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To tell my friend I don't want to look after her DC's anymore

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evmil · 12/01/2015 13:51

I have a friend who has a full time job and quite unreliable childcare (she has aupairs but has quite a high turnover of them). She has three boys, one the same age as my DS(4) and two school age (7 and 10) and when her normal childcare falls through she asks me. Her aupair left just after christmas so since the start of term i have had her kids before school and after school Monday thru to Friday.

I looked after her kids for her yesterday as she said she needed to catch up on work. They were supposed to be here from 9 until 12ish but didn't leave until quarter past 7 last night. I was annoyed as I was supposed to be taking DSS3 somewhere but couldn't and he had to get a cab in the end and was late (DH is away so couldn't take him - i did tell her this).

Anyway, i got a text last night at about half 8 from said friend telling me she wasn't happy. I had apparently filled her kids up with junk food (we make milkshakes and biscuits and they got to try some and i sent some home with them), hadn't given them a proper dinner, they had jacket potatoes, which meant they were going to bed hungry, and I had let them play with the nerf guns and they had a go on the x-box (none of which she was happy with). She finished the text with 'i thought i could trust you to look after my boys'

I was really upset but just replied with 'perhaps it is best then if you get someone else to look after them', she didn't reply but i assumed this meant i wouldn't be having her kid anymore, but at quarter past 7 this morning she turned up at my house with them and said I'm not happy about yesterday but I am willing to give you another chance!! I didn't say anything as i didn't want to upset the boys but seriously!!

Like I said I enjoy having her kids and i know she is stuck for childcare but she doesn't pay me and i feel really under appreciated (i don't expect money, a thank you would be nice though!)

WIBU to tell her i don't want to look after her kids again because of her behaviour?

OP posts:
Bluetone · 12/01/2015 20:41

Oh fgs! 17 pages in and op has disappeared. Surely she has some sort of device to bloody update!

rollonthesummer · 12/01/2015 20:41

Surely the OP hasn't still got these children?!

I wonder ho many children of her own the OP has got? If she's got one the same age as the hideous friend (4), but the hideous friend has two of 7 and 10 but the OP hasn't-I wouldn't have known what to do with two older children for hours and hours each week?!?

Stealthpolarbear · 12/01/2015 20:45

" Add message | Report | Message poster atticusclaw Mon 12-Jan-15 20:38:59
perhaps the "friend" hasn't collected her DSs yet"

Surely op could stick em in front of something educational on TV with some raw mung beans and come back to update us

Ludoole · 12/01/2015 20:45

Maybe the friend has given op a sob story and op has told her the arrangement WILL continue as usual???

msrisotto · 12/01/2015 20:46

Honestly, she's such a twat though - if she's so desperate for childcare, you'd think she'd have been a lot nicer to you! Good on you for cutting it off like that.

CheerfulYank · 12/01/2015 20:48

That is insane! I can't believe someone could be soooooo entitled!

I used to work at a nursery and a coworker went out of her way to give another coworker and her young daughter a ride home. The next day the one who had gotten the ride came up to Coworker 1 and said "just so you know, my husband and I both think it was very rude of you to not help me carry my things in last night." Shock (Said "things" were a tote bag, I believe.)

Blackjeans · 12/01/2015 20:49

Shameless place marking ....

Littleturkish · 12/01/2015 20:50

Oh dear.

We've finally given advice that has caused an OP to be offed by the offended "won't take no as a complete sentence" entitled wanker.

ScrumpyBetty · 12/01/2015 20:52

Oh my days. I just scrolled down right to the very bottom of the thread and no update....sobs....OP where are you?

Koalafications · 12/01/2015 20:53

theyoniwayisnorthwards · 12/01/2015 20:53

Shameless place marking, the fucking nerve Shock

notonyourninny · 12/01/2015 20:54

Yooohooo op. I want to go to bed. Update please.

Perhaps op finally snapped and lamped the silly moo and has been arrested. bored

whothehellknows · 12/01/2015 20:56

Dammit OP! Is it too late to get into broadchurch? Like, are the earlier episodes online? Gotta do something while I wait for the Oven Pride to work, and clearly this OP ain't delivering.

UsedtobeFeckless · 12/01/2015 20:58

Oh FFS. OP, come back and talk to us! ( Long wait ahead to pick up DS and Chums from Sabaton gig ... I need entertainment! )

BigRedBall · 12/01/2015 20:58

Why are we waiting?
We are suffocating
Why are we waiting?
Oh why why why?

Sallyingforth · 12/01/2015 20:58

Come on OP where are you?

DP is beginning to suspect I have some dodgy affair going on due to the constant phone checking. I'll have to break off soon and reassure him.

elliegoulding · 12/01/2015 20:59

I reckon entitled mother has murdered the op for the sheer gall of not childminding for herConfused

BigRedBall · 12/01/2015 21:00

Come back
Baby come back
Come back
Baby come back

lmhkjhkjgkjgkjgkjgkjhkjkgjkgkj · 12/01/2015 21:00

Liftzilla indeed....

grumpasaur · 12/01/2015 21:02

I was hoping by the time I got to the bottom of the thread the OP would have come back!

On other news, I read the beginning of the liftzilla thread and had been wondering- was the whole thing a farce, or just the crazy outcomes?

BigRedBall · 12/01/2015 21:02

May I call bullshit?

DixieNormas · 12/01/2015 21:03

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lmhkjhkjgkjgkjgkjgkjhkjkgjkgkj · 12/01/2015 21:03
Wink
fluffling · 12/01/2015 21:05

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rednsparkley · 12/01/2015 21:05

oh, still no update -disappointed face-