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To tell my friend I don't want to look after her DC's anymore

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evmil · 12/01/2015 13:51

I have a friend who has a full time job and quite unreliable childcare (she has aupairs but has quite a high turnover of them). She has three boys, one the same age as my DS(4) and two school age (7 and 10) and when her normal childcare falls through she asks me. Her aupair left just after christmas so since the start of term i have had her kids before school and after school Monday thru to Friday.

I looked after her kids for her yesterday as she said she needed to catch up on work. They were supposed to be here from 9 until 12ish but didn't leave until quarter past 7 last night. I was annoyed as I was supposed to be taking DSS3 somewhere but couldn't and he had to get a cab in the end and was late (DH is away so couldn't take him - i did tell her this).

Anyway, i got a text last night at about half 8 from said friend telling me she wasn't happy. I had apparently filled her kids up with junk food (we make milkshakes and biscuits and they got to try some and i sent some home with them), hadn't given them a proper dinner, they had jacket potatoes, which meant they were going to bed hungry, and I had let them play with the nerf guns and they had a go on the x-box (none of which she was happy with). She finished the text with 'i thought i could trust you to look after my boys'

I was really upset but just replied with 'perhaps it is best then if you get someone else to look after them', she didn't reply but i assumed this meant i wouldn't be having her kid anymore, but at quarter past 7 this morning she turned up at my house with them and said I'm not happy about yesterday but I am willing to give you another chance!! I didn't say anything as i didn't want to upset the boys but seriously!!

Like I said I enjoy having her kids and i know she is stuck for childcare but she doesn't pay me and i feel really under appreciated (i don't expect money, a thank you would be nice though!)

WIBU to tell her i don't want to look after her kids again because of her behaviour?

OP posts:
Jackiemagazine · 12/01/2015 18:40

[overinvested]

TwoNoisyBoys · 12/01/2015 18:41

Another shameless place mark......I'm going to be GLUED to this thread 'til I find out what's happened!!!!Grin

KingJoffreyObviouslyWatchesHol · 12/01/2015 18:41

Agree. She needs to know she is a terrible cunt.

We should get her a t-shirt printed.

hesterton · 12/01/2015 18:42

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IAmAllImportant · 12/01/2015 18:44

I wonder what she'll do! actually could not care less

Snoopytwist · 12/01/2015 18:46

I am amazed at how badly I need to know the outcome of this and how badly it needs to be the right outcome. People like this make me seethe...

GatoradeMeBitch · 12/01/2015 18:51

Placemarking!

Teeb · 12/01/2015 18:52

Sod it, place marking snap.

Azquilith · 12/01/2015 18:52

And me!

Osmiornica · 12/01/2015 18:52

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QueenofKelsingra · 12/01/2015 18:52

come on! I need an update!!

ScrambledEggAndToast · 12/01/2015 18:53

Just read to the end and am ShockShock at the cheeky fecker. Can't wait to find out what happens next.

burblish · 12/01/2015 18:54

Unbelievable cheek of the woman - please stand your ground on this.

MadameJosephine · 12/01/2015 18:54

Where the hell is she? I'm supposed to going out at 7 and I need to know what happens!

And I really need a link to the 'terrible cunt mother' thread too

ChristmasHiccups · 12/01/2015 18:55

I really want to know what happened at pick up!

Whereisegg · 12/01/2015 18:55

coming late to this but just wanted to add my Shock

123Jump · 12/01/2015 18:57

Every time you think you've heard it all on here...
What a cow!

CrumpleHornedSnorkack · 12/01/2015 18:57
Shock
MogTheForgetfulCat · 12/01/2015 18:57

Come the fuck ON, OP Grin

BirdingWidow · 12/01/2015 18:59

The front of some people is staggering. How can anyone not appreciate when they are being helped above and beyond the call of friendly (or even familial) duty?!

I loved the Mexican house thief thread, that was a cracker, but have missed Liftzilla. Can anyone please link?

LindyHemming · 12/01/2015 18:59

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SandStorm · 12/01/2015 19:00

OP (?) has a duplicate thread here which seems to be updated more regularly.

ohbollocks2u · 12/01/2015 19:00

Slightly off the point but how do you bookmark on here ?

Esmeismyhero · 12/01/2015 19:00

Outcome! Outcome! Outcome!

PinkSnowAndStars · 12/01/2015 19:00

I really need to know!!!!

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