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To think nobody will believe it was an accident this time...

170 replies

RedFacedReindeer · 28/12/2014 19:42

...if I'm pregnant again?

NC. Anyway: DS, now five months, was a happy and statistically highly improbable accident. I had a copper coil in and though it had not moved and did not appear in any way defective, he nevertheless turned up. As DP and I were relatively new together, I'm a full-time student and we... aren't married yet, this caused much consternation with our friends and families. As over the years I've often said I'd like to have children relatively young, and DP has apparently said the same, there was some eyebrow raising that it was really an accident.

Anyway, everyone eventually got their heads round the idea, uni have let me take a year out, DS is now the apple of grandparents eye, DP and I have almost got over the shock/ got accustomed to the lack of sleep, and I'm looking for childminders in preparation for going back to studying next academic year. At some point I said to my mother it would be a shame there'd be such a big age gap before the next one (I really want to finish studying and get career established - 6 years before even trying) and she said 'just don't go there', as if I was suggesting taking another year out to have more.

Anyway, I now have a horrible feeling I know what the last four days of enhanced sense of smell and room spinning and terrible nausea feel like. And it's not norovirus. Going to POAS asap but SERIOUSLY. We've probably only dtd about ten times since he was born, and are using durex extra safe ffs! AND I'm breastfeeding. (Awaits barrage of 'you can't rely on that for contraception you know...)

If it comes back positive, WIBU to just tell everyone we've planned it like this as nobody will bloody believe we could have two such 'accidents' in quick succession??

(Fwiw though, dire financial and career and space in our tiny flat implications aside, I'd bloody love another baby Grin. Probably definitely getting ahead of myself though...)

OP posts:
BabyDubsEverywhere · 28/12/2014 22:15

I am marking my place because I am (pathetically) excited by this!

Cataline · 28/12/2014 22:18

I'm just shocked you've managed to DTD 10 times since having a baby 5 months ago! Grin

2LittleFishes · 28/12/2014 22:20

...if you get a bfp tomorrow red then it makes for the most wanted 'accident' ever, seeing as mumsnet-ers want it so bad!

Keeping my fingers crossed Grin

Ohfourfoxache · 28/12/2014 22:21

no not place marking at all

DrLego · 28/12/2014 22:23

I think you are probably not pregnant. But I think you probably should have your second now.
Medical school lasts an eternity. I went in on a 5 year course rather than 4, it ended up a 7 year course due to child issues. It's absolutely not ideal but you have a baby already, and imagine ever trying to take time out later? I can look around and, though a large disadvantage to studying unless have good support, at least know I am unlikely to be wanting to take time out later on. Also, it doesn't really matter what anyone else thinks - your life, your family, your children, your future career.

naty1 · 28/12/2014 22:23

If condoms are 97% effective 3/100 pregnant in a yr.
So tiny chance in a month.
But then getting pg on coil you must both be very fertile.
Agree about doubling up with something else.
I could understand people being suspicious in the circumstances, or thinking you are very unlucky with contraception

ALittleFaith · 28/12/2014 22:27

I had symptoms like this and I had labyrinthitis! I did POAS (BFN) for reassurance. But yes, I like the let's discuss your contraceptive choices first! response to anyone who dares to ask if a pregnancy was planned. So bloody rude!

SophieBarringtonWard · 28/12/2014 22:30

DH was on a four year grad course, one of his friends had two babies during the course without taking time out. God knows how she coped. Her parents moved in for childcare.

PiperIsTerrysChoclateOrange · 28/12/2014 22:32

If you are pregnant would an abortion be an option.

Coumarin · 28/12/2014 22:36

No they won't believe it's an accident. I don't. You're way too excited and eager to have people on here tell you you're pregnant and congratulations etc. and if you were that arsed about avoiding a pregnancy you'd be on the pill. So I'm guessing that's what everyone else will think too. Not saying you should care but you did ask.

JamaicanMeEatMincePies · 28/12/2014 22:48

This is what tesco is open 24 hrs for... Just sayin' Wink

Muchtoomuchtodo · 28/12/2014 22:50

Even supermarkets close on a Sunday night.

Is is Sunday today isn't it?! (I've completely lost track!)

OkyDoke · 28/12/2014 22:55

Good luck OP! Hope you get the result you want!

RedPony · 28/12/2014 22:59

Ooooo I'm pulling up my chair for tomorrow too :)

chasingtherainbow · 28/12/2014 23:04

Op, I was bloody excited reading your first post... scroll down and you are doing it TOMORROW!?

Come on and poas already!

TheBooMonster · 28/12/2014 23:09

lol, with DD I had had an implant removed a year early and switched back to the pill due to the damned thing turning me into a homicidal bitch, trying to convince family that falling pregnant wasn't planned was difficult... This bump is very much planned even if I expected it to take much longer than it did

What ever the result I hope it all works out, and whether it was an accident or not is really no business of anyones, a baby is a blessing.

MushroomSoup · 29/12/2014 07:55

I got pregnant the wrong side of 40, with a Mirena coil, after intensive chemo when I was meant to be menopausal!

M27J5M · 29/12/2014 08:09

Hope you get the result you want after poas Smile

MammaTJ · 29/12/2014 08:17

I had the opposite problem!

Fell pregnant on first night with DP. This had been discussed!

I had been married, had baby two years later and still ended up a single parent due to ex being a cheating scum bag! I wanted another baby, met DP on line. Spoke on the phone a lot, finally met and got pregnant that night!

Then had DS 54 weeks after DD!

A few people think I tricked DP in to getting me pregnant. I didn't, I was very open about it! We planned both DC! Very risky, but I needed a baby and wasn't bothered whether the father hung around!

10 years on, he is still here!

People struggle to believe we planned a baby so quickly and another so soon after, but we did!

Good luck OP!

CornChips · 29/12/2014 08:22

POAS!!!!! (Have to live vicariously, no more for me).

Singsongmama · 29/12/2014 08:25

Good luck op!

Cerisier · 29/12/2014 08:26

Good luck OP! I am another one hoping you get the result you want!

Fluffycloudland77 · 29/12/2014 08:30

Blatant place marking.

elspethmcgillicuddy · 29/12/2014 08:37

You can rely on breastfeeding as long as you are EXCLUSIVELY breastfeeding (so no top up feeds with formula at all), less than 6m postpartum and haven't yet had a period. If you meet all of those criteria it is extremely unlikely you are pregnant.

Stealthpolarbear · 29/12/2014 08:39

Between appointments for my coil I was told condoms are not contraceptives