To tell my friend I don't want to look after her DC's anymore

[evmil]

I have a friend who has a full time job and quite unreliable childcare (she has aupairs but has quite a high turnover of them). She has three boys, one the same age as my DS(4) and two school age (7 and 10) and when her normal childcare falls through she asks me. Her aupair left just after christmas so since the start of term i have had her kids before school and after school Monday thru to Friday.

I looked after her kids for her yesterday as she said she needed to catch up on work. They were supposed to be here from 9 until 12ish but didn't leave until quarter past 7 last night. I was annoyed as I was supposed to be taking DSS3 somewhere but couldn't and he had to get a cab in the end and was late (DH is away so couldn't take him - i did tell her this).

Anyway, i got a text last night at about half 8 from said friend telling me she wasn't happy. I had apparently filled her kids up with junk food (we make milkshakes and biscuits and they got to try some and i sent some home with them), hadn't given them a proper dinner, they had jacket potatoes, which meant they were going to bed hungry, and I had let them play with the nerf guns and they had a go on the x-box (none of which she was happy with). She finished the text with 'i thought i could trust you to look after my boys'

I was really upset but just replied with 'perhaps it is best then if you get someone else to look after them', she didn't reply but i assumed this meant i wouldn't be having her kid anymore, but at quarter past 7 this morning she turned up at my house with them and said I'm not happy about yesterday but I am willing to give you another chance!! I didn't say anything as i didn't want to upset the boys but seriously!!

Like I said I enjoy having her kids and i know she is stuck for childcare but she doesn't pay me and i feel really under appreciated (i don't expect money, a thank you would be nice though!)

WIBU to tell her i don't want to look after her kids again because of her behaviour?

Had she got bAck to you?

OP are you having fisticuffs with 'entitled of unreasonableville'??

What!!

Fully expected an update by now.

Unless it's gone really badly.

hurry I need sleep!!!!

The OP thought something remiss,
Cheeky Fucker was taking the piss.
With kids she was landed
CF left her stranded
And then to make matters worse mumsnetters lynched her because she didn't come back to UPDATE THE FUCKING THREAD.

Marking. Shamelessly.

OP!! OP!! Come back!!!

celia

Aaargh! Zzzzz.

Ooh, now I'm drawn in too. Hope you told CFs DCs you weren't having them anymore. Please enlighten us all

There was once was a lady called cheeky fucker
Who did not think her friend's food was pukka
She ranted and complained
Her friend was left disdained
And she ended up writing it all down for MNetters

Oh god cheeky Bint has killed op.

OP if you come back we will give you a 2nd chance and try to forget how you kept us in suspense for far too long.

.

OP please be strong,
No is a complete sentence.
Don't let CF win.

She will beg and plead,
Try to make you feel guilty,
Cos she's some brass neck.

She is in the wrong.
You have been too kind this far,
And she took the piss.

Let her rant and rave,
You don't need 'another chance'
To meet her standards.

I have too much time
On my hands at this moment
And I'm having fun

Hope it all works out
And you like my brief haiku
For fuck's sake update.

(Please)

It's not OP's fault that there's 10+ pages of marking places!

Hi all, sorry i have only just replied! I have been busy all night and genuinely did not realise how many people were waiting for an update

She text me back just as i was picking her DC's up from school, initially saying how she really needed my help, was desperate, had no one else and please would i reconsider. I replied saying sorry but after what happened i don't feel comfortable looking after them.

She then replied how difficult i was being, i was selfish, her poor kids ect (it is literally the longest text i have ever seen) that finished with 'well actually, it probably is for the best. I wasn't comfortable with them going to your house anyway because i have heard stories about DSS1 and his friend (who lives with us) and i think they are a bad influence'!!!! Which really annoyed me

She normally picks them up about fish but didn't turn up till nearly 7oclock (and only after i messaged her to say i would call social services if she didn't come soon) with her husband in tow and she silently seethed while ignoring me while her husband was telling me how stuck for childcare they are!!

Meanwhile, DSS3 has picked up some bug and haunts stopped throwing up since he got home from school!!

I am fuming tbh. I felt sorry for her up until the last message she sent me and now I'm just really angry at the way she has escalated it. If i had known this was going to be the result i would have never offered to have her bloody kids in the first place

And i doubt she will turn up in the morning, but if she does i will politely tell her where to go

Anyway, DSS3 is finally asleep (i think) so off to have some

For the OP truth was at last dawning,
Cheeky fucker was given a stern warning,
Which still she ignored,
Brought round the horde
And left them all there till the morning.

I hope it's a really, really good update to keep us waiting soooooo long.

OMG what a cow!!

X-post!

She's shot herself in the foot. She really doesn't deserve your kindness. There is nothing more you can do!