just sitting in car

[shggg245]

I live in a very remote spot just my house and fields - there's a small car park adjacent to my back garden. For the past 3 weeks a man has parked up and sat in his car from 10am until 5 ish. Engine not running - no lights when it's dark.

He literally just sits everyday including weekends. Don't think he's doing anything dodgey but just think it's really peculiar.

Aibu to ask if he's ok or should I just mind my own business?

Well done OP, fingers crossed they'll get to the bottom of it x

Vicars will only associate with naice, middle class pensioners, not actual real people

I hope the chap gets some help.

Oh, rubbish Hidden. So sorry for your dreadful view. It must be caused by a horrible experience.

OP sounds like you've done the right thing here. It all sounds rather disconcerting and whilst it's a free world, it's not your average behaviour for his safety (and also for your family's) you've done the right thing.

You have done the right thing.

I'd encourage anyone who finds themselves in a similar situation in the future to call the police sooner. You might help to locate a missing vulnerable and or suicidal person.

I hope they either find his family or a shelter place for him.

Poor man. Definitely smacks of depression to me. Glad you called 101.

OP please answer the nagging WiFi question!

Sorry WiFi is secure!

Has he arrived yet????

I too think you have done the right thing. Sitting in a car in a remote place for weeks on end is unusual behaviour and he could be homeless/missing or have MH issues.
I hope he gets the right help.

Is he there today?

Oh 'hidden' that's just not true! Our vicar is a delightfully kind woman who would go and help anyone in trouble. The one before her, a man, was also gentle and kindly. Perhaps you've met a snobbish one, but in seventy years of experience with vicars (heh heh sounds like a porn film title!) I've always found them to be the opposite of what you describe. So much so that they can be 'put upon' by some people and are too kind to rebuff anybody.

Yeah since 1045 been out so not sure if vicar or police been.

any more news op. do hope he is ok

You'd think if he just wanted to pass the time he'd pick different places to park in each day. Get a different view. You'd be bored senseless if you had to do that every day. I can't believe his mental state is quite that healthy. I hope you get to the bottom of this and that he's ok. The police will be better equipped to help him.

I worry too about homeless people and their state of mind, my friends brother has been missing since early last year and every time I read something like this I wonder could it be him?
Of course why should it be , there are hundreds of missing people out there but if people show some concern and compassion it may help them to deal with their troubles and even make contact with their family at home.
Maybe your scenery watcher is just thinking shggg245 I really hope your vicar can speak to him soon. I would feel worried and anxious too in your position

Maybe the spot has special sentimental memories etc. Has anyone been op?

The police rang to see if he's there. She said they'd send a patrol to here or his home purely from a welfare point of view - from what she said the car reg checks out to a relatively local address - of course that doesn't mean he's actually living there.

She said she considered it really odd behaviour and would follow up sensitively. He left at 1730 today. I hope we've done the right thing I'm now thinking we should've minded our own.

Don't be hard on yourself, shggg, you've handled an unfamiliar and unsettling situation with a lot of sensitivity, and with real concern for this man's wellbeing.

I am sure you have done the right thing. If he wanted complete privacy he wouldn't have come back after your husband spoke to him. Unless he is spending the time stoned he must be as aware of you as you are of him I would think. For all your sakes you needed outside people in this. No way is it usual behaviour.

Yeah I'm hoping he will understand that we're concerned for him - nothing more - at first I found it disconcerting but over the last few days it's been about his welfare.

However many times a think about this I still come to the conclusion that there must be something very wrong. Actually it'll be a total result if all's well. Thanks you guys have been ace.

Do you have BT wifi OP? As any BT subscriber can use your BT wifi as a hotspot. Maybe that's why he parks there?

Nah tried BT their super fast technology gizmos have yet to reach our neck of the woods! We're with talk-talk and don't even get me started on that!!

In fact if the poor bugger is trying to hack into my broadband the sheer bloody frustration of it continually fucking up will send him well and truely over the edge!

Truly - doh!