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To tell my friend I don't want to look after her DC's anymore

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evmil · 12/01/2015 13:51

I have a friend who has a full time job and quite unreliable childcare (she has aupairs but has quite a high turnover of them). She has three boys, one the same age as my DS(4) and two school age (7 and 10) and when her normal childcare falls through she asks me. Her aupair left just after christmas so since the start of term i have had her kids before school and after school Monday thru to Friday.

I looked after her kids for her yesterday as she said she needed to catch up on work. They were supposed to be here from 9 until 12ish but didn't leave until quarter past 7 last night. I was annoyed as I was supposed to be taking DSS3 somewhere but couldn't and he had to get a cab in the end and was late (DH is away so couldn't take him - i did tell her this).

Anyway, i got a text last night at about half 8 from said friend telling me she wasn't happy. I had apparently filled her kids up with junk food (we make milkshakes and biscuits and they got to try some and i sent some home with them), hadn't given them a proper dinner, they had jacket potatoes, which meant they were going to bed hungry, and I had let them play with the nerf guns and they had a go on the x-box (none of which she was happy with). She finished the text with 'i thought i could trust you to look after my boys'

I was really upset but just replied with 'perhaps it is best then if you get someone else to look after them', she didn't reply but i assumed this meant i wouldn't be having her kid anymore, but at quarter past 7 this morning she turned up at my house with them and said I'm not happy about yesterday but I am willing to give you another chance!! I didn't say anything as i didn't want to upset the boys but seriously!!

Like I said I enjoy having her kids and i know she is stuck for childcare but she doesn't pay me and i feel really under appreciated (i don't expect money, a thank you would be nice though!)

WIBU to tell her i don't want to look after her kids again because of her behaviour?

OP posts:
Mocheenee · 12/01/2015 21:06

Placemarking - am intrigued.....

hmc · 12/01/2015 21:08

Evmil is a regular poster. Perhaps she's busy this evening - it is possible that she may have other things to do!

WiggleGinger · 12/01/2015 21:09

Come in OP you can't surely still have this crazy woman's kids at this hour!
Tell us.... Did she cry?
In full on imagining the woman to look like ms Hopkins FYI

NurseP · 12/01/2015 21:11

I think op may be being unreasonable by keeping us all on the edge of our seats!! GrinWink

thetroubleis · 12/01/2015 21:12

She is watching Broadchurch with a big fat glass of wine. Or coke.

And a bag of Doritos.

FluffyRedSocks · 12/01/2015 21:13

Well.. I've lurked and lurked, but I get a feeling the op isn't coming back.

I really want this to be true just so I can see the update
Come back!

Itsgoingtoreindeer · 12/01/2015 21:15

This reply has been deleted

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

AmarettoSour · 12/01/2015 21:15

Well I've been out and back and still no update... If this is made up it's not v entertaining so far Angry

marks place

BigRedBall · 12/01/2015 21:18

I bet tomorrow morning evmil will find two children wedged in her chimney, legs-a-dangling. 2 guesses whose kids they will be?

anothernumberone · 12/01/2015 21:20

Aw I was sure there would be an update by now booooo hissssss.

HandMini · 12/01/2015 21:24

The mum has set up a protest camp outside OP's house, complete with "Free childcare for entitled bitches" banners.

VitoCorleoneAgain · 12/01/2015 21:27

Hope we get an update, ive just read 19 pages to see what the fuck is going on

Emotional101 · 12/01/2015 21:28

Please update!!!

cookiefiend · 12/01/2015 21:28

OP please update us!! If she turns up tomorrow make sure you don't answer the door. (But make sure you can spy on her getting madder and madder).

TeaAndALemonTart · 12/01/2015 21:30

Well that's a shocker, OP has fucked off.

Ohfourfoxache · 12/01/2015 21:30

Pah - if she's got other things to do then they can wait.

Surely updating us all should be her priority Wink

MildDrPepperAddiction · 12/01/2015 21:32

Aaaaaaggh! Just got to the end and no update!

MadameJulienBaptiste · 12/01/2015 21:32

Op has gone to babysit for CF as her 3rd chance, seeing as CF was so.upset at that horrid nasty text.

(Or, OP is now lying in a pool of blood while CF digs up a suitable sized piece of patio....)

ilovelamp82 · 12/01/2015 21:36

Place marking. Please update tonight.

Jenny2014 · 12/01/2015 21:37

Marking my place.

Sagethyme · 12/01/2015 21:39

No wonder she can't hold on to her au pairs, if she treats a mate like that she must make an au pairs life a misery. Tell her to sort her life and her responsibilities out. Now if i offer you Brew & Cake will you tell me i am giving you a virtu(ally) unhealthy diet please!

fishinabarrell · 12/01/2015 21:39

Op are you still waiting for her to respond or pick up our kids?

storminabuttercup · 12/01/2015 21:41

Shock Can't believe the cheek.

Come back and updates us OP we are a bunch of nosey feckers

HadleyHemingway · 12/01/2015 21:42

The OP is being massively U by not updating.

puggywug81 · 12/01/2015 21:43

Update please, given how entitled the other mother was there has to be more to come!