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AIBU?

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just sitting in car

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shggg245 · 31/12/2014 17:35

I live in a very remote spot just my house and fields - there's a small car park adjacent to my back garden. For the past 3 weeks a man has parked up and sat in his car from 10am until 5 ish. Engine not running - no lights when it's dark.

He literally just sits everyday including weekends. Don't think he's doing anything dodgey but just think it's really peculiar.

Aibu to ask if he's ok or should I just mind my own business?

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shggg245 · 31/12/2014 20:49

Yeah dh thinks he may have some mh issues. I do find it disconcerting though as I can clearly see him from my kitchen he's only parked about 10 feet away. I'm sure he's harmless just wish he'd go elsewhere. Nothing I can do though.

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Storytown · 31/12/2014 20:49

I's say there's definitely something "wrong". Probably that he needs help more than you do, so yes, I'd call the police to see if they can help him.

Or someone has a PI watching you? if so, they've spent a lot of money on it

GirlWithTheYellowHat · 31/12/2014 20:53

My first guess would have been a job loss but very strange behaviour indeed

HotLipsHoulihan · 31/12/2014 20:53

It's a bit odd but if he's not on your property and not 'watching' your house or showing any interest in you whatsoever, then he's perfectly entitled to his privacy and to be left alone. Doesn't sound like he's seeking out any interaction with you so I think I'd be tempted to mind my own business if I were you

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shggg245 · 31/12/2014 20:53

Lol storytown that did actually cross my mind!! Paranoid - must be my guilty conscience.

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NobodyLivesHere · 31/12/2014 20:54

My mum does similar when she's in a depression. It's sounds like he's having a crap time. A cup of tea and a kind word might mean a lot to him right now.

CatCushion · 31/12/2014 20:55

So he was all there Christmas day too?
Think it might be more than just his job he has lost. Think he might nees some help from SS.

Patrickstarxx · 31/12/2014 20:55

Sometimes I go and sit at a secluded bench when I'm feeling down and I need a good cry.

Maybe he's doing that?

Hobby2014 · 31/12/2014 20:57

As others have said I'd call 101 and ask them to pop by and see him.

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shggg245 · 31/12/2014 21:00

Hotlips that's what I've been telling myself for the past 3 weeks. It's private land but adopted so people occasionally do come to walk dogs but not for 7 hour daily stretches.

I'm concerned for his welfare and wondering wtf he's doing - but should maybe leave well alone and respect his right to sit in his car however odd I think it is.

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MrsCurrent · 31/12/2014 21:01

We have a little side street down the side of our house that someone was sitting in his car for hours at different times of day and night. I called the police in the end as he was creeping us out. Think this bloke was watching a neighbour for something but if you're isolated it sounds like your man might need some help one way or another.

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shggg245 · 31/12/2014 21:14

We were out Christmas day so not sure. If it's job loss related I'd surprised if he's there tomorrow as most people are off.

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HotLipsHoulihan · 31/12/2014 21:19

If there's a concern for welfare then I'd call the police non emergency line and give them his registration number

Coconutty · 31/12/2014 21:22

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Topseyt · 31/12/2014 21:37

It does sound very odd. I would be wary about approaching him because you never know quite what the situation is. It doesn't sound normal at all.

Take advice from the police 101 line, giving them his car registration number if you can get it surreptitiously.

maddening · 31/12/2014 22:50

There are plenty of lay-bys that are not directly outside an isolated house - it is intimidating and so brash it is odd - call 101.

DisgraceToTheYChromosome · 31/12/2014 22:56

How old is the car and what make? A recent plate (62 or later) and a UK or German marque (including Skoda) might be official. A 10 year old French or Asian clunker, probably not.

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shggg245 · 01/01/2015 11:34

He arrived this morning I'm gonna see how long he stays today. Just sitting not doing anything odd.

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Coconutty · 01/01/2015 11:48

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shggg245 · 01/01/2015 11:48

He's back not sure what time he arrived but noticed about half 10. See how long he stays today.

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shggg245 · 01/01/2015 11:51

I'll get husband to ask later - he's out shopping at the mo. I'm sure it's nothing but I just think it's really odd behaviour.

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SaucyJack · 01/01/2015 11:58

If your DH has experience in that branch then definitely send him out to have a word and see if he seems OK.

You may well be doing the chap a favour.

NorksEnormous · 01/01/2015 12:00

My first thought was job loss too

MassaAttack · 01/01/2015 12:06

How odd. I'm thinking depression here too.

I'd be wary about approaching him in case I exacerbated his situation, but then I have form for ballsing things up.

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shggg245 · 01/01/2015 12:06

Yeah husband thinks its 'obtuse' and will see if he's ok. The job thing seems unlikely now as most people who working 9-5 are off today.

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