To wonder why my brother hasn't proposed to his gf yet?

[amibeingunreas]

They have been together for about 5 1/2 years, they both want to get married one day as far as i can know.

We got married at 19 so perhaps i'm a bit bias but do you think 5 1/2 years is too long to just be 'in a relationship'?

they are 23 and 26.

J

If they were ten years older, I'd say make sure she knows what his plans are, make sure she knows that he's what she wants etc.

but they're so young.

I had a bf who asked me to marry him at 23 and I panicked and ended it.

At 19 you were practically a child bride!

MYOB sounds like they are perfectly happy together in a LTR.

Because maybe at age 23 they wouldn't want to be young parents, having many kids and struggling to get by. Just maybe they have goals and ambitions and want to do so much more. Not sure why it's your business anyway.

What? Why should she be embarrassed? and why shouldn't she propose to him if she wants to get married?

I don't understand why she would be embarassed? She's in a loving long term relationships and lives with somebody she loves, what's to be embrarassed about?

DH and I got married at 24 and have been married for 5 years, some say we were too young but it was right for us. Our good friends have been in a relationship for ten years, own a house and are very happy but not married. My aunt has been with her partner for 40 years, they have three children but never married. I don't think either of them has ever felt embrarassed about their lives.

I don't get the GF being embarrassed, unless you keep banging on about it to her (which would be weird and embarrassing).
I've been with my DH for 27 years but only married for the last 14 years. We've managed to have children despite being aged.

I thought she might be embarrassed because we married so quickly and she might feel left out.

Seems you want to make yourself the object of her envy but I think it's the other way around

Has the girlfriend expressed embarrassment? And what if it's she who isn't interested in getting married?

It's very unlikely they've not had a discussion about it between the two of them and frankly its nowt to do with anyone else...

Wtf?! I doubt very much shes comparing her relationship set up to yours!! You sound a little self-centred.

I am unmarried (very much by choice - mutual choice) and we have two bastard children as well.

Bite me!!

Yabu , me & my DP have been together 15 yrs and have 2 DC's together why is it embarrassing ? not everyone wants to get married doesn't mean they are any less comitted to each other .

I thought she might be embarrassed because we married so quickly and she might feel left out.

I'm sure the more time she spends with you, the better she feels about herself.

She's probably wishing you would just shut up, OP, but is too polite to say so. I don't think your marriage will have inspired envy, do you particularly? Why do you care so much about what a couple choose to do?

Maybe you're now wondering what the rush was to get married at 19?

Further to my earlier response and taking your additional details into account:

The poor girl is clearly putting off having you as an IL, for as long as is humanly possible.

None of this has been said to her, never mentioned it, just I googled it and lots of people said it was embarrassing, so it made me think. Lots of likes like 'weddingbee' say if you're not married in a few years it is embarrassing.

perhaps it is them that is embarrassing!

If it was my DB i would probably wonder why they hadn't got married yet. then I would ask him.

They are so young. MYOB. My cousin and DP have been together 11 years and just got engaged, they got together late teens. I think it's very sensible to wait until they are ready.

Why did you google it? How odd and obsessive?

are you on glue?

How do you know they both want to get married?

Are you basing your opinion on anything at all except "I got married quickly, therefore everyone else must be wanting to get married"?

What did you Google OP?

You say you goggled it and I am bemused as to what "it" actually is?

I've been with dp for almost 21 years. Engaged for more than 20 of those. Should I be embarrassed?

Why bother being engaged when you quite clearly have no intention to marry? You must be embarrassed/bothered about it in some way as you have decided to take a step towards marriage, to make the relationship look more serious or committed or whatever. If you were truly not bothered you would just be in a LTR instead of pretending you will one day be married.