To ask if anyone is setting up a fb page to discuss Tricky Dicky?

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It seems we are not allowed to speak about anything negative elsewhere. Please do not speak badly of Tricky Dicky and co.

TD is now threatening to contact the employers of people who are questioning the fund to make formal complaints.

Just the one person isn't it Aer?

The one whose privete message he posted and who is posting upthread here^ as ObviousNeedToNC?

private^

Namechanger here...

So, last night I friend requested the dad. On a post from last Tuesday, there is a comment from Tricky saying that their accommodation was sorted by the hospital so they didn't need to worry about it....

Would've posted in the FB group but I don't want to be outed.

Dreadful bullying tactic, obviously, but is it still just the one person?

Well it wasn't British airways then because I flew at 20 weeks pregnant with the twins and they didn't up grade me. Oh and I was insured up to the eyeballs.

The GoGiving fund is now at 11.5k

My employer wouldn't give a shiny shite about it if they did report me. Actually, knowing my bosses they wouldn't think it was legitimate fund raising attempt anyway.

Once i requested to join the TD page was readable, it didnt wait until after my request was approved (i havent been approved yet)

I would agree with your bosses, Aplaca. It's v dodgy.

Beyond - there are two groups; one you can see the posts (300+ members) and one much smaller group that you can't see. You need to be a member to post on either - my requests have been ignored so far!

Yes it is just one person, sorry I worded that badly.

Beyond - there are two groups; one you can see the posts (300+ members) and one much smaller group that you can't see. You need to be a member to post on either - my requests have been ignored so far!

So much for transparency. So the smaller group is invitation only?

Hi all,

We do understand that there is a lot of confusion around this topic and, as we said yesterday, we don't mind a general discussion about the news story at all.

We agree, it is multilayered, what we don't think is in the spirit of the site is the rounding on two very new parents of a premature baby who have found themselves in a terrible situation. Parent blaming/shaming en masse is not in the spirit of the site. We had lots of reports from people who felt that there was bandwagon jumping going on and as there is a lack of factual information out there, lots of speculation.

The facts of the story are unclear and posts on a Facebook page being copy and pasted over here and pulled apart, really just feels a bit off to us. Surely the focus should be on the baby and the family and not on someone who has set up a fundraising page off his own back?

Mumsnet is a site for advice and support, you are welcome to discuss the facts of the news story but please bear in mind that this family could really use some moral support right now.

If nothing else, it should serve as a cautionary tale for people who are expecting, eh? Plan ahead if you can, as you never know what's around the corner. And make sure you have travel insurance.

We're all aware of that Rebecca but this and the other thread has been incredibly helpful in trying to piece together what's actually going on to try and prevent others being swindled.

Many of us have already said we wish the couple well and Dax of course, and it's Richard where the fault lies.

Deleting the original topic was counter productive it meant a lot of the information was lost - information people are taking forward to get this investigated (which is the right thing to do isn't it)

Thing is too many things are being swept under the 'not in the spirit of mumsnet' banner now. It doesn't have consistency. If I wanted a load of people going 'aw it's okay hun' and everything being sparkles and sunshine Id go the Netmums.

And you shouldn't be telling us what we have to focus on. I think it's incredibly inportant to stop things like this from happening. Vulnerable people are giving money they cannot afford.

That doesn't mean we care any less about Dax - it just means we can actually seperate the two.

Rebecca with respect, the vast majority of the first two threads were about the fundraiser and not the parents. A few posters tried to mock the appearance of the parents and they were very quickly shut down.

Surely the focus should be on the baby and the family and not on someone who has set up a fundraising page off his own back?

What? Why?

The baby and family seem pretty well sorted and not in need of 'focus'.

What kind of focus?

If I wanted a load of people going 'aw it's okay hun' and everything being sparkles and sunshine Id go the Netmums.

I agree. This site will lose people if they start going that way.

GraysAnalogy

And you shouldn't be telling us what we have to focus on. I think it's incredibly inportant to stop things like this from happening. Vulnerable people are giving money they cannot afford.

That doesn't mean we care any less about Dax - it just means we can actually seperate the two.

Completely agree.

It's so patronising though. You all investigating and saving people , but still pisstaking those who know the family and are actually donating, calling them huns. They don't want to be saved, on the funding page they are all saying they don't care where the money goes, it was a local thing and they want to help. And all this investigation and reporting and muddled information - it's not a charity so a lot of regulations don't apply.