we married so quickly and she might feel left out. She is 23, not 13. People don't tend to feel 'left out' of getting married.
Every single other couple in our family married under 20, so this is why it is noteworthy. Really? I wonder how you would feel if they divorced because they got married before they were ready, would that be noteworthy too? You know... "oh we don't get divorced in this family, it's embarrassing!"
I think if I was her I would feel sad that her boyfriend's brother proposed whereas hers has not. Perhaps she is a bit more ... you know ... mature? Perhaps she doesn't see people getting married when she isn't as something to me sad about?
So you are projecting then, without having a reason to do so. Or perhaps YOU feel embarrassed that your db is living with his gf & isn't married.
in America weddings are a huge thing, you get proposal videos, showers, parties We know...and there is no need for the whole world to know what is happening in your life to such a huge degree...nothing is small & personal in America. Very OTT & competitive in lots of ways!
The thing is, imo people put more effort into the proposal than the actual marriage. As long as the ring is big enough & the gesture is big, the ceremony even bigger, who cares about the actual marriage.
My dh proposed by sending me flowers with 'marry me' written on the card & hiding my ring (that I choose) under my pillow
I can understand being a bit curious about why it hasn't happened yet if they are a committed couple, talking about marriage/weddings. This really isn't just mere curiosity though, is it?