Life that accepts men grab women's bums & boobs in crowded social situations.
I can't recall the last time I saw a man just reach out and grab a woman, (maybe it happens so often I'm blind to it) I can recall the last time a woman reached out and grabbed my bum. (Ironically enough it was on Friday, when I went out after posting on this thread.)
Sexual assault, from what most people have (wrongly) learned to deal with as mundane grabbing and groping, to full out rape because a person does not consent, or cannot consent is not only a problem that is something that men do to women.
The article linked earlier kareningalasmith.com/2014/12/23/feminism-nope-its-still-neither-for-nor-about-men/ has two things (which I see as) wrong:
a, A woman can't just tell a man how he should behave and expect him to listen and follow instruction, that's no more right than a man telling a woman what to do. (it does not speak of equal quality) (race to the top vs. race to the bottom)
b, The article talks about Domestic violence and say how the real problem is male violence towards women and children.
"Men need to see male violence against women as the problem, not create women’s violence against men" - as someone who has suffered domestic violence from a woman -and over a period of years rather than some isolated incident where she just snapped (it was a long time ago I don't need pity now) I can say that it's not just created at all, it's not something that's made up by men trying to get out of the basic human obligation to not be a massive cunt. I stopped reading at that point, it's clear that the author either does not know or chooses to ignore that 1 in five domestic violence arrests is women attacking men (and yes through societies ills of teaching "men to be men" most domestic violence against men is not reported), or that many times if a man calls a domestic abuse helpline his calls are treated as if it were a joke (he is questioned and not believed), or that 67% of DV cases against children are committed by women. (but yeah, it's a male violence problem)
It's a shame, because it may have been a good article, but it's so completely wrong, riddled with factual errors, that I didn't even get halfway through before closing the window, the fact that it's held up as something that should be read and understood by men, and everyone then pats themselves on the back whilst ignoring the fact that the article is wrong is just as troubling as people who suggest that the best way to not consent is an ankle length skirt.
Sure women don't need men to tell them how to organise a successfully movement, women can organise feminism on their own. however the article points out that men shouldn't have access to feminist spaces. roughly 12% of rape victims are men (yeah actual old fashion had a dick stuck in your kind of rape), a disproportionately low amount of funds to help rape victims (only 10%) is spent on male causes, men should have and do need access to traditionally feminist spaces (such as meetings for survivors of rape.)
You are a man, spread the word.
This.
Whether through patriarchy, arrogance, or bad teaching, boys will listen to other boys more readily, boys won't listen to women feminists who are perceived as nagging them.