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Help me out here/ urgent

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Kab13 · 31/12/2014 12:29

At a soft play, 90% sure there's aan taking photos of random children. Seem him sat on his phone with camera on. Told the managers don't seem to be doing much .
Not sure if he got a shot of my dd who ran infront of him. He's acting very shifty.
What do I do?
He's here with his son...

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Bogeyface · 31/12/2014 12:37

What happened to "trust your instincts"? If she is getting a funny vibe from him then why shouldnt she be worried?

There is a world of difference between a man obviously taking pictures of his own son and sitting shiftily hiding the fact he is using his camera and taking random pictures of kids who dont belong to him!

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Kab13 · 31/12/2014 12:37

I'd think it's just as weird. He's sat there on his own with his
Phone set on camera the whole time.
It's odd behaviour

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Bogeyface · 31/12/2014 12:37

I am thinking about it and yes, I do think a "what should I do?" type call to 111 wouldnt be inappropriate.

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Kab13 · 31/12/2014 12:38

His ds came over once and he put his phone away so doubt he's waiting to get a photo of him

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whois · 31/12/2014 12:38

why don't you concentrate on your own child rather than spying on this man.

WowserBowser · 31/12/2014 12:39

Yeah, I think Babies idea is probably right. I have my camera on all the time at certain things so I can get a shot of ds running about.

I hope no one has called 111 on me!

wantsaneasylife · 31/12/2014 12:39

I feel sorry for the poor bloke. I bet he feels really uncomfortable with you twitching away looking over his shoulder. He's a parent at a soft play taking pictures of his child and or the surroundings. As PP have said, would you be getting quite so aerated if he were female? Thought not.

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jollygoose · 31/12/2014 12:40

i still don1t get it, still dont know what an aan is and for the life of me cannot see any reason why he hould not use his camera if he wants to, its not as if the children are running about with no clothes on.

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Kab13 · 31/12/2014 12:40

I was concentrating on my child! It was when I was doing just that I noticed a man sat with his phone out looking at all the children and aiming it at them.
I could hear the camera clicking so either he's taking pictures of chairs or children.
I was genuinely really nervous when I posted, thanks for all the helpful advice

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TheFourthLobster · 31/12/2014 12:40

if you are that worried about it then why are you still there with your child?

Bogeyface · 31/12/2014 12:41

Wants I would feel the same if anyone took random pictures of kids with no apparent reason for it.

Even assuming that it is perfectly innocent, you dont take pictures of other peoples children without checking first, you just dont!

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weeblueberry · 31/12/2014 12:42

As far as I know she's not seen him taking multiple pictures of other children. Just holding his phone up with the camera app on.

WowserBowser · 31/12/2014 12:43

Grin Coconutty

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Kab13 · 31/12/2014 12:43

Bloody hell...attack

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Kab13 · 31/12/2014 12:44

Another lady has just approached the management about him.
That's 3 of us now but we are clearly all
Mental

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Mistlewoeandwhine · 31/12/2014 12:46

I don't think you're mental. It does sound odd.

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LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 31/12/2014 12:47

I don't know. On one hand, there's nothing untoward that can happen with parents properly supervising their children, ensuring that they're properly dressed, etc. On the other, he really shouldn't be photographing anybody else's children. It's odd behaviour but not illegal.

If kids are dressed for rough and tumble at soft play then there's no risk of knicker-flashing or nudity, is there? Is that what's bothering you?

If the manager thought it was odd then he would ask him to stop - he hasn't done that, OP, so I think you've just projected that 'odd' because you think it is.

If you feel that strongly then you could ask him not to take pictures of your own child, maybe other parents will follow suit.

CheckpointCharlie · 31/12/2014 12:47

I think it's odd and you are not allowed to take pics of any child at our local soft play place. I agree, trust your instincts.

But you have already told management so not sure what else you can do.

I wouldn't like it either OP.

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Sunna · 31/12/2014 12:48

It's perfectly legal to take photographs in a public space. If you aren't happy then leave.

Alisvolatpropiis · 31/12/2014 12:49

This is all totally happening right now. Biscuit