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To tell my friend I don't want to look after her DC's anymore

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evmil · 12/01/2015 13:51

I have a friend who has a full time job and quite unreliable childcare (she has aupairs but has quite a high turnover of them). She has three boys, one the same age as my DS(4) and two school age (7 and 10) and when her normal childcare falls through she asks me. Her aupair left just after christmas so since the start of term i have had her kids before school and after school Monday thru to Friday.

I looked after her kids for her yesterday as she said she needed to catch up on work. They were supposed to be here from 9 until 12ish but didn't leave until quarter past 7 last night. I was annoyed as I was supposed to be taking DSS3 somewhere but couldn't and he had to get a cab in the end and was late (DH is away so couldn't take him - i did tell her this).

Anyway, i got a text last night at about half 8 from said friend telling me she wasn't happy. I had apparently filled her kids up with junk food (we make milkshakes and biscuits and they got to try some and i sent some home with them), hadn't given them a proper dinner, they had jacket potatoes, which meant they were going to bed hungry, and I had let them play with the nerf guns and they had a go on the x-box (none of which she was happy with). She finished the text with 'i thought i could trust you to look after my boys'

I was really upset but just replied with 'perhaps it is best then if you get someone else to look after them', she didn't reply but i assumed this meant i wouldn't be having her kid anymore, but at quarter past 7 this morning she turned up at my house with them and said I'm not happy about yesterday but I am willing to give you another chance!! I didn't say anything as i didn't want to upset the boys but seriously!!

Like I said I enjoy having her kids and i know she is stuck for childcare but she doesn't pay me and i feel really under appreciated (i don't expect money, a thank you would be nice though!)

WIBU to tell her i don't want to look after her kids again because of her behaviour?

OP posts:
NotOnMyWatchOhNo · 12/01/2015 19:18

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Chandon · 12/01/2015 19:20

God I hope this thread isnot real.

Such entitled people exist?!

Please don't be a dormat OP

Bellejessleo · 12/01/2015 19:20

Omg the cheek of her! .......????

Muchtoomuchtodo · 12/01/2015 19:22

She really is taking the piss today!

(OP was having them today wasn't she?)

ashtrayheart · 12/01/2015 19:22

I need to know the outcome to this one Grin

NotYouNaanBread · 12/01/2015 19:22

Placemarking!

maddening · 12/01/2015 19:23

think the consensus with liftzilla was that it started off true. And got carried away

Cabbagesaregreen · 12/01/2015 19:23

Whistles .......

ElphabaTheGreen · 12/01/2015 19:24
Jodie1982 · 12/01/2015 19:25

Came hoping for an Update..... Is their really rude people like that out there!? Jeeez.....I hope Op doesn't let herself get mugged off again.

CaptainAnkles · 12/01/2015 19:25

What was liftzilla?

CookieLady · 12/01/2015 19:27

Come back OP.

FryOneFatManic · 12/01/2015 19:28

I really want to know what this "friend" will do.

smileybadger · 12/01/2015 19:29

another blatant place markerWinefor all patient fellow markers

littleleftie · 12/01/2015 19:30

Ooh I so hope the OPs "friend" still turns up with the kids tomorrow morning like nothing has been said.

Twill make me so happy Grin

Toomanyexams · 12/01/2015 19:37

Is this a joke?!

Why on Earth are you watching her kids for free? She is beyond cheeky and you are a doormat! Tell her it's not working out for out for your family.

tobysmum77 · 12/01/2015 19:39

yanbu hahaha your op actually made me laugh out loud.

She is one cheeky cow

youarekiddingme · 12/01/2015 19:40

Fucking hell she's cheeky with brass knobs on Shock

What did she say to text or when she collected children?

tiredvommachine · 12/01/2015 19:40

Need an update!

lunar1 · 12/01/2015 19:41

Why do I think you have agreed to keep having them?

waithorse · 12/01/2015 19:42

Was Liftzilla a troll ? Shock Shock

Please come back op .

AmserGwin · 12/01/2015 19:42

Update please?

AlpacaPicnic · 12/01/2015 19:45

Iirc 'terrible cunt' mum thread got pulled because the op got outed IRL. But it was a cracking one ATM...
I could do a crap summary if anyone wants one...?

youarekiddingme · 12/01/2015 19:46

It would pass the time whilst we wait Alpaca Wink

Fanfeckintastic · 12/01/2015 19:46

Yes please!!