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To tell my friend I don't want to look after her DC's anymore

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evmil · 12/01/2015 13:51

I have a friend who has a full time job and quite unreliable childcare (she has aupairs but has quite a high turnover of them). She has three boys, one the same age as my DS(4) and two school age (7 and 10) and when her normal childcare falls through she asks me. Her aupair left just after christmas so since the start of term i have had her kids before school and after school Monday thru to Friday.

I looked after her kids for her yesterday as she said she needed to catch up on work. They were supposed to be here from 9 until 12ish but didn't leave until quarter past 7 last night. I was annoyed as I was supposed to be taking DSS3 somewhere but couldn't and he had to get a cab in the end and was late (DH is away so couldn't take him - i did tell her this).

Anyway, i got a text last night at about half 8 from said friend telling me she wasn't happy. I had apparently filled her kids up with junk food (we make milkshakes and biscuits and they got to try some and i sent some home with them), hadn't given them a proper dinner, they had jacket potatoes, which meant they were going to bed hungry, and I had let them play with the nerf guns and they had a go on the x-box (none of which she was happy with). She finished the text with 'i thought i could trust you to look after my boys'

I was really upset but just replied with 'perhaps it is best then if you get someone else to look after them', she didn't reply but i assumed this meant i wouldn't be having her kid anymore, but at quarter past 7 this morning she turned up at my house with them and said I'm not happy about yesterday but I am willing to give you another chance!! I didn't say anything as i didn't want to upset the boys but seriously!!

Like I said I enjoy having her kids and i know she is stuck for childcare but she doesn't pay me and i feel really under appreciated (i don't expect money, a thank you would be nice though!)

WIBU to tell her i don't want to look after her kids again because of her behaviour?

OP posts:
Neeko · 12/01/2015 18:17

Also place marking Blush

notonyourninny · 12/01/2015 18:18

Is she generally a good friend otherwise? can't believe it

PiperIsTerrysChoclateOrange · 12/01/2015 18:18

When a friend has had DC in an emergency I have gone a bought a bunch of flowers, bottle of wine and a thank you card.

No way would I have even thought about there diet and entertainment.

Good luck when this free loader comes tonight.

petitdonkey · 12/01/2015 18:19

Sorry - I also have no more advice to add but want to see what on earth she says!

Aherdofmims · 12/01/2015 18:20

Have been lurking all day and really want to know the outcome!

Goes without saying yanbu and she is entitled cow...

KingJoffreyObviouslyWatchesHol · 12/01/2015 18:20

Has this woman not picked up her fecking kids yet?

What's the minimum wage now? £6.50? Bill her. I'm sure an MNer with business skills will help you write up an invoice.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 12/01/2015 18:20

ooh yes 'terrible cunt mother' was an uber cunt, that was one of those threads where OP got outed iirc.

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 12/01/2015 18:21

SugarFreeGruffaloCrumble it was a cracker of a thread Grin

ZenNudist · 12/01/2015 18:23

My bet is she just finds another 'play date' situation with other friends of her dc. Takes some other sap for a ride for a while.

Op you are far too nice letting her have today to sort new arrangements.

Luciferbox · 12/01/2015 18:24

The cheek. She'll either change her tune and come grovelling or decide you're in the wrong and demand an apology. Either way she's out of order.

HighwayDragon · 12/01/2015 18:26

Any news?

Mrshoff · 12/01/2015 18:27

Omg! Entitled bint!
Stalking for an update!

ShipwreckedAndComatose · 12/01/2015 18:27

I can't wait to find out what she says!

Greenkit · 12/01/2015 18:31

Come on, come back

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 12/01/2015 18:32

Yes OP, don't cave in!

cosmicglittergirl · 12/01/2015 18:34

Looking forward to outcome

MissMogwi · 12/01/2015 18:34

Blatant place marking. What a cheeky bitch!

eddielizzard · 12/01/2015 18:35

this is the sort of thread i enjoy. when entitled cow gets her comeuppance and no longer gets to exploit lovely op.

i too am on tenterhooks.

Ipigglemustdie · 12/01/2015 18:35

Oooooooo this is a good one

Aeroflotgirl · 12/01/2015 18:36

You lot, op said yesterday, that her friend did not collect her dss until 7pm Shock,so she may still have them and may be very busy until later tonight after she has probably had a bit of Wine and Cake.

I am Shock, that she shows no gratitude, not even a thank you, like you have a god given right to look after her dss, and you should see it as a priviledge. Stuff that for a game of soldiers, tell her to stick that where the sun don't shine.

WhoKnowsWhereTheTimeGoes · 12/01/2015 18:36

Can't wait to hear what she said!

KatieKaye · 12/01/2015 18:37

Excellent text, OP

YoureAllABunchOfBastards · 12/01/2015 18:37

Agree. She needs to know she is a terrible cunt.

GreyjoysAnatomy · 12/01/2015 18:39

Shock well done for texting the ungrateful bitch!

Saltedcaramel2014 · 12/01/2015 18:40

What a twat. Her, obviously. You sound far too nice to be wasting your time on someone like this - that isn't friendship.

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