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AIBU to obbsess over an ignored message?

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SalsaOnCrackers · 01/01/2015 05:45

A superior at work has helped me loads in my job and we get on famously. Few months back we exchanged numbers and we've reached a comfortable stage where we've gone for a couple quick coffees after work when he's in town. He's shared pictures of his lovely kids with me as well, so we've become quite friendly.

Today at work I sent him a message to say happy new year to him and his family and to thank him for all his help this year.

This was in the morning. And there has been no response at all.

This is jarring because he's always quick to reply and if he's busy he will say so and respond in more detail a few hours later.

Without going into detail I know he read the message and I know today wasn't a busy day at work for anybody. So it's apparent he just ignored the message deliberately.

Given the positive note things have been on, I don't understand why he just didn't reply?! I can't think of anything I may have done to offend so I'm completely puzzled here.

I know I shouldn't take this so seriously but I can't stop obsessing over it.

OP posts:
NoisyOyster · 02/01/2015 16:02
sonjadog · 02/01/2015 16:04

Did you confrontation him, Fan? Tell him how deeply he hurt your entirely platonic feelings?

Fanfeckintastic · 02/01/2015 16:12

No I decided not to bring it up in case I got upset sonja so I just changed the roster for January to give him the worst shifts and stormed out with my head held high Grin

ArsenicFaceCream · 02/01/2015 16:17

DH is at the other end of the (double) room I am in. I have asked him the same question 3 times in 5 minutes. No response. At all.

I am now obsessing.

AIBU?

DropYourSword · 02/01/2015 16:34

Throw your laptop at him. YANBU, that's just bad manners Arsenic

ArsenicFaceCream · 02/01/2015 16:35

But maybe his charger isn't plugged in?

Redglitter · 02/01/2015 16:42

Arsenic
phone 101 and LTB

andsmileimontherightpath · 02/01/2015 16:47

No ring 111 but be warned OP they dont always ring back straight away - as was suggested on another thread about a man taking pics on a soft play area

ArsenicFaceCream · 02/01/2015 16:47

Good idea!

ArsenicFaceCream · 02/01/2015 16:49

Good point path. If he holds his mobile at a funny angle AND continues to ignore me, I think it's only sensible to go straight to 999.

DropYourSword · 02/01/2015 16:51

I'd swerve that and go straight for the SWAT team, tbh.

ArsenicFaceCream · 02/01/2015 16:53

I'm a bit worried he'll accuse me of over-reacting.

But really it takes just two seconds to answer. He's only doing his tax return. It's not important. I've been waiting an hour. What choice do I have?

Anyone got the swat team's number?

ViviPru · 02/01/2015 17:10

AIBU to obbsess [sic] over an ignored AIBU thread?

Is the OP the same poster as Emerald Peepers from The Other Thread?
Precisely what was the open-ended 'work related' question at the end of her IM that could be interpreted as her attempting to arrange a rendez-vous?
Was his charger plugged in or not?

SO MANY unanswered questions. I guess we'll never find out Sad

andsmileimontherightpath · 02/01/2015 17:15

Personally I be in touch with the terminator - at least he always say 'I'LL BE BACK'

AIBU to obbsess over an ignored message?
CinnabarRed · 02/01/2015 17:18

I suspect the whole message, included work-related question, was "How are things working out with Anna these days? HAPPY NEW YEAR!"....

andsmileimontherightpath · 02/01/2015 17:23

might be right there cinnabar

Oh the irony of being over invested in someone else's overinvestment. I think I need to step away

Fanfeckintastic · 02/01/2015 18:03

Cinnabar are you the same poster that our suspect OP got very snappy with on the other thread too?

I thought you came across really helpful, I wonder did she recognize your name from the last thread?

I wish she'd come back!

ArsenicFaceCream · 02/01/2015 18:13

Cinnabar is the boss. Undercover.

Libitina · 02/01/2015 18:26

Is anyone else picturing the superior boss as a kind of Christian Grey character? Or is it just me? Blush

ArsenicFaceCream · 02/01/2015 18:34

I was picturing a younger (and completely disinterested) Hugh Bonneville, myself.

andsmileimontherightpath · 02/01/2015 18:35

I picture him as some quite remarkably plain looking guy, hair in side parting (wornt hat way or years) going slighly grey, always wears a blue shirt to the office.

ithoughtofitfirst · 02/01/2015 18:35

libitina

Omg YES.

Can't believe I am admitting this.

Fanfeckintastic · 02/01/2015 18:51

libitina yes!!

In fairness, I bet he's lovely! And probably a bit terrified!

Redglitter · 02/01/2015 18:51

I hate the word superior. There are people senior to me at my work but they're not superior

Bakeoffcakes · 02/01/2015 18:52

I'm imagining David Brent.

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