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To tell my friend I don't want to look after her DC's anymore

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evmil · 12/01/2015 13:51

I have a friend who has a full time job and quite unreliable childcare (she has aupairs but has quite a high turnover of them). She has three boys, one the same age as my DS(4) and two school age (7 and 10) and when her normal childcare falls through she asks me. Her aupair left just after christmas so since the start of term i have had her kids before school and after school Monday thru to Friday.

I looked after her kids for her yesterday as she said she needed to catch up on work. They were supposed to be here from 9 until 12ish but didn't leave until quarter past 7 last night. I was annoyed as I was supposed to be taking DSS3 somewhere but couldn't and he had to get a cab in the end and was late (DH is away so couldn't take him - i did tell her this).

Anyway, i got a text last night at about half 8 from said friend telling me she wasn't happy. I had apparently filled her kids up with junk food (we make milkshakes and biscuits and they got to try some and i sent some home with them), hadn't given them a proper dinner, they had jacket potatoes, which meant they were going to bed hungry, and I had let them play with the nerf guns and they had a go on the x-box (none of which she was happy with). She finished the text with 'i thought i could trust you to look after my boys'

I was really upset but just replied with 'perhaps it is best then if you get someone else to look after them', she didn't reply but i assumed this meant i wouldn't be having her kid anymore, but at quarter past 7 this morning she turned up at my house with them and said I'm not happy about yesterday but I am willing to give you another chance!! I didn't say anything as i didn't want to upset the boys but seriously!!

Like I said I enjoy having her kids and i know she is stuck for childcare but she doesn't pay me and i feel really under appreciated (i don't expect money, a thank you would be nice though!)

WIBU to tell her i don't want to look after her kids again because of her behaviour?

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WeAreEternal · 12/01/2015 20:19

I though MNHQ had confirmed that the liftzilla thread was extremely exaggerated and that was why it went poof.
Didn't they say that they suspected the thread started out as truth but the op then started to embellished the story to make it more interesting (for all us update hungry vipers) and it spiraled until it became completely ridiculous.

SauvignonBlanche · 12/01/2015 20:21

TCM was hassling an OP's nanny, IIRC.

whitewithblackspots · 12/01/2015 20:24
CeliaLytton · 12/01/2015 20:25

eternal I think that was it.

Liftzilla thread: all high excitement, HR meetings, stalking, unreasonableness all round.

Reality: OP wanted to stop giving lifts to a piss taker, piss taker pleaded, rest was made up in response to us all asking for updates and feeding off the drama Grin

Stillyummy · 12/01/2015 20:25

........

Need an update!

Dee03 · 12/01/2015 20:27

Yes definately need an update

YellowTulips · 12/01/2015 20:27

Blatant place marking Grin

lurkingmurking · 12/01/2015 20:27

Marking place!

Jenni2legs · 12/01/2015 20:28

Saving my place :)

MadameJulienBaptiste · 12/01/2015 20:28

..........drums fingers impatiently.......

Broadchurch is on in half an hour then I'll be on the mnpd thread till bedtime and I want to know what happened to CF mum!!!

WeAreEternal · 12/01/2015 20:30

Celia
I often wonder how many threads have ended up becoming like that, I have certainly read a few that seemed to read as though the updates have been exaggerated for continued excitement.

MadameJulienBaptiste · 12/01/2015 20:30

Mind you, judging by last week's episode, broadchurch has potential to be comparable with any of the recent wildly exaggerated and trolly threads....

geebie · 12/01/2015 20:31

My first ever place mark. Shameless one at that Smile

Mrshoff · 12/01/2015 20:33
Elliemayclampett · 12/01/2015 20:34

Lurking too. Need to know what happened!

Inertia · 12/01/2015 20:34

How on earth were you not absolutely fuming when she didn't collect her children until 7 hours after the agreed time, and stopped you doing what you needed to do with your family? And then to take all that nonsense about junk food on board too? I'm glad I don't know anyone like this!

mummytowillow · 12/01/2015 20:34

WTF she is a cheeky mare and I'd be texting her to tell her to f**k off!

Tvseemstobemyhobby · 12/01/2015 20:37

OP has become a child caring Hostage somewhere.

Icelollycraving · 12/01/2015 20:38

I think she's been bamboozled by the piss taking mum & doesn't want to 'let down' people who are hoping for updates.

atticusclaw · 12/01/2015 20:38

perhaps the "friend" hasn't collected her DSs yet!

Hobby2014 · 12/01/2015 20:39

It's taking too long.
I'm getting suspicious.

waitingforgodot · 12/01/2015 20:39

any news?

DiaryOfAWimpyMum · 12/01/2015 20:40

Oh 2 threads...