leave early and attend the last half of the second party depending on logistics?

That's fine Thumbwitch, and of course not everyone HAS to do that. BUT I've seen loads of threads on here saying that everyone should always invite children who've invited yours.
I can see how that works for you but still don't see how it would work for everyone .
I think we'll just do the parties we want and I just won't read any more threads about kids parties

I was going to post that link Mrs Asprey. I can understand the parents frustration after reading some of the threads on here.