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To think nobody will believe it was an accident this time...

170 replies

RedFacedReindeer · 28/12/2014 19:42

...if I'm pregnant again?

NC. Anyway: DS, now five months, was a happy and statistically highly improbable accident. I had a copper coil in and though it had not moved and did not appear in any way defective, he nevertheless turned up. As DP and I were relatively new together, I'm a full-time student and we... aren't married yet, this caused much consternation with our friends and families. As over the years I've often said I'd like to have children relatively young, and DP has apparently said the same, there was some eyebrow raising that it was really an accident.

Anyway, everyone eventually got their heads round the idea, uni have let me take a year out, DS is now the apple of grandparents eye, DP and I have almost got over the shock/ got accustomed to the lack of sleep, and I'm looking for childminders in preparation for going back to studying next academic year. At some point I said to my mother it would be a shame there'd be such a big age gap before the next one (I really want to finish studying and get career established - 6 years before even trying) and she said 'just don't go there', as if I was suggesting taking another year out to have more.

Anyway, I now have a horrible feeling I know what the last four days of enhanced sense of smell and room spinning and terrible nausea feel like. And it's not norovirus. Going to POAS asap but SERIOUSLY. We've probably only dtd about ten times since he was born, and are using durex extra safe ffs! AND I'm breastfeeding. (Awaits barrage of 'you can't rely on that for contraception you know...)

If it comes back positive, WIBU to just tell everyone we've planned it like this as nobody will bloody believe we could have two such 'accidents' in quick succession??

(Fwiw though, dire financial and career and space in our tiny flat implications aside, I'd bloody love another baby Grin. Probably definitely getting ahead of myself though...)

OP posts:
Luciferbox · 29/12/2014 10:23

Any news op?

Sparrowlegs248 · 29/12/2014 10:28

Just RTFT - seriously woman POAS!!!!!

DennyDifferent · 29/12/2014 10:33

Happy peeing OP!

sillymillyb · 29/12/2014 10:33

Ahem! We are waiting here op!

BreeVDKamp · 29/12/2014 10:36

Oh pee already OP!!!

Writerwannabe83 · 29/12/2014 10:45

Just read the thread and now place marking Grin

I would love to fall accidentally pregnant because I know if DH and I try and plan for the right time then it will never happen Grin

Shamazeballs · 29/12/2014 10:48

Peeeeeeee for Christs sake Grin

Showy · 29/12/2014 10:49

I'm glad I didn't rely on bfing. When dd- cosleeping, demand fed from birth, no dummies, no formula, feeding 2 hourly at least day and night - was 11 weeks old I told dh I was ovulating. I just knew it, all signs there. 12 days later I had a period. Straight back to a 28 day, fertile cycle. Had I not known my own body, I could have been caught out. Midwife says she sees it a lot and it just isn't reliable enough given nutrition and health these days.

FaithLoveandGrace · 29/12/2014 10:53

Just read thread and excited for OP. Please update :) and I agree with others who've said it's better to have baby in med school than as a junior doctor.

Good luck getting the result you want!

MissDuke · 29/12/2014 10:57

I am not convinced op is going to get a bfp, but I reckon she should be ttc Grin Good luck op, I do hope you get the answer you are looking for, but I also think given the precautions you were taking that it is very unlikely - although when giving women contraceptive advice I do tell them that bf and condoms aren't reliable mind you! As a medical student, I am guessing you know that though Wink

SparklyReindeerShit · 29/12/2014 11:15

Placemarking, sorry op. Hope you get the result you want.

MinnieM1 · 29/12/2014 11:17

Oh FFS OP what are you doinngggg?!

Hurr1cane · 29/12/2014 11:38

Did you poas? It's unlikely to be positive but I'm hoping for you

iloveshortshorts · 29/12/2014 11:43

just read the full thread, good luck op

ohtheholidays · 29/12/2014 11:45

I had this happen with 3 of our 5DC,it's not unheard of OP.

3rd DC we were using condoms.
4th DC I was still breastfeeding 3rd DC and I was on the pill.
5th DC was the biggest surprise I was having the contraceptive injection.

Everyone in my family seems to be very fertile.They're all very loved by myself and DH,by each other and by all our family's.

Good Luck Reindeer Smile

dingalong · 29/12/2014 11:51

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TickleMyTitsTillFriday · 29/12/2014 12:05

No result?! Gah!

RedFacedReindeer · 29/12/2014 12:05

I did POAS, and it was a bfn. Obviously, as I started a bloody thread about it. I'm still horribly nauseous though .

I have to say though, this thread (and the fact that DP and I were horribly deflated earlier) has really made me think about whether our original plan to wait is actually the right thing to do. The posters who've pointed out that babies during medical school may actually be far easier than afterwards make a very good point! Thanks so much to everyone who's bothered to reply, and apologies for the anti-climax!

OP posts:
JeffVaderRunsTheDeathStar · 29/12/2014 12:16

Maybe try again if you still feel dodgy in a weeks time? Might just have been too early to test?

splodgeses · 29/12/2014 12:16

Sad for your bfn but I hope you poas again in a week to be sure!

splodgeses · 29/12/2014 12:17

I will probably still be lurking in a week waiting for you to retest

lem73 · 29/12/2014 12:18

I'm in total awe of anyone who could get through medical school with one baby never mind two! I'm feeling very inadequate now.

FaithLoveandGrace · 29/12/2014 12:19

Sorry to hear that red. You should definitely chat to your DP about your plans to wait :) good luck with whatever you decide.

Neeko · 29/12/2014 12:25

Sorry to hear that you didn't get the result you were hoping for. Good luck with whatever you decide. Smile

Tattiebogle · 29/12/2014 12:27

What is a bfn please?