different You have no idea who on this thread has or has not initially donated, thinking perhaps that it was actually for medical bills, and maybe now is unhappy that they have been misled.
I think that if you set up fundraising for a particular charity, where the money is all going to the charity, then obviously the individual's financial status is irrelevant.
If, however, you set up fundraising for a particular person/couple, claiming that they are financially in need of money to cover first medical bills, then (once the medical bills were erased) personal expenses including items for a planned baby that would normally be covered by any other couple in the country at their own expense, when that particular person/couple is in the midst of an expensive holiday... well, yes, their financial position is justifiably called into question. It's misleading to imply that they are literally without funds or support, as they are patently not.
I'm sorry if this makes you unhappy and you dislike people questioning it, but when you court the press, to some extent you have to expect that things like this will out at some point.
I personally would like to see the parents step up and say "we are okay, we have enough between our parents and ourselves and the insurance company and local support - we want to donate all of this money that people have given to the RMH, the hospital, and a preemie charity so it can help others that are less fortunate than we are." That, along with shutting down the donation points, would end the issue right there and then IMO, and leave people with a much better impression of the parents than has been given of them by the employer through his actions so far.