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To think nobody will believe it was an accident this time...

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RedFacedReindeer · 28/12/2014 19:42

...if I'm pregnant again?

NC. Anyway: DS, now five months, was a happy and statistically highly improbable accident. I had a copper coil in and though it had not moved and did not appear in any way defective, he nevertheless turned up. As DP and I were relatively new together, I'm a full-time student and we... aren't married yet, this caused much consternation with our friends and families. As over the years I've often said I'd like to have children relatively young, and DP has apparently said the same, there was some eyebrow raising that it was really an accident.

Anyway, everyone eventually got their heads round the idea, uni have let me take a year out, DS is now the apple of grandparents eye, DP and I have almost got over the shock/ got accustomed to the lack of sleep, and I'm looking for childminders in preparation for going back to studying next academic year. At some point I said to my mother it would be a shame there'd be such a big age gap before the next one (I really want to finish studying and get career established - 6 years before even trying) and she said 'just don't go there', as if I was suggesting taking another year out to have more.

Anyway, I now have a horrible feeling I know what the last four days of enhanced sense of smell and room spinning and terrible nausea feel like. And it's not norovirus. Going to POAS asap but SERIOUSLY. We've probably only dtd about ten times since he was born, and are using durex extra safe ffs! AND I'm breastfeeding. (Awaits barrage of 'you can't rely on that for contraception you know...)

If it comes back positive, WIBU to just tell everyone we've planned it like this as nobody will bloody believe we could have two such 'accidents' in quick succession??

(Fwiw though, dire financial and career and space in our tiny flat implications aside, I'd bloody love another baby Grin. Probably definitely getting ahead of myself though...)

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tobysmum77 · 28/12/2014 21:32

lol but the rest of you are decided. I'm saying if op is telling the truth it's highly unlikely.

tobysmum77 · 28/12/2014 21:35

and personally tmi maybe but I used them solely (and properly) for 7 years. I then dtd once without and got pregnant with dd1.

They are unreliable usually because people don't use them properly.

But of course nothing is 100% so it is possible.

VixxenPlusAllTheOtherReindeers · 28/12/2014 21:38

Place marking Grin

RabbitSaysWoof · 28/12/2014 21:38
MrsHathaway · 28/12/2014 21:42

Wait until the morning, then hie thee hence to a Pound Shop or similar and you will get two or three tests for a pound. They are no less accurate than First Response, in fact they are more accurate in my experience.

She has a point. Condoms are pretty bloody brilliant, especially in combination with sheer exhaustion and ebf. A virus far more likely.

If it is bfn, will you try again, do you think?

SanityClause · 28/12/2014 21:43

I fell pregnant on the mirena coil, tobysmum, which is more effective than condoms.

You personal experience doesn't change the reliability of a birth control method, you know.

Quitelikely · 28/12/2014 21:43

What is POAS?

Shesparkles · 28/12/2014 21:45

POAS = Pee On A Stick, ie pregnancy test Grin

Quitelikely · 28/12/2014 21:48

Ooooooh I see!

I was thinking the P was purchase!

DixieNormas · 28/12/2014 21:51

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Muchtoomuchtodo · 28/12/2014 21:53

In this case it could be P then POAS Quitelikely!

Good luck op. If your are pg again, please update us on some of the Shock comments that you're anticipating, and your best retorts (as you've got some time to get them ready!)

DixieNormas · 28/12/2014 21:54

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jaggythistle · 28/12/2014 21:54

Not even a 24 hour supermarket around?

I got mine from Asda. :-)

Yes people love to ask, i had a grumble in chat the other day about everyone asking if I'm expecting DC3 on purpose. Hmm

LostOnLand · 28/12/2014 21:57

I've had a couple of scares, absolutely convinced I'd be pregnant, loads of symptoms - but I wasn't so it may just be just adjusting hormones or another reason. Add the mini pill, or injection if you can while BF, an added layer of protection and piece of mind.

Neeko · 28/12/2014 22:01

Ooh. Good luck op!

Starlightbright1 · 28/12/2014 22:01

grabbing a comfy seat for the wait.

MrsWolowitz · 28/12/2014 22:02

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giraffesCantFlyWithReindeer · 28/12/2014 22:04

haha good on you for saying that to rude mw

MaccaPaccaismyNemesis · 28/12/2014 22:05

Do garages sell tests? They should do!

OnlyWantsOne · 28/12/2014 22:06

Hope you get the result you both want. Bugger any one else. Good luck x

lem73 · 28/12/2014 22:07

I think you're possibly so worried about the consequences of getting pregnant again you may be reading too much into things. I was like that when my boys were little because I was terrified of getting pregnant again. Then years later I ignored every pregnancy symptom when I was actually pregnant with dd. I'd gone through so many scares I'd learned to ignore the possible signs! I do agree with the poster who said the condom is highly effective if used properly but there's no point in speculating. Do the test and good luck! Either way it will all be fine.

Allstoppedup · 28/12/2014 22:07

Lurks also

RaisingMen · 28/12/2014 22:10

Lurking Grin

RedFacedReindeer · 28/12/2014 22:15

Flattered and slightly disconcerted to find so many people waiting for results! DS has finally gone to sleep so I am following him but will update tomorrow as I sniffle gently at my inevitable bfn.

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